Butch/Butch Theory

Martina · 04-16-2010, 05:34 PM

Well, i fetishize butch on butch. It's just hot.

i once got seriously chastised because i couldn't stop looking at this hot hot hot threesome of young butches at a play party. It was worth it. OMG.

i have got some shit from femmes for dating a femme. i mean some serious shaming stuff. i wish they just thought, oh, there goes a lesbian. Really homophobic reactions. "Ewwwwww" i got several times. This is LIVE. No computer to hide behind. i got that online -- in chat -- though too. i have heard things like, "IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII don't do Ma'ams." i don't know what to say to that except, good, that leaves more for me.

christie · 04-16-2010, 06:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martina

Well, i fetishize butch on butch. It's just hot.

i once got seriously chastised because i couldn't stop looking at this hot hot hot threesome of young butches at a play party. It was worth it. OMG.

i have got some shit from femmes for dating a femme. i mean some serious shaming stuff. i wish they just thought, oh, there goes a lesbian. Really homophobic reactions. "Ewwwwww" i got several times. This is LIVE. No computer to hide behind. i got that online -- in chat -- though too. i have heard things like, "IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII don't do Ma'ams." i don't know what to say to that except, good, that leaves more for me.

Amen! Amen!!

I also thinks its just hawt - and will just tell folks that I am objectifying them!

I don't understand the very rigid perceptions people have concerning butch/butch or femme/femme. I didn't give up my "lesbian card" when I embraced that I fit into the femme category. Hell, I probably salivate over women more than Jess does!

I really wish that we, as a LGBTIQ (etc) community could stop being so critical and judgmental of one another - how do we expect the rest of the world to embrace our diversity when we don't practice what we preach?

shadows papa · 04-16-2010, 08:08 PM

I have to freely admit that when I first became a part of the online community that has blessed me with so many interesting caring friends and acquaintances,my knee jerk reaction to butch-butch was a big ole "YUK!" But after sitting with this and realizing it was a homophobic reaction I asked myself a simple question; "Who are you to judge what two or more consenting adults do in their bedroom or out of it,or to question what attracts them to another person?" The answer was,and is "nobody". That was a very freeing thing for me and allowed me to grow and more fully embrace the never ending diversity of our community. Just my .02. Shad

tiggs · 04-16-2010, 09:42 PM

For me having my formative queer years in a very much lesbian/andro community I really didn't have any exposure to the B-F dynamic until later in life . I have to admit when I finally found other butch/femme queers I was kinda jealous when I would see the butch-butch dynamic. Mostly due to the fact that I couldn't find a butch that was into femmes, so you see, it seemed quite unfair that another butch could have one when you all seemed in such short supply already Now that I am all growed up and married to my handsome Husbutch I don't mind at all

Galahad · 05-02-2010, 11:04 PM

butchonbutch dot ning

If you happen to be looking for something try it. We wish we knew where this b4b community is. Sort of the mythical lost land of butches, we hear about it but no one knows where it really is. Nice to daydream about it sometimes. It's like the lost tribe of Amazons.

swagger · 11-11-2010, 01:47 AM

ohhh zomg but i find butches hot, hot, HAWT! mostly though, i want to be them, rather than fuck them. but i don't see anything wrong with any adult being with another adult. butch on butch? beautiful.

naturlover_52 · 11-11-2010, 01:50 PM

I have been out for 10 yrs and this is my whole life.....being a middle to a soft butch and being w/ a butch...Never thought I would find one that just loves me for me. WELL Now I have she is in Conn....but wants to move out to CA. She was born in Britain but moved to RI when she was 14 and then to SD and now to Conn. but she wants to move out to Calif to be w/ me. Never been this deep in love w/ someone before....having to pinch myself all the time...is this real.

:bunchflowers :

Reader · 05-06-2012, 01:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martina

Well, i fetishize butch on butch. It's just hot.

i once got seriously chastised because i couldn't stop looking at this hot hot hot threesome of young butches at a play party. It was worth it. OMG.

i have got some shit from femmes for dating a femme. i mean some serious shaming stuff. i wish they just thought, oh, there goes a lesbian. Really homophobic reactions. "Ewwwwww" i got several times. This is LIVE. No computer to hide behind. i got that online -- in chat -- though too. i have heard things like, "IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII don't do Ma'ams." i don't know what to say to that except, good, that leaves more for me.

Interesting post and thread.

I was once at a public play party and I began watching a scene between a boi sub/bottom and a Butch Top.

The Butch Top had negotiated in advance with the boi's Owner, another Butch Top, and was actually borrowing the boi for the scene.

