Relationships - What things do you want & need?

SleepyButch · 09-30-2014, 05:51 AM

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Originally Posted by fever

Say fellas, I will go to scary movies with you both, sit between you, but I can't guarantee that one or both won't have nail marks on your legs. lol I love scary movies, but hide, scream, and grab.

I've been grabbed, pinched, punched, and slapped a few times at scary movies. It kind of comes with the territory. lol

Sweet Bliss · 09-30-2014, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by SleepyButch

I've been grabbed, pinched, punched, and slapped a few times at scary movies. It kind of comes with the territory. lol

Dang SB... I'm too busy screaming and covering my eyes to hit or grab... for classic B movies I'm changing the dialogue and laughing ... I vote we all go over to Rockin's place... he's a chef!!!! I have a collection of 200 horror and sci fi. I'll bring it too.

I make a mean nacho platter.

MysticOceansFL · 09-30-2014, 04:30 PM

Things in a relationship I would want.
1. Loyalty
2. Honest
3. Love as equal to mine
4. Openness
5. Communication always even when your angry
6. Common goals
7. Some interests that match
8. Compassion to yourself and others
That's about it cause all these things when you do them online is great but if you can't do them off line what makes you think I would want you? So make sure you can be this way on and off line also! * Tips my hat *

JDeere · 09-30-2014, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by MysticOceansFL

Things in a relationship I would want.
1. Loyalty
2. Honest
3. Love as equal to mine
4. Openness
5. Communication always even when your angry
6. Common goals
7. Some interests that match
8. Compassion to yourself and others
That's about it cause all these things when you do them online is great but if you can't do them off line what makes you think I would want you? So make sure you can be this way on and off line also! * Tips my hat *

Excellent list!

Femmadian · 09-30-2014, 07:25 PM

For me personally, some of the things I need would be:

Someone who is intellectually curious, especially a full-on nerd. So sexy.
Lots of physical affection (both sexualized and non-sexualized). Let's touch base throughout the day, acknowledge each other's presence, engage in little pats and rubs and taps and shoulder kisses "just because." It makes me feel loved and all warm and mushy inside.
To feel like a priority in their life (as appropriate). Obviously all relationships have different levels and different standards of what's appropriate given its stage, but I think you should always feel like the person you're with is with you because they're interested in you specifically and see that they make a point to make room for you in their life. My presence in your life should not feel incidental or casual and I should not feel like I'm just filling a slot.
An animal lover. Few things cuter than watching a butch fawn over a furry four-legger. I'm outnumbered by the furballs in my home and I like it that way.
Someone who's open minded, willing to really listen to other people's opinions, and open to having their own changed.
Someone who respects my time as much as I respect theirs. This can include making plans ahead of time and sticking to them, not expecting the other person to automatically drop everything to be with you, making sure the phone's off and away, ensuring that the time spent together is quality time, making a point to be together one-on-one in a non-sexual context (ie - the only time you're not accompanied by their friends or family is when you're in bed together), etc.
Strong libido. I have one. So should you*. I've dated a string of otherwise very nice people who had average to low libidos recently and I'm done with that. I want to make up for lost time!
No scary movies. Sorry, Sleepy et al. Can't do it. You'll only regret it later at 3 am when I'm elbowing you in the ribs or maniacally clawing at you in my sleep with my horror movie-induced nightmares.
Chocolate.

* - With the obvious caveat that this only applies to people I'd be in a committed relationship with
and is in no way a slight against people with differing levels of sexual desire, activity, or asexuals. Obviously. :-)

starryeyes · 09-30-2014, 07:59 PM

Someone who is kind, loving, understanding, loves my dogs and funny!

SleepyButch · 09-30-2014, 08:41 PM

I want lots and lots and lots of kissing.

09-30-2014, 04:30 PM	#3
MysticOceansFL Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Preferred Pronoun?: People call me by my nic name. Relationship Status: Not Single, Not Desperate. Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 3,833 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,645 Thanked 4,033 Times in 1,720 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Things in a relationship I would want. 1. Loyalty 2. Honest 3. Love as equal to mine 4. Openness 5. Communication always even when your angry 6. Common goals 7. Some interests that match 8. Compassion to yourself and others That's about it cause all these things when you do them online is great but if you can't do them off line what makes you think I would want you? So make sure you can be this way on and off line also! * Tips my hat * __________________ Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. It is said, " Some lives are linked across time..... Connected by an ancient calling that echoes through the ages "......

09-30-2014, 07:25 PM	#5
Femmadian Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Apr 2014 Location: Isla Nublar Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,296 Thanked 2,400 Times in 362 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	For me personally, some of the things I need would be: Someone who is intellectually curious, especially a full-on nerd. So sexy. Lots of physical affection (both sexualized and non-sexualized). Let's touch base throughout the day, acknowledge each other's presence, engage in little pats and rubs and taps and shoulder kisses "just because." It makes me feel loved and all warm and mushy inside. To feel like a priority in their life (as appropriate). Obviously all relationships have different levels and different standards of what's appropriate given its stage, but I think you should always feel like the person you're with is with you because they're interested in you specifically and see that they make a point to make room for you in their life. My presence in your life should not feel incidental or casual and I should not feel like I'm just filling a slot. An animal lover. Few things cuter than watching a butch fawn over a furry four-legger. I'm outnumbered by the furballs in my home and I like it that way. Someone who's open minded, willing to really listen to other people's opinions, and open to having their own changed. Someone who respects my time as much as I respect theirs. This can include making plans ahead of time and sticking to them, not expecting the other person to automatically drop everything to be with you, making sure the phone's off and away, ensuring that the time spent together is quality time, making a point to be together one-on-one in a non-sexual context (ie - the only time you're not accompanied by their friends or family is when you're in bed together), etc. Strong libido. I have one. So should you. I've dated a string of otherwise very nice people who had average to low libidos recently and I'm done with that. I want to make up for lost time! No scary movies. Sorry, Sleepy et al. Can't do it. You'll only regret it later at 3 am when I'm elbowing you in the ribs or maniacally clawing at you in my sleep with my horror movie-induced nightmares. Chocolate. - With the obvious caveat that this only applies to people I'd be in a committed relationship with and is in no way a slight against people with differing levels of sexual desire, activity, or asexuals. Obviously. :-) __________________

09-30-2014, 07:59 PM	#6
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,049 Times in 2,075 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Someone who is kind, loving, understanding, loves my dogs and funny! __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

09-30-2014, 08:41 PM	#7
SleepyButch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dude Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: Taken Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Hidden Valley Ranch Posts: 3,511 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,220 Thanked 11,247 Times in 2,753 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I want lots and lots and lots of kissing. __________________ . You cannot embrace those things that will not embrace you back.