Amongst us butches .. - Page 2

Apocalipstic · 06-02-2011, 03:24 PM

Guys and Butches ask the same thing.

My grandmother taught me that "thank you" is the right answer for a compliment and I try to go with that.

Daywalker · 06-02-2011, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Guys and Butches ask the same thing.

My grandmother taught me that "thank you" is the right answer for a compliment and I try to go with that.

Lol, my Gramma said...drop something.

It will either distract the time period of awkward silence
before a response is created ~ or if they help U pick
up what U dropped, it will tell you a lot
about their intentions.

I blame her for me being OooBer clumsy.

Julie · 06-03-2011, 08:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Mister Bent

Does this thread make my ass look fat?

Yeah...
but it's okay -- just add a day or two to your gym schedule.

You are going to be FABULOUS **

Quintease · 06-03-2011, 04:14 PM

I hate having my makeup mussed up when I'm all ready to go out

Tommi · 06-03-2011, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Julie

Yeah...
but it's okay -- just add a day or two to your gym schedule.

You are going to be FABULOUS **

I am carrying a gym card in my wallet , right in front of that coin sized thing..Does that score any Fab points, brushing eyebrows back .

Merlin · 06-02-2011, 04:01 PM

Lol ..

I wanted a thread like this for a bit of chat between butches and femmes,

I did not want to put it in the femme room as that is their personal space to play ..

Nina · 06-02-2011, 04:18 PM

I just had a bit of a 'play'

Mister Bent · 06-02-2011, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by June

No. But it makes your head look ginormous, and not in the super smart way.

Better than narrow!

Tommi · 06-02-2011, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Merlin

Why when a femme asks you how she looks in an outfit .. Does she think your lying when you tell her she looks amazing ?

Never. Because, in the eyes of the beholder, "femme" always looks amazing.

signing up, because...i've been on vacation and missed the funny's

Rockinonahigh · 06-02-2011, 05:34 PM

The last time I had the privelige of ansering this question form a femme We were geting ready to go to a dance then she came out of the bathroom all dolled up..I never gave her the chance to ask the "do I look ok or dose the make my butt look big ect" I just got up then told her she looked fantastic...gave he a big kiss ..well u get the idea,we were late for the dance.

intrigue_in916 · 10-03-2011, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Tommi

Never. Because, in the eyes of the beholder, "femme" always looks amazing.

signing up, because...i've been on vacation and missed the funny's

Tommi, Those were key words, 'BEAUTY IS ALWAYS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER'

cuddlyfemme · 10-05-2011, 06:10 AM

I totally agree with Intergue...Tommi those are the key words "Beauty Is In The Eye of the Beholder" It doesn't matter what others think is beautiful, its only what you think

apretty · 06-03-2011, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Merlin

Why when a femme asks you how she looks in an outfit .. Does she think your lying when you tell her she looks amazing ?

don't generalize (and while doing so disparage) about femmes so much, please and thank you.

Inked_Trinity · 06-18-2011, 06:16 PM

A femme always needs reassuring, it's not that she doesn't believe you....she just needs to know that she is still hot in your eyes.

cane · 06-19-2011, 03:44 AM

I don't think I acctually have to say anything to my woman, my eyes say it all. And yes, I know she belives in them...

1PlayfulFemme · 06-19-2011, 04:24 AM

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Originally Posted by cane

I don't think I acctually have to say anything to my woman, my eyes say it all. And yes, I know she belives in them...

Totally from my perspective...words always help

But, it's true...I always know the compliment is sincere when I can see that glow in their eyes....regardless of who it is from. You know...there's a difference in "you look nice honey" and "YOU ARE GORGEOUS!" *Smiling*

1PlayfulFemme · 06-19-2011, 04:28 AM

Oh! And! It never hurts to change the compliments up from time to time.

I used to struggle with what to call my butch when she went to all sorts of trouble to look amazing..and I wanted her to know I noticed..and it worked!

She ids female, so Handsome didn't feel right with her. Beautiful wasn't gonna cut it for her esteem. Finally, Striking rolled off my tongue..and it stuck. Now, I take my own advice and use other words, but I tend to stick to that safe middle ground where I don't feminize her (as a butch) and don't masculanize her (as a woman). So far, so good!

(does anyone find it interesting that "Feminize" is a word but "Masculanize" is not? And is my brain just too tired, or is there a better word out there??)

Tcountry · 06-19-2011, 05:01 AM

hmmmm ....feminize, womanize....but no male id 'ize' words...