So, here's the tableau: me (a Butch Top) watching a boi be topped by a Butch Top while the boi's owner, a third Butch Top stands with a look of satisfaction, nodding, while the first Butch Top flogs the daylights out of the boi with two floggers at once, one in each hand, against a saw horse, and so on.

It was a great scene and it unfolded beautifully and slow. It was memorable.

I never really thought about if/how the Butch/boi couple had to deal with shit from others. There was just some intense energy between the couple that you could see and feel as the 'borrower' Butch flogged the boi as the Butch Owner watched nearby. And the aftercare between the Butch Owner and the boi was good to discreetly watch, too.

04-16-2010, 08:08 PM	#3
shadows papa Member How Do You Identify?: With a Warning Label Preferred Pronoun?: Her Bastard Relationship Status: Peaceful Easy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Back Where I Come From Posts: 699 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,223 Thanked 1,643 Times in 484 Posts Rep Power: 3193789	I have to freely admit that when I first became a part of the online community that has blessed me with so many interesting caring friends and acquaintances,my knee jerk reaction to butch-butch was a big ole "YUK!" But after sitting with this and realizing it was a homophobic reaction I asked myself a simple question; "Who are you to judge what two or more consenting adults do in their bedroom or out of it,or to question what attracts them to another person?" The answer was,and is "nobody". That was a very freeing thing for me and allowed me to grow and more fully embrace the never ending diversity of our community. Just my .02. Shad __________________ "Cry,cuss,sling snot, whatever. Just KEEP PEDALING!!" Shad

11-11-2010, 01:47 AM	#6
swagger Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch daddy Preferred Pronoun?: i dont care. Relationship Status: happy Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: crush zone Posts: 57 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 43 Thanked 126 Times in 42 Posts Rep Power: 210973	ohhh zomg but i find butches hot, hot, HAWT! mostly though, i want to be them, rather than fuck them. but i don't see anything wrong with any adult being with another adult. butch on butch? beautiful. __________________ unapologetically butch

11-11-2010, 01:50 PM	#7
naturlover_52 Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch/bi Preferred Pronoun?: she and her are just fine....Sweetcheeks hey you Relationship Status: seeing someone long distance but soon will be both in Ca love her very much Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: So Calif East San Gabrielle Valley aka the land of shake and bake Posts: 108 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 85 Thanked 89 Times in 44 Posts Rep Power: 3426	butch/butch I have been out for 10 yrs and this is my whole life.....being a middle to a soft butch and being w/ a butch...Never thought I would find one that just loves me for me. WELL Now I have she is in Conn....but wants to move out to CA. She was born in Britain but moved to RI when she was 14 and then to SD and now to Conn. but she wants to move out to Calif to be w/ me. Never been this deep in love w/ someone before....having to pinch myself all the time...is this real.:bunchflowers :

04-16-2010, 05:34 PM	#1
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,283 Times in 4,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Well, i fetishize butch on butch. It's just hot. i once got seriously chastised because i couldn't stop looking at this hot hot hot threesome of young butches at a play party. It was worth it. OMG. i have got some shit from femmes for dating a femme. i mean some serious shaming stuff. i wish they just thought, oh, there goes a lesbian. Really homophobic reactions. "Ewwwwww" i got several times. This is LIVE. No computer to hide behind. i got that online -- in chat -- though too. i have heard things like, "IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII don't do Ma'ams." i don't know what to say to that except, good, that leaves more for me.

04-16-2010, 09:42 PM	#4
tiggs Member How Do You Identify?: femme submissive Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: married and collared to Converse Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: canada Posts: 359 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,456 Thanked 726 Times in 248 Posts Rep Power: 2288328	For me having my formative queer years in a very much lesbian/andro community I really didn't have any exposure to the B-F dynamic until later in life . I have to admit when I finally found other butch/femme queers I was kinda jealous when I would see the butch-butch dynamic. Mostly due to the fact that I couldn't find a butch that was into femmes, so you see, it seemed quite unfair that another butch could have one when you all seemed in such short supply already Now that I am all growed up and married to my handsome Husbutch I don't mind at all

05-02-2010, 11:04 PM	#5
Galahad Member How Do You Identify?: do I have to? Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: I.E. Southern California Posts: 425 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,300 Thanked 339 Times in 151 Posts Rep Power: 1446604	butchonbutch dot ning If you happen to be looking for something try it. We wish we knew where this b4b community is. Sort of the mythical lost land of butches, we hear about it but no one knows where it really is. Nice to daydream about it sometimes. It's like the lost tribe of Amazons.