Instant Turn-Offs

[nycfem]

You scared me for a minute-- I thought you wrote unicorns were a turn off to you, and if that were the case, I'd really have to reevaluate our friendship.

Originally Posted by candy_coated_bitch

Unibrows.......

[ProfPacker]

but where does that leave Frieda Kolho (sp). she was the major woman with the unibrow

[nycfem]

Celebrity exception perhaps

Originally Posted by femmepacker

but where does that leave Frieda Kolho (sp). she was the major woman with the unibrow

[candy_coated_bitch]

Originally Posted by femmepacker

but where does that leave Frieda Kolho (sp). she was the major woman with the unibrow

There is always that one special person that can pull something off in a way no one else can. Frida and Groucho Marx LOL.

[ProfPacker]

not looking me in the eye when talking to me is a big turn off
not having my sense of humor which is pretty dark and twisted
not interested in the world around them
not wanting to take on the status quo

but mostly, in my previous long term relationship and growing up I lived in a world of smoke and mirrors. I need to have someone be direct with me.

someone who doesn't say as I am talking, I'm not done, let me finish
belittling me
being emotionally abusive
If I even have a hint of that...I am out of here

I like to have fun. If someone can't be silly it is a turn off.

at this time in my life we must be sexually compatible. no more lesbian bed death, haha.

if they don't like that I have kids, it is a negatory (is that a word, no but I like it)

[Violette]

Originally Posted by skeeter_01

A know it all, eating with their mouth open or smacking their lips while they eat.

I am with you on the eating with their mouth open and smacking their lips. That's a hard one for me to relax around.

Mean people, ignorant people, people who use texting "shorthand", (U no..cnt be bothered to rite out there hole thought) oh and the whole "there, their, they're" thing. People who can't be bothered to use spell check.

I used to be right there with you on the "there, their, and they're thing." That used to bug the hell out of me until a funny thing happened. I started to write on the internet. Then I would re read things that I had written, and wouldn't you know it. I do the same damn thing. In fact, I did it today in a post. I couldn't edit it anymore. I am well educated. I fully know the difference and how to use each word correctly, but alas, I make mistakes. I am not that careful when I am not writing for work. The internet is play time. I got over it.

As for my Instant Turn-Offs: treating strangers poorly (yes, I watch how a person treats the food servers), bad odor, long toe nails. Oh yeah, intolerance of differences (as in different cultures etc).

[Martina]

People who are way performative. I know it is just one way of being in the world, and it's kind of celebrated in our sub-culture. But it doesn't work for me. Wears me out.

[Kobi]

Biggest turn off for me is having never-ending lists of turn offs because:

1. It denies the reality of being imperfect human beings.

2. It takes away from the quirkiness and individuality of people expressing their diversity in their own way.

3. It indicates people should fit a check off list of what pleases each of us, rather than just accepting who they are.

4. It adds negativity to the world which seems to need a good healthy dose of positivity.

[Martina]

Well, I think you ought to know what you want and what you can and can't put up with. What's the value of all this experience if it isn't to learn from and prevent yourself from wasting time and hurting yours and others' feelings?

[Girl_On_Fire]

Originally Posted by Kobi

Biggest turn off for me is having never-ending lists of turn offs because:

1. It denies the reality of being imperfect human beings.

2. It takes away from the quirkiness and individuality of people expressing their diversity in their own way.

3. It indicates people should fit a check off list of what pleases each of us, rather than just accepting who they are.

4. It adds negativity to the world which seems to need a good healthy dose of positivity.

This thread was not started with the intent to put anyone down or ask others to come up with a 20-page laundry list of faults other people have that they can't abide.

However, there is something to be said for knowing what you can and can't put up with. Some habits, attitudes, etc. are simply deal-breakers, even if the person can't help it.

Even I have been a bit taken aback by some of what I've read on here because the poster is not only describing traits I have, but traits I can't help or "fix" (and some of them, I wouldn't necessarily want to). Still, it's better to know these things up front before investing any time in a relationship that is destined for failure.


I think it's a good idea to be clear both about what does it for you and what doesn't so you can select a mate that best matches you, rather than suffering in silence with someone who really does have 20-plus unacceptable qualities or habits that you can't stand because you've decided to settle.

[candy_coated_bitch]

Originally Posted by nycfem

You scared me for a minute-- I thought you wrote unicorns were a turn off to you, and if that were the case, I'd really have to reevaluate our friendship.

NEVER that. On the contrary--I find unicorns very erotic.

[Happy_Go_Lucky]

When she showed up wearing a GPS ankle monitor.

[candy_coated_bitch]

I am more turned off by those toenails, frankly. If you have an ankle monitor--at least show it off in style.

[ProfPacker]

I agree about the toe nails...but that means she is under surveillance. Well that gives you a lot of options regarding leaving the house...does she have to call her
PO first?

[Happy_Go_Lucky]

Originally Posted by candy_coated_bitch

I am more turned off by those toenails, frankly. If you have an ankle monitor--at least show it off in style.

[ProfPacker]

chains and shackles is a look too, good for the bedroom later on, lol

[Girl_On_Fire]

Originally Posted by candy_coated_bitch

I am more turned off by those toenails, frankly. If you have an ankle monitor--at least show it off in style.

I was going to say the same thing! It would have taken me a minute to notice the GPS tracking device for those toenails. Dayum!

[deathbypoem]

Lack of intelligence and wit.

[gotoseagrl]

~ intellectual snobbery (or any kind of snobberies)
~ over-inflated egos
~ materialistic fluff
~ designer labels for sake of showing off
~ keeping up with the jonses
~ abnormal paranoia
~ ambiguity, in general
~ facades
~ more words than action
~ flakiness/inconsistency
~ over judgmentalness