Modern Manners - Facebook et al

genghisfawn · 01-24-2012, 03:26 AM

So I was going on dates with someone recently - just dates. I was clear that I am enjoying being single and just dating but that I am open to taking things slow, etc. Hy seemed fine with this and said hy was enjoying the same.

Fast forward. Seems hy's carrying on a rather intense romance with someone via Facebook. This is someone hy's never met and never will meet (too far, too expensive, etc.) I ask hym to please let her know hy's also dating other people, just to be fair to her.

Hy starts getting a little on the odd side. I'm not saying mean or weird, but definitely starting to crowd my space too much. I redraw my boundaries in the nicest way possible, and ask hym to please give me a little time. The next day hy's changed hys relationship status to reflect that hy and this girl are in a relationship.

So the question is:

Are modern manners so bad nowadays that it's no longer just the height of rudeness to have to find out via e-mail that one is no longer eligible for dates, but indirectly via social media? Is this okay? I'm actually so stymied by the rudeness of it all - rather, the rudeness I perceive - that I'm really not sure if it's okay at all.

01-24-2012, 03:26 AM	#1
genghisfawn Member How Do You Identify?: Femme/Gentlewoman Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: Happily married 05/17/14 Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Saskatchewan, Canada Posts: 561 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,056 Thanked 2,158 Times in 403 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Modern Manners - Facebook et al So I was going on dates with someone recently - just dates. I was clear that I am enjoying being single and just dating but that I am open to taking things slow, etc. Hy seemed fine with this and said hy was enjoying the same. Fast forward. Seems hy's carrying on a rather intense romance with someone via Facebook. This is someone hy's never met and never will meet (too far, too expensive, etc.) I ask hym to please let her know hy's also dating other people, just to be fair to her. Hy starts getting a little on the odd side. I'm not saying mean or weird, but definitely starting to crowd my space too much. I redraw my boundaries in the nicest way possible, and ask hym to please give me a little time. The next day hy's changed hys relationship status to reflect that hy and this girl are in a relationship. So the question is: Are modern manners so bad nowadays that it's no longer just the height of rudeness to have to find out via e-mail that one is no longer eligible for dates, but indirectly via social media? Is this okay? I'm actually so stymied by the rudeness of it all - rather, the rudeness I perceive - that I'm really not sure if it's okay at all.