Big Butch Love

[randrum]

This is a great thread. To read everyone's, both butch and femme alike, responses is enlightening.

I've never thought of myself as big until the last couple of years. Technically speaking, based on BMI and height-weight charts, I have always been overweight. Even in peak physical condition in high school and college (I was a swimmer).

I have naturally big shoulders, that are a source of pride really. I like how they look. And I have always been muscular. But over the last few years I've developed a gut. It's a sore spot for me.

I workout regularly. Lift weights, run, yoga, etc. I try to eat right, though I'm a sucker for pizza, burgers, and beer. Lol.

Life would be easier if I just accepted that I have the gut. If I was just happy with the body I'm in, because really there is nothing wrong with it. But even if I accepted it, it doesn't mean other people would.

My dad always comments about my size. My mom tells me every time she sees me that I need to "lose the gut". Or will give me a look when I'm eating something she doesn't approve of.

So that leads me to a bad place. If my parents can't accept my size, how am I going to find a woman to love me in spite of it? Honestly, it's why I haven't even put myself out there to find a gf. I figured I didn't stand a chance.

[imperfect_cupcake]

You shouldn't be finding someone who loves you Despite how you look. Someone will love you because of how you look. If you are attracted to a femme, in spite of her size, that is going to be felt. I'd hate that.
I find people hot because of how they think, how they move, how they handle their own bodies. I like a sense of confidence in movement. It's shows a sense of grace. That's hot. I've been with butches from size 8 to size 28. Literally. They were all very, very sexy in their bodies because of how they moved and held themselves. My physical attractions are about sense of self in body, movement, gesture, confidence, owning their space in a variety of ways that people do. That and being a bit cocky, playfully sarcastic, dark humoured and smart. Open about their desires. The willingness to experiment.
Hot. Very hot.

[LilyCat]

Some femmes actually prefer a big butch to cuddle up to and love. I am one of those femmes. So I say go out there and find your beautiful femme, she is probably looking for you too.

[clay]

I enjoy this thread! Bumping..for great posts to re-read......

[Daisy Chain]

Originally Posted by clay

I enjoy this thread! Bumping..for great posts to re-read......

In that case I shall answer your call Clay !!

OK, As this thread is entitled Big Butch Love I will state that yes bigger butches are indeed easy on the eye....that said so are thinner butches too ! OK that sounds like I am sitting on the fence right ?! The thing is I really do love peoples uniqueness, and I find beauty/attractiveness in all those little details. It can be an accent, the way they laugh, the way their hair falls...no hair, skinned off even, a walk, swagger...hands, how they rest them on their thighs palms down, hook a thumb in a pocket....all the little details. And their energy. The most beautiful thing about any butch is how they make you feel when you are around them, make me feel relaxed and at ease and you have my attention. And frankly all of these things can come in any/many types of packages......you can be tall, short, slender, burly...do like that word...burly..yes indeed.

I can say the love of my life is a couple of inches shorter than me and I wouldnt say heavy by any means though she would say she needs to loose a few pounds, though working nights in the medical profession throws her eating habits out a lot.

All that said though if I was pressed I would say ideally I would be more likely to be drawn to a heavier butch.....also be greying,,,,have those wrinkly crinkly sparkly eyes too......older than me....and top it all off with the gentlest smile !

So yes, Big Butch Love abounds from Daisy.....{that took me long enough to get to the point eh !! }

Daisy

[Shystonefem]

Originally Posted by randrum

This is a great thread. To read everyone's, both butch and femme alike, responses is enlightening.

I've never thought of myself as big until the last couple of years. Technically speaking, based on BMI and height-weight charts, I have always been overweight. Even in peak physical condition in high school and college (I was a swimmer).

I have naturally big shoulders, that are a source of pride really. I like how they look. And I have always been muscular. But over the last few years I've developed a gut. It's a sore spot for me.

I workout regularly. Lift weights, run, yoga, etc. I try to eat right, though I'm a sucker for pizza, burgers, and beer. Lol.

Life would be easier if I just accepted that I have the gut. If I was just happy with the body I'm in, because really there is nothing wrong with it. But even if I accepted it, it doesn't mean other people would.

My dad always comments about my size. My mom tells me every time she sees me that I need to "lose the gut". Or will give me a look when I'm eating something she doesn't approve of.

So that leads me to a bad place. If my parents can't accept my size, how am I going to find a woman to love me in spite of it? Honestly, it's why I haven't even put myself out there to find a gf. I figured I didn't stand a chance.

I never have seen it that way. People tell me that I am small but I don't feel that way. I actually don't like being called small.....

My mother told me, every single day, how fat I was (at the time, I was a size 7).... She was thin (a size 3). What I am trying to say is that what one person appears to see is not what the rest of the world sees.

So what if you have a beer belly? You are still the same person.... just sayin.

[Mel C.]

*bumping for the big butches and their fans*

[JustLovelyJenn]

I'm still loving... from afar... at the moment.

[JDeere]

Can us big trans guys be included? Just wondering! I don't want to start a new thread if us Trans guys can be included here.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by JDeere

Can us big trans guys be included? Just wondering! I don't want to start a new thread if us Trans guys can be included here.

Hey, JDeere.

So, this is just my opinion, but I suspect that there is a number of people (butch, femme, and trans), who would prefer it be a separate thread.

Although both are masculine identities, for some there is no cross over, what so ever.

I have no investment in there being separate threads (because I wouldn't post on either), but I suspect that it would be hard for someone who does have an investment to come in here and say it.

Just my thoughts, bro.

[JDeere]

That is why I asked to see if I needed to start a new thread or not.