Anyway....YES! Mix it up .... & u look good or fine is never enough. Hott, sexy, beautiful.....looking at her & asking if we HAVE to go...lol all work
My favorite look on Sunshyne just gets a "can I just look at u?" Almost speechless response

Chazz · 06-19-2011, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by 1PlayfulFemme

....(does anyone find it interesting that "Feminize" is a word but "Masculanize" is not? And is my brain just too tired, or is there a better word out there??)

Both are neologisms, artifacts from patriarchy. Why the need to genderize compliments

when a simple you look amazing, awesome, delicious, breathtaking, terrific, lovely, etc. would do, and do much better.

There is a difference between a compliment and reassurance.

Heart · 06-19-2011, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by 1PlayfulFemme

She ids female, so Handsome didn't feel right with her. Beautiful wasn't gonna cut it for her esteem.

I know quite a few handsome women and beautiful butches. Yum.

06-02-2011, 03:24 PM	#1
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Guys and Butches ask the same thing. My grandmother taught me that "thank you" is the right answer for a compliment and I try to go with that. __________________

06-03-2011, 04:14 PM	#4
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	I hate having my makeup mussed up when I'm all ready to go out __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

06-02-2011, 04:01 PM	#6
Merlin Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Knight in shining armour. Relationship Status: Spoken for Join Date: May 2011 Location: England Posts: 250 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 87 Thanked 547 Times in 170 Posts Rep Power: 6763778	Lol .. I wanted a thread like this for a bit of chat between butches and femmes, I did not want to put it in the femme room as that is their personal space to play .. __________________ https://youtu.be/IWvEXChflEE

06-19-2011, 03:44 AM	#15
cane Member How Do You Identify?: male identified butch Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2010 Location: Sweden Posts: 294 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 119 Thanked 357 Times in 122 Posts Rep Power: 1030324	I don't think I acctually have to say anything to my woman, my eyes say it all. And yes, I know she belives in them... __________________ "Vivamus, mea Lesbia, atque amemus"

06-19-2011, 04:28 AM	#17
1PlayfulFemme Member How Do You Identify?: An Unwitting Thread Derailer! Preferred Pronoun?: She, femme through and through Relationship Status: She is my soul. Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: In a lil sparkle of fairydust Posts: 1,026 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,890 Thanked 2,362 Times in 697 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Oh! And! It never hurts to change the compliments up from time to time. I used to struggle with what to call my butch when she went to all sorts of trouble to look amazing..and I wanted her to know I noticed..and it worked! She ids female, so Handsome didn't feel right with her. Beautiful wasn't gonna cut it for her esteem. Finally, Striking rolled off my tongue..and it stuck. Now, I take my own advice and use other words, but I tend to stick to that safe middle ground where I don't feminize her (as a butch) and don't masculanize her (as a woman). So far, so good! (does anyone find it interesting that "Feminize" is a word but "Masculanize" is not? And is my brain just too tired, or is there a better word out there??) __________________ In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed. Khalil Gibran Whatever you fear most has no power. It is your fear that holds the power. -Oprah Winfrey

06-02-2011, 04:18 PM	#7
Nina Timed Out How Do You Identify?: unmistakably Preferred Pronoun?: dearheart Relationship Status: In love, loved and Happy, thanks for askin' Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: SF CA Posts: 1,720 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,113 Thanked 3,384 Times in 931 Posts Rep Power: 0	I just had a bit of a 'play'

06-02-2011, 05:34 PM	#10
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	The last time I had the privelige of ansering this question form a femme We were geting ready to go to a dance then she came out of the bathroom all dolled up..I never gave her the chance to ask the "do I look ok or dose the make my butt look big ect" I just got up then told her she looked fantastic...gave he a big kiss ..well u get the idea,we were late for the dance.

10-05-2011, 06:10 AM	#12
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	I totally agree with Intergue...Tommi those are the key words "Beauty Is In The Eye of the Beholder" It doesn't matter what others think is beautiful, its only what you think

06-18-2011, 06:16 PM	#14
Inked_Trinity Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: BadAss! / Sarcastic Bastard! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Earth Posts: 2,352 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,507 Thanked 6,927 Times in 1,819 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	A femme always needs reassuring, it's not that she doesn't believe you....she just needs to know that she is still hot in your eyes.

06-19-2011, 05:01 AM	#18
Tcountry Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Country Boi Preferred Pronoun?: call it as u see it Relationship Status: Completely...complete ;) Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Either at the beach or in the pool Posts: 1,665 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,929 Thanked 4,287 Times in 1,181 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	hmmmm ....feminize, womanize....but no male id 'ize' words... Anyway....YES! Mix it up .... & u look good or fine is never enough. Hott, sexy, beautiful.....looking at her & asking if we HAVE to go...lol all work My favorite look on Sunshyne just gets a "can I just look at u?" Almost speechless response __________________ "You don't Find life worth living; You MAKE IT that way"