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Yes. See cara for the list. For some reason she put herself on there 3 times. I am not sure what that is about.
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I am an absolute prude but (having had a booty call many years ago ... as in 12 plus) I feel like booty calls are just a reason to fill in something you are personally lacking (good sex, love, self esteem etc) and if you are in an LTR of any kind, legal or not you owe it to your partner to break it off long before a booty call happens unless a poly amory situation has been hammered out in ADVANCE). If yer single and free to mingle then knock your damn socks off.
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Heh I just naturally assumed this thread was not about cheating.
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P.S. my two cents: I have no issue with the "booty call" and don't see it as a moral concern. I don't think you have to be in love to enjoy and be enjoyed by another person. I try not to forget that although I'm a human with all sorts of highfalutin ideas about love (yadda yadda), I'm also an animal with animal drives and an animal nature. I'd rather have a booty call than uhaul with somebody incompatable just because I have my lust-blinders on.
I do debate (with myself) whether mutual use is a dark aim and whether that's what casual sex ends up being. I've been accused of "using" even beloved people for sex, so I wring my hands a little about that. And sex can be a great drug - a great painkiller - while it lasts. So on that level, I do *try* to stay on the mutual enjoyment/pleasure side of things and away from the use side. Then again, mutual use can be pretty hot. So my verdict: anything goes but I recommend people try not to do another person damage.
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I should have added, I was always honest and up front from day one with everyone I dated. I wanted nothing long term I just wanted to have fun. If they agreed and were willing then we could go from there. I would not lead someone on in any way. And I would not purposely hurt someone or ever play with someones feelings.
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I always still felt empty, alone, un cared for, and used. I felt a part of me die in the exchange. Didn't matter if I agreed to the terms of engagement. I prefer a relationship, even if short lived. I realized long ago that I don't see sex with another person as just a way to let off tension or steam. I need a soul connection. |
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Booty calls seem to be the norm for young folks, as I have passed the quarter century mark, I wanted quality not quantity. Thought I found it a couple of times.
I was mistaken. Now past the half century mark, spending 16 years with one person has taught me book full of lessons. Dating has shown me even more lessons. Now although I foolishly believe the love of my life is looking for me too, I have to face facts. I would love to visit butches all over the country and ask them to try on my glass motorcycle boot, lol, fairy tale reference, BUT... I'm freaking tired of the BS. I'm happy just teasing JAGG, chitchating with everyone. She/He's not gonna knock on my window and play his/her guitar, or send me flowers just because ... great sex?? It's a myth. Yes I miss the tlc, but frankly I am exhausted from jumping hoops to partake. Some lucky folks out there have the whole enchilada, some of us get chips without the salsa. I want nachos with all the trimmings. ![]() |
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When I was in my early 20's I was a Marine and traveled all the time,I was either just back from a deployment, getting ready to be deployed , or deployed somewhere, so I never wanted anything long term. If I was attracted to someone and she wanted to have some fun that was all I wanted. And it worked out great for me, and it was a very wise thing to do in hindsight. That way when I deployed I was free to do as I wanted. And no one was longing for me to get back to them, and I was able to live in the moment and not be wishing my lover was there etc. So basically every one was a booty call to me.
When I got out I moved to Tulsa AKA femmelessville USA and thought I would settle down find a good femme and get married maybe start a family, like my twin did and all my other siblings. My twin has been with the same femme for 24 yrs. I however am not so lucky in love so to speak. The dream of getting married and having a family etc is fading . The family thing I gave up on that years ago. But I still held out hope of finding someone to spend my life with. But here lately I'm thinking maybe I should rethink all that. It's been nothing but one dead end disappoint after another. Plus I look at some people and the "partnerships" they are in and they are soooo unhappy and tied to the ball and chain, they are just miserable. Or this one is cheating on that one, or this one is abusive to that one etc. Sometimes I think I don't want any part of that, and I am better off and maybe I am really lucky that I have been alone all these years. Watching someone devote 19 yrs to someone else only to have them run off with another and leave them broke and broken. Nothing to show for 19 yrs except a broken heart. I know some people have been together a long time and don't cheat and are not abusive , but are they really happy? If they were deeply honest with themselves are they really truely happy , as happy as I am? I don't know. Maybe I don't know what I want anymore. But I have really been thinking more and more that maybe I should go back to my old way of dating. Reading this booty call thread, really makes me think maybe that is the way to go for me. I don't know.
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