Poly-friendly mingling/flirting thread

[CherylNYC]

Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

Okay, remember I've not finished my first cuppa joy.

I'm fantasy oriented , have you had that "I'm done" moment? But you really mean it? Or the "marginal living" moment, or a "no one wants a disabled lover " second? Or the can't make it through alone living?

It would be platonic ideally, no moving in lovers, this would be a sanctuary for single folks….

...Or being at Grandmother's house only you are the same age.

But what would happen once a resident of Grandma's House For Responsible Adults found a partner? Would they have to move out? What about sleep-overs?

And then there would be the inevitable secret pairing-up of GHFRA residents. I have visions of Responsible Adult residents sneaking furtively through the halls in their shearling slippers and flannel nightgowns, looking both ways as they hope the hinges don't squeak while letting themselves into their illicit lover's bedroom. And then getting busted trying to sneak back to their own room at dawn. It reminds me of walking smack into my father in his bathrobe as I snuck back into my upstairs bedroom window a little later than usual when I was a teenager.

Funny, but he never said a word to me about that time.

[The_Lady_Snow]

I have thought about this more, so I have a bit more thought on this...

Your thoughts about a communal household the way you have put them in words, does not fit my definition of polyamory.

It's just communal living, once my sexual, social, personal space is having to have the acceptance, ok, or green flag from 7 other people it becomes way to oppressive for *me*..

It would be like moving in my parents, or sibling, or any other kind of person who is going to have the expectation I show up for supper.

That would make me *cry*, *scream*, *run away* etc etc..

Some people don't like onions and mushrooms, I would be all shades of upset if my palate is not satisfied let alone all my other compartments...

[CherylNYC]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I have thought about this more, so I have a bit more thought on this...

Your thoughts about a communal household the way you have put them in words, does not fit my definition of polyamory.

It's just communal living, once my sexual, social, personal space is having to have the acceptance, ok, or green flag from 7 other people it becomes way to oppressive for *me*..

It would be like moving in my parents, or sibling, or any other kind of person who is going to have the expectation I show up for supper.

That would make me *cry*, *scream*, *run away* etc etc..

Some people don't like onions and mushrooms, I would be all shades of upset if my palate is not satisfied let alone all my other compartments...

There's a movement in Europe called co-housing. It provides a bit more personal autonomy than straight-up communal living. SweetBliss's ideal living situation sounds more like co-housing to me.

Either way, you're right that it doesn't have much to do with polyamory since it doesn't involve matters of the heart or the gonads.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by CherylNYC

But what would happen once a resident of Grandma's House For Responsible Adults found a partner? Would they have to move out? What about sleep-overs?

And then there would be the inevitable secret pairing-up of GHFRA residents. I have visions of Responsible Adult residents sneaking furtively through the halls in their shearling slippers and flannel nightgowns, looking both ways as they hope the hinges don't squeak while letting themselves into their illicit lover's bedroom. And then getting busted trying to sneak back to their own room at dawn. It reminds me of walking smack into my father in his bathrobe as I snuck back into my upstairs bedroom window a little later than usual when I was a teenager.

Funny, but he never said a word to me about that time.

Sounds like the complaint of nursing homes after Viagra came out on the market (true)!