Butch/Butch Theory

Andrew, Jr. · 04-16-2010, 12:42 PM

Love is love. Live your life as what you want and desire. Life is so short.

KayCee · 04-16-2010, 01:36 PM

Whatever will come, will come
Whatever will happen, will happen
Whatever will be, will be

Que Sera, Sera!

Martina · 04-16-2010, 05:34 PM

Well, i fetishize butch on butch. It's just hot.

i once got seriously chastised because i couldn't stop looking at this hot hot hot threesome of young butches at a play party. It was worth it. OMG.

i have got some shit from femmes for dating a femme. i mean some serious shaming stuff. i wish they just thought, oh, there goes a lesbian. Really homophobic reactions. "Ewwwwww" i got several times. This is LIVE. No computer to hide behind. i got that online -- in chat -- though too. i have heard things like, "IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII don't do Ma'ams." i don't know what to say to that except, good, that leaves more for me.

christie · 04-16-2010, 06:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martina

Well, i fetishize butch on butch. It's just hot.

i once got seriously chastised because i couldn't stop looking at this hot hot hot threesome of young butches at a play party. It was worth it. OMG.

i have got some shit from femmes for dating a femme. i mean some serious shaming stuff. i wish they just thought, oh, there goes a lesbian. Really homophobic reactions. "Ewwwwww" i got several times. This is LIVE. No computer to hide behind. i got that online -- in chat -- though too. i have heard things like, "IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII don't do Ma'ams." i don't know what to say to that except, good, that leaves more for me.

Amen! Amen!!

I also thinks its just hawt - and will just tell folks that I am objectifying them!

I don't understand the very rigid perceptions people have concerning butch/butch or femme/femme. I didn't give up my "lesbian card" when I embraced that I fit into the femme category. Hell, I probably salivate over women more than Jess does!

I really wish that we, as a LGBTIQ (etc) community could stop being so critical and judgmental of one another - how do we expect the rest of the world to embrace our diversity when we don't practice what we preach?

shadows papa · 04-16-2010, 08:08 PM

I have to freely admit that when I first became a part of the online community that has blessed me with so many interesting caring friends and acquaintances,my knee jerk reaction to butch-butch was a big ole "YUK!" But after sitting with this and realizing it was a homophobic reaction I asked myself a simple question; "Who are you to judge what two or more consenting adults do in their bedroom or out of it,or to question what attracts them to another person?" The answer was,and is "nobody". That was a very freeing thing for me and allowed me to grow and more fully embrace the never ending diversity of our community. Just my .02. Shad

tiggs · 04-16-2010, 09:42 PM

For me having my formative queer years in a very much lesbian/andro community I really didn't have any exposure to the B-F dynamic until later in life . I have to admit when I finally found other butch/femme queers I was kinda jealous when I would see the butch-butch dynamic. Mostly due to the fact that I couldn't find a butch that was into femmes, so you see, it seemed quite unfair that another butch could have one when you all seemed in such short supply already Now that I am all growed up and married to my handsome Husbutch I don't mind at all

Galahad · 05-02-2010, 11:04 PM

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If you happen to be looking for something try it. We wish we knew where this b4b community is. Sort of the mythical lost land of butches, we hear about it but no one knows where it really is. Nice to daydream about it sometimes. It's like the lost tribe of Amazons.

Reader · 05-06-2012, 01:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martina

Well, i fetishize butch on butch. It's just hot.

i once got seriously chastised because i couldn't stop looking at this hot hot hot threesome of young butches at a play party. It was worth it. OMG.

i have got some shit from femmes for dating a femme. i mean some serious shaming stuff. i wish they just thought, oh, there goes a lesbian. Really homophobic reactions. "Ewwwwww" i got several times. This is LIVE. No computer to hide behind. i got that online -- in chat -- though too. i have heard things like, "IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII don't do Ma'ams." i don't know what to say to that except, good, that leaves more for me.

Interesting post and thread.

