The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

HumV4me · 11-20-2009, 10:06 PM

~~HEY~~ 41, here. And a Grandmother... I prefer it as **G-Ma**.

And I'm just waiting to get over to whole "Hang on to your youth" thing so I can just stop dying the grey and cut the color right outa my hair... yes... I'm go'na to cut that color right outa my hair.

LOL

I find myself focused on taking care of the parents now... the role has totally flipped... I'm the caretaker now. CRAZY! I would never had imagined such a thing happening.

I do good getting 3 or 4 events a ~~YEAR~~ now with all the ((grown up)) things I have to do.

Diva · 11-20-2009, 10:50 PM

I'll be 57 my next birthday (Feb).....that sounds so surreal to me! lol I don't FEEL 57......I don't feel as though I LOOK 57.....I certainly don't ACT 57!!

That being said, I DO find that I am increasingly more impatient with people who act the fool. If You're cranky, mean to people, shit~stirrers or passive~aggressive, I really don't have time for that.

There's a part of me that is really looking forward to being a grandmother, but I'm not telling my daughter that! lol And I'm not having the "Grandma/Granny/MeeMaw/Nana" stuff.....I'm going to teach them something unusual....like "Diva". Yes....it has served me well for many years.....it might as well continue on.....

Kimbo · 11-21-2009, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Diva

That being said, I DO find that I am increasingly more impatient with people who act the fool. If You're cranky, mean to people, shit~stirrers or passive~aggressive, I really don't have time for that.

Ya know this is so very true -- I have no patients for fucking games, I'm to damn old. If a person can't deal with issues head on then fuck 'em, it's juvenile and energy wasting.

I became a grand kinda person/parent last year when my son married a woman who has a child. He is 16, I think he's to old for us to bond...and he just calls me Kim which is alright with me.

Happy weekend Lofters...

I am fortunate to be spending the day with many others from my B-F family -- I feel some trouble coming on.

AtlantaButch824 · 07-28-2010, 11:25 AM

I am just out of a 10.5 yr relationship. I left all my friends and family in southwest ga to move to Atlanta. We had no social life and it sucks trying to make new friends. I cancelled 4 dating site memberships because I was paying. So many head games and that was the ones that would respond to an instant message. I just want to go out and meet new friends.

AtlantaButch824 · 07-28-2010, 11:27 AM

this is the 3rd time I tried to reply to a post and it posted somewhere else
this is getting aggravating.

cuddlyfemme · 08-01-2010, 07:33 AM

Atlanta Butch, I know what you mean about leaving all your friends and family to be with that special person who turns out to be not that special...been there...done that. I find that dating sites are full of people who just want to play head games not to mention charge ridiculous prices just for those head games

ruthie14 · 08-01-2010, 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

Atlanta Butch, I know what you mean about leaving all your friends and family to be with that special person who turns out to be not that special...been there...done that. I find that dating sites are full of people who just want to play head games not to mention charge ridiculous prices just for those head games

me too... over and over and over ....it's starting to make me crazy!

Diva · 08-01-2010, 09:01 AM

Yes.....just once for me. But once was enough......

I actually moved to Atlanta! Home again now in Austin, Texas.....and thank God for that!

ruthie14 · 08-01-2010, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

me too... over and over and over ....it's starting to make me crazy!

Don't want to be misunderstood... I haven't moved for anyone... learned NOT to do that from my lesbian sister who did.... I just keep finding women who play games... again and again and again.

morningstar55 · 08-02-2010, 01:24 PM

strangest thing happend today.......
ya know.. last week sometime... i was poking around the internet, and looked up...... truck driving for celeberties/concerts etc.....
and it came up with several companies and what the qaulifcations are and such... ok .. just lookng courious....
i get these tarot card reading things coming to my wall on FB ... and just about every reading or every other one.... its gives u like 3 a day i dont know why... but it keeps telling me of change, changes, etc...
well.... i had a load I took to canada friday, while i droped it off, (Panther who i work for) sent me a message to pick up another load which was 20 miles away, up north of Toronto, it was stage stuff for .. Metallica..(it was dragons , lazers, war tanks and fogg stuff..) and I thought??? yeha.. this is awsome.. cuz most the time , cept sometimes i haul car parts. so this was cool... and wierd that I got a load like this , cuz i have not mentioned anything about this story to anyone.. of doing the search for trucking companies/jobs doing this sort of thing.
soo ok i get here..... just east of Harrisburg Pa where im droping the stage stuff at some sort of warehouse storage place they have here..
well here were all these other trucks here with trailers with other major concert stuff.... with a couple companies names on the trucks i seen on line.
well after sitting there waiting for someone to unload my truck and listening to these trucker guys talk there stuff and all ...one of them who seemd in charge of several trucks, walked away then came bk a lil later and asked for info about my truck and owner... and wants to se if he can hire my truck for hauling ahhhhhhhhhh concert stuff.... heh.. says they need some smaller trucks like mine.... now how wierd is that???

