Relationships - What things do you want & need?

[MysticOceansFL]

Things in a relationship I would want.
1. Loyalty
2. Honest
3. Love as equal to mine
4. Openness
5. Communication always even when your angry
6. Common goals
7. Some interests that match
8. Compassion to yourself and others
That's about it cause all these things when you do them online is great but if you can't do them off line what makes you think I would want you? So make sure you can be this way on and off line also! * Tips my hat *

[JDeere]

Originally Posted by MysticOceansFL

Things in a relationship I would want.
1. Loyalty
2. Honest
3. Love as equal to mine
4. Openness
5. Communication always even when your angry
6. Common goals
7. Some interests that match
8. Compassion to yourself and others
That's about it cause all these things when you do them online is great but if you can't do them off line what makes you think I would want you? So make sure you can be this way on and off line also! * Tips my hat *

Excellent list!

[Femmadian]

For me personally, some of the things I need would be:

• Someone who is intellectually curious, especially a full-on nerd. So sexy.
• Lots of physical affection (both sexualized and non-sexualized). Let's touch base throughout the day, acknowledge each other's presence, engage in little pats and rubs and taps and shoulder kisses "just because." It makes me feel loved and all warm and mushy inside.
• To feel like a priority in their life (as appropriate). Obviously all relationships have different levels and different standards of what's appropriate given its stage, but I think you should always feel like the person you're with is with you because they're interested in you specifically and see that they make a point to make room for you in their life. My presence in your life should not feel incidental or casual and I should not feel like I'm just filling a slot.
• An animal lover. Few things cuter than watching a butch fawn over a furry four-legger. I'm outnumbered by the furballs in my home and I like it that way.
• Someone who's open minded, willing to really listen to other people's opinions, and open to having their own changed.
• Someone who respects my time as much as I respect theirs. This can include making plans ahead of time and sticking to them, not expecting the other person to automatically drop everything to be with you, making sure the phone's off and away, ensuring that the time spent together is quality time, making a point to be together one-on-one in a non-sexual context (ie - the only time you're not accompanied by their friends or family is when you're in bed together), etc.
• Strong libido. I have one. So should you*. I've dated a string of otherwise very nice people who had average to low libidos recently and I'm done with that. I want to make up for lost time!
• No scary movies. Sorry, Sleepy et al. Can't do it. You'll only regret it later at 3 am when I'm elbowing you in the ribs or maniacally clawing at you in my sleep with my horror movie-induced nightmares.
• Chocolate.
  

* - With the obvious caveat that this only applies to people I'd be in a committed relationship with
and is in no way a slight against people with differing levels of sexual desire, activity, or asexuals. Obviously. :-)

[starryeyes]

Someone who is kind, loving, understanding, loves my dogs and funny!

[SleepyButch]

I want lots and lots and lots of kissing.

[RockOn]

I like to get all snuggled up in bed, get the low light just right and make those funny shadow images on the wall with our hands ... and giggle a lot ... then when we tire of that ... you know ... and I want to do it all now long ...


And yes, butches do giggle.

[SleepyButch]

I keep thinking of things....

Sooooo someone who likes to dance or at least puts up with the fact that I do.

[RockOn]

hey fever, I will lean forward in the theater while you, SleepyB and I watch the scary movie. You can claw my back all you want. I have not had that in a while.