What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

lamuymuyfem · 04-13-2014, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by DJ4321

Holy cow! You sweet little femmes might just have opened my eyes a little bit! Can it possibly be that I've lived this long without learning this? I think maybe this is why I'm drawn to you soft, cuddly teddy bears---you appear like you need us Butches, but maybe it's really us Butches who need you!
You have all given me lots to contemplate--am I looking in a mirror, am I really just shutting down the conversation, am I afraid to honestly see so I just call it "drama"? Very interesting indeed.
Thanks everyone for your honesty and willingness to help this butch.

CIJS…which is another thread….This sweet-but-assertive, not-so little femme would lovingly ask you to continue your self-reflection…..

Butch Femme Planet is never boring and a great place to learn new things……..DJ4321, enjoy your journey of discovery.

DJ4321 · 04-13-2014, 06:42 PM

thank you very much lamuymuyfem and others who have responded. This is all making me chuckle--and shake my head as well. I appreciate the way you disagreed with me but didn't do so in a critical way. Rather in a way that invited me to continue learning.
That is one thing this journey is all about, learning along our way. Others may not see things the way we do, we may not see they way we do, but if we can keep ourselves open to learning, maybe we can learn new and better ways along the way.
I respect whatever you believe are your "deal breakers" all I ask is that you respect what I consider mine. By the same token, I want to grow as a person and if my "deal breakers" are holding me back from growing, then by all means I would want to hear about that, have an opportunity to reflect on that and then make my own decisions.
Thanks all and may our energy continue to help each of us develop into stronger people.

04-13-2014, 06:42 PM	#2
DJ4321 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Friendships Welcome Join Date: Mar 2014 Location: Minneapolis Posts: 23 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21 Thanked 88 Times in 19 Posts Rep Power: 973265	thank you very much lamuymuyfem and others who have responded. This is all making me chuckle--and shake my head as well. I appreciate the way you disagreed with me but didn't do so in a critical way. Rather in a way that invited me to continue learning. That is one thing this journey is all about, learning along our way. Others may not see things the way we do, we may not see they way we do, but if we can keep ourselves open to learning, maybe we can learn new and better ways along the way. I respect whatever you believe are your "deal breakers" all I ask is that you respect what I consider mine. By the same token, I want to grow as a person and if my "deal breakers" are holding me back from growing, then by all means I would want to hear about that, have an opportunity to reflect on that and then make my own decisions. Thanks all and may our energy continue to help each of us develop into stronger people.