Poly Relationships

[SirenManda]

Originally Posted by Mel C.

I saw this article in my FB feed....thoughts???

I honestly felt bad for him. We don't often think about the hard impact when you get used to someone being around, then the break happens and you still feel the need to communicate because they played a certain role in your life. I have experienced what happens when it doesn't work out, and someone choses to walk. It's hard, and it also makes you think about how your partner feels about it. The last time I ended things with a connection I had, my husband felt sorry for me. I cried, because the person I missed had filled a different role than just someone I sexually wanted. What hurts one of us, hurts all of us involved.

[QueenofSmirks]

My first poly relationship, although I didn't think of it in those terms at the time, was when I was married in my early 20's. I was also seeing a married woman, both of our husbands were aware. When I broke it off with her, her husband called to ask me to reconsider, telling me how distraught she was, etc. etc. My own husband felt sorry for her and said as much. It was interesting for sure, and I remember being surprised that they would both rally for us to stay together.