That one question....

Sweet Bliss · 08-13-2014, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by LoyalWolfsBlade

Yeah I've gotten that one too many times by now. Fortunately I can't recall the first time I was asked it but since I was a child I am sure my reaction was the same. However being the smart ass I am it didn't take me long to come up with the reply of Sure I'll get right on that would that be my normal or your normal that you are wanting me to achieve.

It is a mean question no matter your age. Don't you agree

Yes. And at 57 I've reached my limit finally I think. Living with a constant reminder person who never fails at some point to find a raw spot and add salt. It's a great training ground for learning how to let go of old hurts. Haven't quite got the nack of not taking it personal sometimes. Not perfect I know only too well, but I'll never embarrass you, and even your Mom will like me.

Sweet Bliss · 08-14-2014, 11:04 AM

* Even if your heart's not exactly shattered at the moment, it has no doubt been so at some time in the past. I invite you to feel a wave of sadness about your suffering, then move on to this possibility: that having a broken heart is one of the best things that can happen to you.

Why? Because it strengthens your humility, which makes you smarter. It demonstrates to you that you have a tremendous capacity for deep feelings -- far more than you're normally aware of. It breaks down defense mechanisms that have desensitized you to the world's secret beauty. It may also inspire you to treat other people's hearts with greater care, making it more likely that you'll be able to create intelligent intimacy in the future.

Read this on Rob Brezney's Horoscope page for Scorpio. Gave me a lift today. Made my day actually.

LoyalWolfsBlade · 08-15-2014, 01:08 AM

A question I always get

Do you have a pic where you are smiling?

Don't like my pic taken but I do have some where I am genuinly smiling

LoyalWolfsBlade · 08-15-2014, 05:30 AM

Would you (fill in blank)
Or
Could you (fill in the blank)

Both asked at the most inconvenient time, like fourth quarter witj a min left on the clock, and you just know neither are actually questions because the only answer is yes lol

Better yet....
Before you sit down would you....

Always asked right as you're sitting down,,,,lol

Blame the exhausted mind I have right now for this post.....

pajama · 08-15-2014, 06:17 AM

Interesting thread.

I don't often feel uncomfortable answering questions. So I had to ponder this a bit.

Probably one of the questions asked by my ex many years ago is one of very, very few that made my stomach come up and my heart sink.... "Who is MadamePleasure?". I was a bastard and I had been caught.

But other than that one, I would have to think hard on it. Many questions make me sad, or look at the asker like WTF, some make me laugh. But there doesn't seem to be "that one" (metaphorical one I understand the concept) that I get over and over.

Although little kids do crack me up when they ask "Are you a boy or a girl?". And almost as funny is the parents horrified look, not knowing how I will react.

Sweet Bliss · 08-15-2014, 08:11 AM

Although not a question, my last attempt to be with someone was slammed down by her statement ...

"That's not what relationships are supposed to look like!" She shouted.

Never did get to the bottom of that conversation. Moral of the story?

Get all those cards on the table before committing to any relationship.

To me it's on par with the ludicrous "that's not how you are supposed to do it" rants. I need to just walk away and never look back. There is no "right way" to do anything. Or my personal favorite "a million reasons why you are not good enough for me." It's usually prefaced by the long endless list of 'musthaves' when describing perfect love match. Avoid those peeps darlings.

I'm Rhoda from the dash site... anyone read my posts on the "Good Morning Honey " thread? It's still getting hundreds of hits. That's a micro shot of what it's like to be loved by me. Must be pretty popular with peeps. But out of all those fans only one person. really got me. One. Someday I'm going to make him grits just like I. promised

LoyalWolfsBlade · 08-15-2014, 10:26 AM

I have to repost pajama's question of

Are you a boy or girl?

Since it also tickles my funny bone when kids innocently ask and I literally have to force myself from not busting out laughing when I see the parents expression. You just know they were wondering the same thing! I don't get it anymore but when kids ask it I think it's cute.

08-15-2014, 01:08 AM	#3
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	A question I always get Do you have a pic where you are smiling? Don't like my pic taken but I do have some where I am genuinly smiling __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

08-15-2014, 05:30 AM	#4
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Would you (fill in blank) Or Could you (fill in the blank) Both asked at the most inconvenient time, like fourth quarter witj a min left on the clock, and you just know neither are actually questions because the only answer is yes lol Better yet.... Before you sit down would you.... Always asked right as you're sitting down,,,,lol Blame the exhausted mind I have right now for this post..... __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

08-15-2014, 06:17 AM	#5
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,476 Times in 1,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Interesting thread. I don't often feel uncomfortable answering questions. So I had to ponder this a bit. Probably one of the questions asked by my ex many years ago is one of very, very few that made my stomach come up and my heart sink.... "Who is MadamePleasure?". I was a bastard and I had been caught. But other than that one, I would have to think hard on it. Many questions make me sad, or look at the asker like WTF, some make me laugh. But there doesn't seem to be "that one" (metaphorical one I understand the concept) that I get over and over. Although little kids do crack me up when they ask "Are you a boy or a girl?". And almost as funny is the parents horrified look, not knowing how I will react. Last edited by pajama; 08-15-2014 at 06:20 AM. Reason: Remembered the kid question.

08-15-2014, 10:26 AM	#7
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I have to repost pajama's question of Are you a boy or girl? Since it also tickles my funny bone when kids innocently ask and I literally have to force myself from not busting out laughing when I see the parents expression. You just know they were wondering the same thing! I don't get it anymore but when kids ask it I think it's cute. __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

08-14-2014, 11:04 AM	#2
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	* Even if your heart's not exactly shattered at the moment, it has no doubt been so at some time in the past. I invite you to feel a wave of sadness about your suffering, then move on to this possibility: that having a broken heart is one of the best things that can happen to you. Why? Because it strengthens your humility, which makes you smarter. It demonstrates to you that you have a tremendous capacity for deep feelings -- far more than you're normally aware of. It breaks down defense mechanisms that have desensitized you to the world's secret beauty. It may also inspire you to treat other people's hearts with greater care, making it more likely that you'll be able to create intelligent intimacy in the future. Read this on Rob Brezney's Horoscope page for Scorpio. Gave me a lift today. Made my day actually.

08-15-2014, 08:11 AM	#6
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Although not a question, my last attempt to be with someone was slammed down by her statement ... "That's not what relationships are supposed to look like!" She shouted. Never did get to the bottom of that conversation. Moral of the story? Get all those cards on the table before committing to any relationship. To me it's on par with the ludicrous "that's not how you are supposed to do it" rants. I need to just walk away and never look back. There is no "right way" to do anything. Or my personal favorite "a million reasons why you are not good enough for me." It's usually prefaced by the long endless list of 'musthaves' when describing perfect love match. Avoid those peeps darlings. I'm Rhoda from the dash site... anyone read my posts on the "Good Morning Honey " thread? It's still getting hundreds of hits. That's a micro shot of what it's like to be loved by me. Must be pretty popular with peeps. But out of all those fans only one person. really got me. One. Someday I'm going to make him grits just like I. promised