Femmes: what makes you feel sexy?

[imperfect_cupcake]

Taking care of mysel and knowing I can. The thing that makes me feel better than anything is a sense of independence. That gives me the freedom to feel frumpy without feeling fear, without feeling crushed, without feeling that it will cause horrible things. Then being frumpy for a bit is just frumpy. It isn't loaded with all the other things that go with it.

A run. Some hot Thai soup. A spa bath. My own space, and a lot of it. Usually days or weeks. To gain control over how I feel about myself takes more than just a face pack. It means I need the independence and space to wrestle my own shit and to assert my abilities with only myself.

It was hell getting to that point though. And it felt deathly lonely, not looking after people, not being important to someone, not being so needed in someone's daily life.
Now I would not give my feeling of strength in my independence for anything. Not even falling in love. Jesus, especially not that. What makes me feel beautiful is knowledge and confidence in my own self. On my own. And that I am the one that is control of my own life.

I know that's probably not what you meant, but I read what gives me back my self confidence. And the sense of peace and independence and capability I have in comparison to the fear and anxiety of being afraid of being found unworthy... I still get it sometimes, but when I see what's causing it, I change something. Sometimes it's leaving the environment that makes me feel that way.

Actually to be honest it's mostly that. I no longer have to put up with stressors I don't have to. I leave. I find that makes my life a lot easier and my self confidence a lot higher.

[Random]

What makes me feel sexy?

when I'm confident in myself and my own power..

for me.. it starts within and flows without..

[Venus007]

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

My own space, and a lot of it. Usually days or weeks.

For me that is not just feeling sexy that is necessary for my sanity. A lot of people get weird when they are alone too long, I am the exact opposite. Keep me around people and not alone, I get real twitchy and cranky.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Waking up in the morning, hair looks great, it's all tossed and flipped out, slipping on a sundress and flip flops and driving with the music on sunshine warming up my legs.. I love Sunday morning drive sexy...

[tantalizingfemme]

For me, feeling sexy involves self care, which I forget to do a lot as I get caught up in taking care of everything and everyone else. I love it when I allow myself the time to take a long hot shower, shave everywhere so I am nice and bare, and condition my hair with a deep conditioner. Putting a thick layer of lotion all over my body top's it off.

The feel of clothing brushing over my shaved skin is sensual to me....

[fatallyblonde]

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

I know that's probably not what you meant, but I read what gives me back my self confidence...

Actually that's exactly what I meant... what gives you back your sense of self, your own inner strength that makes you feel in control... and then makes you feel sexy.

I asked partly because this last two years has been very hard for me, I had a nervous breakdown and so I have spent a lot of time being 'frumpy'... not being dressed up, not going out, I stopped performing burlesque, I haven't been dating, I've been a quiet recluse... I learned that taking care of myself the way I need to is something that returns me to myself... that sexy isn't just putting on a tight dress... it's also self-possession and ownership...

I think all means and methods are valid! I've really enjoyed everyone's answers.

[RockOn]

I wanted to find out what makes the femmes feel sexy.
After reading all the posts, now I'm feeling sexual.

Better duck out before I get into trouble for posting in here.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Brock

I wanted to find out what makes the femmes feel sexy.
After reading all the posts, now I'm feeling sexual.

Better duck out before I get into trouble for posting in here.

I don't believe that is why Femme's post their empowerment, to make others feel sexual, I think it's something we do that fuels us, charges our battery so we can take on the world in our Feminine shell.

[RockOn]

Snowy, I knew that before you posted it. I am in a playful mood tonight.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Brock

Snowy, I knew that before you posted it. I am in a playful mood tonight.

I don't mean to be a cunt, or be mean, I am only trying to explain to you that when the women.femmes.feminine people of our community start exposing intimate things such as what makes *THEM* feel sexy and someone sexualizes it, it's ickie.


Look around your world, women get sexualized enough without consent.

I didn't share my intimate posting of a sundress on my skin after bed to take a drive for your enjoyment, I did it because I thought about it, for a long time, I examined deep within myself, asked myself what *MAKES ME* feel sexy.


