In Celebration of Butch Femininity

[lamuymuyfem]

Originally Posted by BullDog

MTFs and FTMs are human beings (not caveats or special categories) and they are lesbians if that is how they choose to identify. That's why I dislike your definition of lesbian based on anatomy. That's why MTFs aren't welcome at MichFest. Nobody qualifies or is disqualified based on what they have or don't have downstairs.

Wait wait wait wait….in my understanding, gender ID and sexual orientation are two separate things……which means that transgender folks should have the right to a sexual orientation, which could possibly be lesbian…….si o no?

[BullDog]

Originally Posted by lamuymuyfem

Wait wait wait wait….in my understanding, gender ID and sexual orientation are two separate things……which means that transgender folks should have the right to a sexual orientation, which could possibly be lesbian…….si o no?

Yes that is what I was saying. Anyone who says they are a lesbian, is a lesbian. People have different reasons for iding that way.

[Kobi]

Originally Posted by BullDog

Yes that is what I was saying. Anyone who says they are a lesbian, is a lesbian. People have different reasons for iding that way.

Between this and your other post....you are saying:

cis women are lesbians if they so choose
MTF are lesbians if they so choose
FTM are lesbian if they so choose
ergo, cis heterosexual men are also lesbian if they so choose
my cat is lesbian if she so chooses.

I can call myself a ham sandwich, doesnt mean I am one.

And Snow thinks we are othering transfolks?

You have effectively rendered being a lesbian to meaning nothing. Its not bad enough that lesbians have been bashed in this thread, called responsible for all that ails the community, now you are trying to totally transform women who love other women into something else?

This has got to be the most disrespectful, insulting, negating, misogynistic, lesbian phobic, homophobic bunch of bullshit I have ever heard in this community.

[BullDog]

Originally Posted by Kobi

Between this and your other post....you are saying:

cis women are lesbians if they so choose
MTF are lesbians if they so choose
FTM are lesbian if they so choose
ergo, cis men are also lesbian if they so choose
my cat is lesbian if she so chooses.

I can call myself a ham sandwich, doesnt mean I am one.

And Snow thinks we are othering transfolks?

You have effectively rendered being a lesbian to meaning nothing. Its not bad enough that lesbians have been bashed in this thread, called responsible for all that ails the community, now you are trying to totally transform women who love other women into something else?

This has got to be the most disrespectful, negating, misogynistic, lesbian phobic, homophobic bunch of bullshit I have ever heard in this community.

Holy shit.

Guess what Kobi, if someone says they are a lesbian and wants to participate in lesbian events and community I am not going to slam the door in their face. I welcome them.

I seriously find your post to probably be the most bizarre thing I have ever seen in my 13 years online.

Just shaking my head.

[Martina]

ID's and their meanings change over time. Yes, ID's must have some meaning, and in order to mean anything, they must exclude some possibilities -- Kobi's cat, straight cis men -- but they must not be cohesive and water-tight. I learned that from reading Judith Butler. There is no need for them to be cohesive and water-tight. We as a culture and sub-culture have a working understanding of what an ID means, an understanding which is being negotiated all the time. That's just the way it works. We don't all vote on some definition, write it somewhere, and then give out cards to those who qualify.

Currently, we are trying to change who gets included, for example transwomen. Also, culture workers and activists, as well as allies, are having a conversation with the dominant culture about what it means to be a lesbian. In general, we are trying to remove pejorative associations from the ID. We also struggle not to make the ID seem all white, all middle class, etc. An effort to codify an ID is usually just a way for people who are defending the status quo to exclude others who are challenging their power within a community -- meaning white, privileged, and cis lesbians.

[Medusa]

Cats and straight cismen are certainly not Lesbians but women are if they love and fuck other women or fuck Queerly.

Here is where it gets sticky for me. When we start to say that "MTFs can be a Lesbian" in the same sentence as cats being a Lesbian, the separatist, transphobic slip of misandry *and* misogyny shows.

