Lack of understanding of genderqueer

[imperfect_cupcake]

Some people use it meaning they don't feel like a woman, nor a man but their own gender, and use it in that sense. Some of my partners have had a masculine gender that was not a "man" but just their own making, so they called themselves genderqueer - since the gender had no name as it was individual, they prefered calling themselves genderqueer.

Some people use it because they feel they have more than one gender. My exwife felt like she was a woman (gender) and a butch (gender) and those two genders shifted back and forth with each other like a lava lamp. She called herself gender fluid/genderqueer

Some people shift back and forth between woman and man, like my friend David-Jane. S/he does not wish to physically change hir sex from male to female, but hir two genders share the same body and depending on the day of the week s/he is David or Jane. S/he calls hirself genderqueer.

There are other uses for it. But those are three that I personally am most familiar with.

[JDeere]

Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

Some people use it meaning they don't feel like a woman, nor a man but their own gender, and use it in that sense. Some of my partners have had a masculine gender that was not a "man" but just their own making, so they called themselves genderqueer - since the gender had no name as it was individual, they prefered calling themselves genderqueer.

Some people use it because they feel they have more than one gender. My exwife felt like she was a woman (gender) and a butch (gender) and those two genders shifted back and forth with each other like a lava lamp. She called herself gender fluid/genderqueer

Some people shift back and forth between woman and man, like my friend David-Jane. S/he does not wish to physically change hir sex from male to female, but hir two genders share the same body and depending on the day of the week s/he is David or Jane. S/he calls hirself genderqueer.

There are other uses for it. But those are three that I personally am most familiar with.

Thank you, it's a relative new term for me to hear.

[MsTinkerbelly]

Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

Some people use it meaning they don't feel like a woman, nor a man but their own gender, and use it in that sense. Some of my partners have had a masculine gender that was not a "man" but just their own making, so they called themselves genderqueer - since the gender had no name as it was individual, they prefered calling themselves genderqueer.

Some people use it because they feel they have more than one gender. My exwife felt like she was a woman (gender) and a butch (gender) and those two genders shifted back and forth with each other like a lava lamp. She called herself gender fluid/genderqueer

Some people shift back and forth between woman and man, like my friend David-Jane. S/he does not wish to physically change hir sex from male to
female, but hir two genders share the same body and depending on the day of the week s/he is David or Jane. S/he calls hirself genderqueer.

There are other uses for it. But those are three that I personally am most familiar with.

What a great explaination!

Very clear and well thought out...easy for even me to understand.

There are as many definitions of genderqueer as there are genderqueer folks. As it is with femme, butch, trans..., et al.

If you really want to know about genderqueer ask a self identifed genderqueer person.

I'm not suggesting that you're trying to answer for all genderqueer people MsCupcake, I know youu better than that, but addressing folks in general.

[imperfect_cupcake]

No of course not. And I know it's used in many ways. That's also why I'd like to encourage those who do ID as genderqueer to explain how they use it.

I also know it's used as an umbrella term - for example there have been dyke, butch, femme, bear, transgender, Transexual, a-gendered, boi, and unnamed gender at bar nights at various times in London and those places, as a general term have been referred to as "genderqueer clubs"

Genderqueer just generally means outside the realm of single gendered woman or single gendered man.

I also know one gal who is a femme gender with masculine pronouns and IDs as a femme daddy. She calls herself genderqueer. It's pretty much anything out of a recognised binary.

But I'd love to hear more from those who do use it, and why.

Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

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...But I'd love to hear more from those who do use it and why.

I've only inhabited the genderqueer id for 12yrs so I'm still a baby!

I know more than one femme who ids as genderqueer femme. One in particular I'm thinking of who, goes by a chaps name all the time and challenges folks on so many fronts as well as gender presentation, pronouns and nomenclature.
I also know a handful of hetero blokes from the kink community who also own genderqueer as id for their own non-binary reasons

For me it means exactly what it says on the tin. My gender is rather queer, not the norm, outside the the box...and therefore a challenge to those who can only view the world in black&white.

The majority of genderqueer folks I know are female-bodied, on the masculine end of the spectrum and have come to genderqueer after many years of not fitting into the usual rather limited identity boxes provided by the hetero and homo communities.

Genderqueer and proud!

[imperfect_cupcake]

I can't edit, but pardon my mis type of my mate's pronoun. Even I screw up at times.

[cathexis]

Know this thread has been down awhile, but I need to bring it back up.

As you can see from my profile, I identify as genderqueer. Have always (45 years) been a kaiki (?sp). When I'm with a womon, I tend to go to the exact place that would equalize the genders. You know, if she's on the butch side of center, I'll unconsciously slide to femme of center and vice versa. Don't realize I've done it until someone mentions it months later.

Last week my doctor and I got into a discussion about testosterone injections. Okay, I brought it up. What can I expect? What changes? My Partner seems to think it will help me emotionally. Give me a sense of well being and confidence that I lack. Sounds like a good idea, but I only know what I've read in medical literature.

Anyone have any personal experiences they want to share?