Things you should never say on a date.

Candelion · 05-06-2014, 05:38 PM

I've heard this one a couple of times.

Me: So, what do you do for a living?

Date: Well....I have a blog.....sort of

Me: Oh, do tell.

Duchess · 05-06-2014, 06:06 PM

I can so relate to the topic. I used to think that there were so many things that shouldn't be said, but after a few flops I want to hear everything. I find this works better for me. I want political and spiritual views on the table. I want to be slapped in the face with whatever rude behavior they're packing. I've wasted too much time falling for the polished representative. I'd rather know up front whether to flee or stay.

Duchess

Martina · 05-06-2014, 07:45 PM

Do not tell me in a dozen different ways how fucking wonderful you are. I'll figure that out for myself. Or not.

Mel C. · 05-06-2014, 07:50 PM

Tell me anything you want me to know about you, just not on the first date

imperfect_cupcake · 05-06-2014, 08:32 PM

Well, we are quite different. So I think what one should or should not say on a date... Just be yourself and you'll weed out the people who don't like the way ya do it.

Easy enough, really.

Cause if you try to suit someone else's tastes you'll only be frustrating yourself.

cinnamongrrl · 07-13-2014, 07:07 PM

"My mom called. We have to go."

This honest to god happened to me....

imperfect_cupcake · 07-14-2014, 11:03 AM

I think there is something implicit being stated in "first date" here that isn't really part of how I work, which is why I'm baffled by some of this.

I f this is meet people from online, I tend not to meet up with people without talking for a bit. And usually that involves getting to know you conversations. So by the time I meet them, we've gone past the "fluffy" conversation.

If I'm having a date with someone met through someone else, I've probably hung out with them in a group a few times, at the very least. And had a few conversations on the phone/text/email/Facebook. So again, past the fluffy part.

I'm not a surface conversation girl. I like difficult and meaty subjects, black humour, sarcasm and real life stories. So I get to those fairly quickly. A first date, for me, will not be the first time we've talked. Likely we've talked quite a bit before meeting the first time if online.

So that may be why I don't "get" first date rules.

Kobi · 07-14-2014, 03:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cinnamongrrl

"My mom called. We have to go."

This honest to god happened to me....

I have to ask.....

is this like my mom called, we have to go cuz I'll miss curfew or

my mom called, we have to go, cuz there is a family emergency?

TimilDeeps · 07-14-2014, 04:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kobi

I have to ask.....

is this like my mom called, we have to go cuz I'll miss curfew or

my mom called, we have to go, cuz there is a family emergency?

or my mom called, she'll be here in 10 minutes?

cinnamongrrl · 07-14-2014, 04:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kobi

I have to ask.....

is this like my mom called, we have to go cuz I'll miss curfew or

my mom called, we have to go, cuz there is a family emergency?

if I recall correctly, she was thirsty amd didnt want anything that was actually in the fridge....and we were over 30 minutes away having lunch.... red flag much??

Cole610 · 08-12-2014, 11:24 AM

A couple weeks ago I picked up my lady friend for our 3rd date.
After she jumped into my truck she looked at me and said. “Hey you got your hair cut! Its about time”
WTF.

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07-14-2014, 11:03 AM	#7
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I think there is something implicit being stated in "first date" here that isn't really part of how I work, which is why I'm baffled by some of this. I f this is meet people from online, I tend not to meet up with people without talking for a bit. And usually that involves getting to know you conversations. So by the time I meet them, we've gone past the "fluffy" conversation. If I'm having a date with someone met through someone else, I've probably hung out with them in a group a few times, at the very least. And had a few conversations on the phone/text/email/Facebook. So again, past the fluffy part. I'm not a surface conversation girl. I like difficult and meaty subjects, black humour, sarcasm and real life stories. So I get to those fairly quickly. A first date, for me, will not be the first time we've talked. Likely we've talked quite a bit before meeting the first time if online. So that may be why I don't "get" first date rules.

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Cole610 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hey You, Dude Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: New Westminster BC Canada Posts: 57 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 514 Thanked 197 Times in 44 Posts Rep Power: 2362246	A couple weeks ago I picked up my lady friend for our 3rd date. After she jumped into my truck she looked at me and said. “Hey you got your hair cut! Its about time” WTF.