lipstixgal · 08-02-2010, 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

strangest thing happend today.......
ya know.. last week sometime... i was poking around the internet, and looked up...... truck driving for celeberties/concerts etc.....
and it came up with several companies and what the qaulifcations are and such... ok .. just lookng courious....
i get these tarot card reading things coming to my wall on FB ... and just about every reading or every other one.... its gives u like 3 a day i dont know why... but it keeps telling me of change, changes, etc...
well.... i had a load I took to canada friday, while i droped it off, (Panther who i work for) sent me a message to pick up another load which was 20 miles away, up north of Toronto, it was stage stuff for .. Metallica..(it was dragons , lazers, war tanks and fogg stuff..) and I thought??? yeha.. this is awsome.. cuz most the time , cept sometimes i haul car parts. so this was cool... and wierd that I got a load like this , cuz i have not mentioned anything about this story to anyone.. of doing the search for trucking companies/jobs doing this sort of thing.
soo ok i get here..... just east of Harrisburg Pa where im droping the stage stuff at some sort of warehouse storage place they have here..
well here were all these other trucks here with trailers with other major concert stuff.... with a couple companies names on the trucks i seen on line.
well after sitting there waiting for someone to unload my truck and listening to these trucker guys talk there stuff and all ...one of them who seemd in charge of several trucks, walked away then came bk a lil later and asked for info about my truck and owner... and wants to se if he can hire my truck for hauling ahhhhhhhhhh concert stuff.... heh.. says they need some smaller trucks like mine.... now how wierd is that???

Good luck to you Morningstar!!

RockOn · 08-02-2010, 05:07 PM

My take on the dating sites is that they are meat markets.

morningstar55 · 08-02-2010, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by AtlantaButch824

this is the 3rd time I tried to reply to a post and it posted somewhere else
this is getting aggravating.

(((((((((((((((AltantaButch)))))))))))))))
hate it when that happens.. lol

naturlover_52 · 08-02-2010, 04:09 PM

I think that that is SOOO great that you may have a new job moving concert stuff...that sounds like it would be great better than trucking Car parts. I hope that it works out for YOU and Best of luck.

WolfyOne · 11-20-2009, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by HumV4me

~~HEY~~ 41, here. And a Grandmother... I prefer it as **G-Ma**.

And I'm just waiting to get over to whole "Hang on to your youth" thing so I can just stop dying the grey and cut the color right outa my hair... yes... I'm go'na to cut that color right outa my hair.

LOL

I find myself focused on taking care of the parents now... the role has totally flipped... I'm the caretaker now. CRAZY! I would never had imagined such a thing happening.

I do good getting 3 or 4 events a ~~YEAR~~ now with all the ((grown up)) things I have to do.

Personally I think grey is sexy and you wear it so well.

Jet · 11-22-2009, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by HumV4me

......I can just stop dying the grey and cut the color right outa my hair... yes... I'm go'na to cut that color right outa my hair.

LOL

Did you really mean"I'm gonna wash that man right outta my hair..."?Yep, you belong in here...this is the place for folks who are old enough to hum tunes from South Pacific....LOL
Awwww hell, ain't it grand to be older to remember great stuff?

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PNl5p-TpGPU"]YouTube- I'm Gonna Wash That Man Right Out Of My Hair - South Pacific - Complete Audio[/ame]

Lynn · 11-22-2009, 10:41 AM

I'm 49, going on 50 in August. I always felt good about getting older and, hopefully, wiser. But, 50 is kind of daunting. I'm told I look younger, like in my 30's. But, does that eventually catch up with someone, and become odd rather than attractive? We'll see! I'm a lot happier in my 40's than I ever was before. Coming out and being myself, and all that, is a great stress reliever and source of energy and inspiration! I'm always looking for the right hangout, so thanks for setting this up.

Jet · 11-22-2009, 10:47 AM

Welcome to the Loft, Lynn.

HumV4me · 11-22-2009, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by WolfyOne

Personally I think grey is sexy and you wear it so well.