I was once at a public play party and I began watching a scene between a boi sub/bottom and a Butch Top.

The Butch Top had negotiated in advance with the boi's Owner, another Butch Top, and was actually borrowing the boi for the scene.

So, here's the tableau: me (a Butch Top) watching a boi be topped by a Butch Top while the boi's owner, a third Butch Top stands with a look of satisfaction, nodding, while the first Butch Top flogs the daylights out of the boi with two floggers at once, one in each hand, against a saw horse, and so on.

It was a great scene and it unfolded beautifully and slow. It was memorable.

I never really thought about if/how the Butch/boi couple had to deal with shit from others. There was just some intense energy between the couple that you could see and feel as the 'borrower' Butch flogged the boi as the Butch Owner watched nearby. And the aftercare between the Butch Owner and the boi was good to discreetly watch, too.

04-16-2010, 01:36 PM	#2
KayCee Member How Do You Identify?: Multifaceted Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: It's a secret Relationship Status: And from my lips hye drew the hallelujah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow clicking my heels Posts: 732 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,646 Thanked 1,722 Times in 521 Posts Rep Power: 8635875	Whatever will come, will come Whatever will happen, will happen Whatever will be, will be Que Sera, Sera! __________________ "Being Femme means my feminism and my femininity walk hand in hand "

04-16-2010, 08:08 PM	#5
shadows papa Member How Do You Identify?: With a Warning Label Preferred Pronoun?: Her Bastard Relationship Status: Peaceful Easy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Back Where I Come From Posts: 699 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,223 Thanked 1,643 Times in 484 Posts Rep Power: 3193789	I have to freely admit that when I first became a part of the online community that has blessed me with so many interesting caring friends and acquaintances,my knee jerk reaction to butch-butch was a big ole "YUK!" But after sitting with this and realizing it was a homophobic reaction I asked myself a simple question; "Who are you to judge what two or more consenting adults do in their bedroom or out of it,or to question what attracts them to another person?" The answer was,and is "nobody". That was a very freeing thing for me and allowed me to grow and more fully embrace the never ending diversity of our community. Just my .02. Shad __________________ "Cry,cuss,sling snot, whatever. Just KEEP PEDALING!!" Shad

04-16-2010, 12:42 PM	#1
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Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,283 Times in 4,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Well, i fetishize butch on butch. It's just hot. i once got seriously chastised because i couldn't stop looking at this hot hot hot threesome of young butches at a play party. It was worth it. OMG. i have got some shit from femmes for dating a femme. i mean some serious shaming stuff. i wish they just thought, oh, there goes a lesbian. Really homophobic reactions. "Ewwwwww" i got several times. This is LIVE. No computer to hide behind. i got that online -- in chat -- though too. i have heard things like, "IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII don't do Ma'ams." i don't know what to say to that except, good, that leaves more for me.

04-16-2010, 09:42 PM	#6
tiggs Member How Do You Identify?: femme submissive Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: married and collared to Converse Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: canada Posts: 359 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,456 Thanked 726 Times in 248 Posts Rep Power: 2288328	For me having my formative queer years in a very much lesbian/andro community I really didn't have any exposure to the B-F dynamic until later in life . I have to admit when I finally found other butch/femme queers I was kinda jealous when I would see the butch-butch dynamic. Mostly due to the fact that I couldn't find a butch that was into femmes, so you see, it seemed quite unfair that another butch could have one when you all seemed in such short supply already Now that I am all growed up and married to my handsome Husbutch I don't mind at all

05-02-2010, 11:04 PM	#7
Galahad Member How Do You Identify?: do I have to? Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: I.E. Southern California Posts: 425 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,300 Thanked 339 Times in 151 Posts Rep Power: 1446604	butchonbutch dot ning If you happen to be looking for something try it. We wish we knew where this b4b community is. Sort of the mythical lost land of butches, we hear about it but no one knows where it really is. Nice to daydream about it sometimes. It's like the lost tribe of Amazons.