When we start to police who is a woman, we negate not only other women but we negate our OWN ability to love the woman who we are within ourselves. Think about it, if we are determining who else is a woman by sex organs and chromosomes, a vast number of women who have had hysterectomies and such are now, apparently, no longer women.

Why is "Lesbian" important to fence off if Butch or Femme or Trans is not?

[Martina]

Originally Posted by Medusa

When we start to police who is a woman, we negate not only other women but we negate our OWN ability to love the woman who we are within ourselves. Think about it, if we are determining who else is a woman by sex organs and chromosomes, a vast number of women who have had hysterectomies and such are now, apparently, no longer women.

Butler calls these "intense disavowals" and says they are cruelties that we visit on ourselves. They repudiate the other in order to create a precise definition. But there is rarely a clean line between ourselves and others, as you note.

An example: When femmes defined ourselves in opposition to straight women, those of us who were once straight women were disavowing ourselves and our pasts. Some people think of their straight pasts as a time when they just did not know themselves as queer. But not all femmes do. Some of us WERE straight at some point. Some live as straight women now, and still ID as femme.

You have to leave the edges blurred or you will exclude people you may not want to. You will also repudiate allies and even parts of yourself. And you waste your time policing boundaries, which is really just code for a struggle for dominance within a group.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Kobi

Between this and your other post....you are saying:

cis women are lesbians if they so choose
MTF are lesbians if they so choose
FTM are lesbian if they so choose
ergo, cis men are also lesbian if they so choose
my cat is lesbian if she so chooses.

I can call myself a ham sandwich, doesnt mean I am one.

And Snow thinks we are othering transfolks?

You have effectively rendered being a lesbian to meaning nothing. Its not bad enough that lesbians have been bashed in this thread, called responsible for all that ails the community, now you are trying to totally transform women who love other women into something else?

This has got to be the most disrespectful, negating, misogynistic, lesbian phobic, homophobic bunch of bullshit I have ever heard in this community.

I don't know who *we* is for you, and no, I don't just *think* it's happening ------IT IS happening. I am not sure how you aren't seeing that. it's been quoted and addressed.


As for disrespect, negation, lesbian phobic, homophic buncha bullshit, does that apply to you as well? Or are you placing that on just certain people?

Thank you ahead for clarifying..

[BullDog]

I am the most lesbian phobic person in the history of the universe. LOL never thought I would be called that. Seriously so fucked up all I can do is laugh.

In case anyone is confused I am a lesbian.

[Kobi]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I don't know who *we* is for you, and no I don't just *think* it's happening IT IS happening. I am not sure how you aren't seeing that. it's been quoted and addressed.


As for disrespect, negation, lesbian phobic, homophic buncha bullshit, does that apply to you as well? Or are you placing that on just certain people?

Thank you ahead for clarifying..

I decline to be baited into more bullshit.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Kobi

I decline to be baited into more bullshit.

Now see I don't believe anyone is baiting you, what I am reading is you want to pontificate and point fingers and police who gets to go where, and when you are asked why it's ok for you to do it, you deflect, get upset, flounce out and so on.

So no Kobi no one is baiting you, you come in here and call people homophobic, lesbian phobic. wait, let me go quote you so I am not making stuff up


You Said



Originally Posted by Kobi View Post



"This has got to be the most disrespectful, negating, misogynistic, lesbian phobic, homophobic bunch of bullshit I have ever heard in this community. "
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Does that include you? Because from where I sit, it should, because you, you Kobi have all those attributes that you just accused people in this thread of having.


So no I am not baiting I am just wondering if you include yourself in that, and if not, why? What makes Kobi *better*?

[TruTexan]

I'm one of the butches that is staying out of this thread. I don't like arguing and going back and forth with name calling and accusations and whatever else there is going on in here yada yada yada.

I tend not to read things the way others do, I just read it and move on to the next post.