It was like excavating, it always is for me as a Femme to do so cause in the back of my head I am wondering, who's gonna turn this into more than it is.


That's all I was trying to make you understand.

[Gemme]

Self care is high on my list, like most of you have posted. Regardless of what is done, taking the time to put into myself continues all the good juju and happy happy joy joy mentality. Happiness flows downhill, from the head to the toes.

[C0LLETTE]

Maybe I need to think this through more deeply or someone can explain it. I can appreciate feeling sensual for myself but sexy for myself or as an end in itself, not so much. When I feel sexy, I'm hoping it gets a response or I don't feel sexy for long.

[tantalizingfemme]

Originally Posted by Brock

I wanted to find out what makes the femmes feel sexy.
After reading all the posts, now I'm feeling sexual.

Better duck out before I get into trouble for posting in here.

Personally this post makes me feel oogy about what I wrote in here.

[RockOn]

Okay, let me make an apology to everyone for being offensive.

I am sorry.

No excuse for my initial post. I have been in a playful mood today and when I read about a bubble bath, it reminded me of someone. This very special someone is not anyone from BFP. I made a poor choice by posting in this femme forum and made matters worse with content that offended.

Hope everyone can forgive, forget and move on.
That's all I have
Out of here now.
Sincerely,
Brock

[Random]

red toenail polish in peeptoes shoes

It makes me wiggle my toes and say *aren't they just so pretty*

[1TruFemme]

Originally Posted by Random

red toenail polish in peeptoes shoes

It makes me wiggle my toes and say *aren't they just so pretty*

Too funny, I was about to respond to say the same thing. I just had mine done Friday and it made me feel so much better after a really crappy week. I even had to take a pic.

[Femminator]

I love my sundresses. I feel so sexy and girly in them. My Butch gives me that special look when I have on one of my favorite sundress. Every year we have a carnival that sells bohemian sundresses and I get two. My Butch goes with me and and she helps me choose which ones I want. I have 6 now.

[grenade]

-jeans that hug my ass so tight they feel like a second skin.
-perfume. My 2 current faves are Jimmy Choo and Gucci- Guilty Black. Scents are intoxicating.
-when I let my hair down at the end of the day and strip down to almost nothing...the almost makes it sexy.
-slow, smooth hands, running over my curves.
-pantyhose, stockings, heels, boots.
-anything leather.
-dresses. That's why I own a few.
-showing skin. I'm a bit of an exhibitionist at times.
-freshly done nails. The way my feet and legs feel after a pedi.
-music you can slow dance to.
-a drink or three. lol

[Wh1ms1]

Hi. My name is Wh1ms1, I am a 54 yo femme. I have been a nurse and a massage therapist.
When I want to feel sexy I pamper myself. I talk a long hot bath with scented epsom salts. Aka magnesium sulfate. Magnesium is vital for the body and is best absorbed through the skin. It is a mild euphoric, helps relieve anxiety, tension, and pain. Oh, and it is a natural antidepressant.0 Then I use my favorite scented lotion, powder, and perfume. It always makes me feel sensual...like a tigress on the prowl...I also like to be clean shaven, soft, and smooth. I put on make up, and I too love to play with make up. It is an art form. Then I like to choose something lacy and sexy to wear under and something lacy and feminine over. I pick the jewelry that best matches my outfit for the day...and voila'! I am ready to go out and dance my heart out.

[Wh1ms1]

Hmmm...reading down...I see a lot of replies about your butch's reaction to you. I would have to look back...ok, wayyy back...in my memory to pull up one of those. Lol. It always made me feel sexy when my butch's eyes would go a little wide and light up when I made an appearance all dressed up. It made me feel sexy when they would put a warm hand on my back...or possibly a bit lower if we were in private. Simple courtesies never failed to make my heart stutter a bit, but I think what really made me feel special is when he/she (I like trans men as well) would do something or say something or give me something that showed they had spent time actually thinking about who I am and what I like. I'm not talking about expensive things. One of my lovers gave me a little book to write poetry in. I am still finding notes that she wrote to me, throughout the book. It still makes me feel special, even though we parted ways long ago. Because for that period of time she truly loved me and knew who I was.