The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

Jet · 11-17-2009, 01:46 PM

A place to visit and relate to each other being in our 40s & 50s and over. Topics vary on anything you want to share.
(Barb I stole your original thread and moved it over here lol)

Jet · 11-20-2009, 01:26 PM

I'm bumping this up. Am I the only one who's old?...LOL

Apocalipstic · 11-20-2009, 01:30 PM

Nahhh, lots of oldies here

I love being 46 though, nothing to prove.

Jet · 11-20-2009, 01:34 PM

You're way young....

Apocalipstic · 11-20-2009, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

You're way young....

Yeah, an infant!

Apocalipstic · 11-20-2009, 02:38 PM

Seriously though, so many of my friends have always been younger but I am pretty settled now and don't party like I once did. I do feel very old in some ways. My immediate circle of friends is changing radically.

I find myself more and more wanting to be home in front of the fireplace with my honey and our dogs and kitties, I never imagined I would reach an age where I would rather eat dirt than go out. The only time I have more than 2 cocktails is at family stuff...and I consider that medicinal...ha.

Last weekend, we actually went to a bar with a friend, and as soon as the crowd lumbered in, we went home. It was 9:30. Yep. There used to be a time when I was at the bar almost every night...though who can afford that and a house now?

Anyone else see a change in things you enjoy and friendships as you age?

Cowboi · 11-20-2009, 03:01 PM

Oldie here..........

Kimbo · 11-20-2009, 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Seriously though, so many of my friends have always been younger but I am pretty settled now and don't party like I once did. I do feel very old in some ways. My immediate circle of friends is changing radically.

I find myself more and more wanting to be home in front of the fireplace with my honey and our dogs and kitties, I never imagined I would reach an age where I would rather eat dirt than go out. The only time I have more than 2 cocktails is at family stuff...and I consider that medicinal...ha.

Last weekend, we actually went to a bar with a friend, and as soon as the crowd lumbered in, we went home. It was 9:30. Yep. There used to be a time when I was at the bar almost every night...though who can afford that and a house now?

Anyone else see a change in things you enjoy and friendships as you age?

Many many changes, things I notice are about the same as yours. Staying up til midnight is a late night, and I cracked up when I visited my best friend of 30 years recently and he said "no drinking on a work night".

I really enjoy staying home. Now the big change for me is to move, had the economy not tanked I would of done it by now. My bones need warmth and sun...the cold, damp Seattle winters have run their course with me.

I'm sure I'll be back with more but right now I've gotta take a nap..hehe

Lady Jewel · 11-20-2009, 09:59 PM

Hey all

I am 48 and would not change all the years of experience to be young again for all the money in the world. I am in place where I know who I am, where I am going and really like myself.

Jewel

Jet · 11-20-2009, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by apocalipstic

There used to be a time when I was at the bar almost every night...

God I remember those days.

Lady Jewel · 11-20-2009, 10:04 PM

I think I got very lucky and pretty much avoided the bar life. And for sure at my age, I have zero interest in it.

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

God I remember those days.

HumV4me · 11-20-2009, 10:06 PM

~~HEY~~ 41, here. And a Grandmother... I prefer it as **G-Ma**.

And I'm just waiting to get over to whole "Hang on to your youth" thing so I can just stop dying the grey and cut the color right outa my hair... yes... I'm go'na to cut that color right outa my hair.

LOL

I find myself focused on taking care of the parents now... the role has totally flipped... I'm the caretaker now. CRAZY! I would never had imagined such a thing happening.

I do good getting 3 or 4 events a ~~YEAR~~ now with all the ((grown up)) things I have to do.

Diva · 11-20-2009, 10:50 PM

I'll be 57 my next birthday (Feb).....that sounds so surreal to me! lol I don't FEEL 57......I don't feel as though I LOOK 57.....I certainly don't ACT 57!!

That being said, I DO find that I am increasingly more impatient with people who act the fool. If You're cranky, mean to people, shit~stirrers or passive~aggressive, I really don't have time for that.

There's a part of me that is really looking forward to being a grandmother, but I'm not telling my daughter that! lol And I'm not having the "Grandma/Granny/MeeMaw/Nana" stuff.....I'm going to teach them something unusual....like "Diva". Yes....it has served me well for many years.....it might as well continue on.....

Abigail Crabby · 11-20-2009, 10:57 PM

I'm thinking this is where I belong - cuz I've kissed 50 and s/he kissed me back a couple of times

WolfyOne · 11-20-2009, 11:46 PM

Looking around the place and liking this Loft. Wondering how I missed seeing this thread. Pulling up an overstuffed recliner and getting comfy because.....well, just because I can, lol. I'm just gonna watch for a while as I sit back and check ya'll out.

WolfyOne · 11-20-2009, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by HumV4me

~~HEY~~ 41, here. And a Grandmother... I prefer it as **G-Ma**.

And I'm just waiting to get over to whole "Hang on to your youth" thing so I can just stop dying the grey and cut the color right outa my hair... yes... I'm go'na to cut that color right outa my hair.

LOL

I find myself focused on taking care of the parents now... the role has totally flipped... I'm the caretaker now. CRAZY! I would never had imagined such a thing happening.

I do good getting 3 or 4 events a ~~YEAR~~ now with all the ((grown up)) things I have to do.

Personally I think grey is sexy and you wear it so well.

Kimbo · 11-21-2009, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Diva

That being said, I DO find that I am increasingly more impatient with people who act the fool. If You're cranky, mean to people, shit~stirrers or passive~aggressive, I really don't have time for that.

Ya know this is so very true -- I have no patients for fucking games, I'm to damn old. If a person can't deal with issues head on then fuck 'em, it's juvenile and energy wasting.

I became a grand kinda person/parent last year when my son married a woman who has a child. He is 16, I think he's to old for us to bond...and he just calls me Kim which is alright with me.

Happy weekend Lofters...

I am fortunate to be spending the day with many others from my B-F family -- I feel some trouble coming on.

morningstar55 · 11-21-2009, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

I'm bumping this up. Am I the only one who's old?...LOL

... hell no. ya old fart......

thank u ....... Ol jet. for giving us other old farts a hang out place.... hehe

Jet · 11-21-2009, 12:28 PM

Well hey everybody welcome to the thread...I'm on and off here real fast, getting ready to see the movie Precious. I should say I'm bracing myself for it considering the subject matter and some pretty upsetting scenes.

Y'all have a good day.

Andrew, Jr. · 11-21-2009, 02:56 PM

Hi All! I'm 46 yo. This last year has really aged me. Life is very unfair, and unkind, but I am surviving.

I will definitely be back to see my friends who are in the same boat.

Namaste,
Andrew

11-17-2009, 01:46 PM	#1
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over. A place to visit and relate to each other being in our 40s & 50s and over. Topics vary on anything you want to share. (Barb I stole your original thread and moved it over here lol)

11-20-2009, 02:38 PM	#6
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Zygote here....:) Seriously though, so many of my friends have always been younger but I am pretty settled now and don't party like I once did. I do feel very old in some ways. My immediate circle of friends is changing radically. I find myself more and more wanting to be home in front of the fireplace with my honey and our dogs and kitties, I never imagined I would reach an age where I would rather eat dirt than go out. The only time I have more than 2 cocktails is at family stuff...and I consider that medicinal...ha. Last weekend, we actually went to a bar with a friend, and as soon as the crowd lumbered in, we went home. It was 9:30. Yep. There used to be a time when I was at the bar almost every night...though who can afford that and a house now? Anyone else see a change in things you enjoy and friendships as you age?

11-20-2009, 03:01 PM	#7
Cowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Holding My Red Circle Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Louisiana Posts: 1,811 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,051 Thanked 3,962 Times in 1,230 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Oldie here.......... __________________ Let There Be Cowgirls

11-20-2009, 10:06 PM	#12
HumV4me Member How Do You Identify?: FEMME Preferred Pronoun?: Honey, Baby, Love, Dearest Relationship Status: in an animal house Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CALIFORNIA Posts: 131 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 49 Thanked 75 Times in 34 Posts Rep Power: 100332	~~HEY~~ 41, here. And a Grandmother... I prefer it as G-Ma. And I'm just waiting to get over to whole "Hang on to your youth" thing so I can just stop dying the grey and cut the color right outa my hair... yes... I'm go'na to cut that color right outa my hair. LOL I find myself focused on taking care of the parents now... the role has totally flipped... I'm the caretaker now. CRAZY! I would never had imagined such a thing happening. I do good getting 3 or 4 events a ~~YEAR~~ now with all the ((grown up)) things I have to do. __________________ Alicia Ann

11-20-2009, 01:26 PM	#2
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm bumping this up. Am I the only one who's old?...LOL

11-20-2009, 01:30 PM	#3
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Nahhh, lots of oldies here I love being 46 though, nothing to prove.

11-20-2009, 01:34 PM	#4
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	You're way young....

11-20-2009, 09:59 PM	#9
Lady Jewel Member How Do You Identify?: * Preferred Pronoun?: * Relationship Status: * Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 298 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 120 Thanked 322 Times in 124 Posts Rep Power: 792	Hey all I am 48 and would not change all the years of experience to be young again for all the money in the world. I am in place where I know who I am, where I am going and really like myself. Jewel

11-20-2009, 10:50 PM	#13
Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,175 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'll be 57 my next birthday (Feb).....that sounds so surreal to me! lol I don't FEEL 57......I don't feel as though I LOOK 57.....I certainly don't ACT 57!! That being said, I DO find that I am increasingly more impatient with people who act the fool. If You're cranky, mean to people, shit~stirrers or passive~aggressive, I really don't have time for that. There's a part of me that is really looking forward to being a grandmother, but I'm not telling my daughter that! lol And I'm not having the "Grandma/Granny/MeeMaw/Nana" stuff.....I'm going to teach them something unusual....like "Diva". Yes....it has served me well for many years.....it might as well continue on.....

11-20-2009, 10:57 PM	#14
Abigail Crabby Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Princess Relationship Status: Single, but sociable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mount Airy, NC Posts: 4,226 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14,554 Thanked 9,668 Times in 2,484 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I'm thinking this is where I belong - cuz I've kissed 50 and s/he kissed me back a couple of times

11-20-2009, 11:46 PM	#15
WolfyOne Magically Delicious How Do You Identify?: Gentle Butch Relationship Status: Single and content Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 6,558 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,052 Thanked 15,391 Times in 4,138 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Looking around the place and liking this Loft. Wondering how I missed seeing this thread. Pulling up an overstuffed recliner and getting comfy because.....well, just because I can, lol. I'm just gonna watch for a while as I sit back and check ya'll out.

11-21-2009, 12:28 PM	#19
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Well hey everybody welcome to the thread...I'm on and off here real fast, getting ready to see the movie Precious. I should say I'm bracing myself for it considering the subject matter and some pretty upsetting scenes. Y'all have a good day.

11-21-2009, 02:56 PM	#20
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hi All! I'm 46 yo. This last year has really aged me. Life is very unfair, and unkind, but I am surviving. I will definitely be back to see my friends who are in the same boat. Namaste, Andrew