Thank you so much my friend... LOL

Quote:

Originally Posted by hpychick

I'm 45, a mom of 3, a grandmother of 6...and guess what??? I'm still sparkly!!!

Life gets more beautiful as the days go along.

WE LOVE ~~SPARKLY~~!

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Originally Posted by BullDog

Great thread Jet. 47 years old and still going strong. I can't say I have slowed down much from my wild and crazy days since I wasn't ever that wild and crazy to begin with, lol. One thing that I have discovered as I grow older is time definitely does seem to fly by the older I get. I try to remember to take the time to appreciate people and things in my life. Also nothing replaces life experience. Nothing. And us older types do have more of it.

I have to agree here also. This year is one of the fastest years I've ever seen go by... and the ironic thing about time going by so fast is... (((I say the same thing every year))) so it seems.

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

Did you really mean"I'm gonna wash that man right outta my hair..."?Yep, you belong in here...this is the place for folks who are old enough to hum tunes from South Pacific....LOL
Awwww hell, ain't it grand to be older to remember great stuff?

Now that is a good one... I didn't think about that tune... but the tune I was thinking about was the old hair coloring commercial ~~I'm gon'a wash that grey right outa my hair!~~ LOL It's all along the same lines though.

Jet · 11-22-2009, 12:10 PM

Now that is a good one... I didn't think about that tune... but the tune I was thinking about was the old hair coloring commercial ~~I'm gon'a wash that grey right outa my hair!~~ LOL It's all along the same lines though.[/QUOTE]

that's where Clairol or whomever got their Idea..lol

11-20-2009, 10:06 PM	#1
HumV4me Member How Do You Identify?: FEMME Preferred Pronoun?: Honey, Baby, Love, Dearest Relationship Status: in an animal house Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CALIFORNIA Posts: 131 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 49 Thanked 75 Times in 34 Posts Rep Power: 100332	~~HEY~~ 41, here. And a Grandmother... I prefer it as G-Ma. And I'm just waiting to get over to whole "Hang on to your youth" thing so I can just stop dying the grey and cut the color right outa my hair... yes... I'm go'na to cut that color right outa my hair. LOL I find myself focused on taking care of the parents now... the role has totally flipped... I'm the caretaker now. CRAZY! I would never had imagined such a thing happening. I do good getting 3 or 4 events a ~~YEAR~~ now with all the ((grown up)) things I have to do. __________________ Alicia Ann

08-02-2010, 01:24 PM	#10
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	strangest thing happend today....... ya know.. last week sometime... i was poking around the internet, and looked up...... truck driving for celeberties/concerts etc..... and it came up with several companies and what the qaulifcations are and such... ok .. just lookng courious.... i get these tarot card reading things coming to my wall on FB ... and just about every reading or every other one.... its gives u like 3 a day i dont know why... but it keeps telling me of change, changes, etc... well.... i had a load I took to canada friday, while i droped it off, (Panther who i work for) sent me a message to pick up another load which was 20 miles away, up north of Toronto, it was stage stuff for .. Metallica..(it was dragons , lazers, war tanks and fogg stuff..) and I thought??? yeha.. this is awsome.. cuz most the time , cept sometimes i haul car parts. so this was cool... and wierd that I got a load like this , cuz i have not mentioned anything about this story to anyone.. of doing the search for trucking companies/jobs doing this sort of thing. soo ok i get here..... just east of Harrisburg Pa where im droping the stage stuff at some sort of warehouse storage place they have here.. well here were all these other trucks here with trailers with other major concert stuff.... with a couple companies names on the trucks i seen on line. well after sitting there waiting for someone to unload my truck and listening to these trucker guys talk there stuff and all ...one of them who seemd in charge of several trucks, walked away then came bk a lil later and asked for info about my truck and owner... and wants to se if he can hire my truck for hauling ahhhhhhhhhh concert stuff.... heh.. says they need some smaller trucks like mine.... now how wierd is that??? __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-02-2010, 05:07 PM	#12
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Dating sites .... My take on the dating sites is that they are meat markets.

08-02-2010, 04:09 PM	#14
naturlover_52 Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch/bi Preferred Pronoun?: she and her are just fine....Sweetcheeks hey you Relationship Status: seeing someone long distance but soon will be both in Ca love her very much Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: So Calif East San Gabrielle Valley aka the land of shake and bake Posts: 108 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 85 Thanked 89 Times in 44 Posts Rep Power: 3426	Change I think that that is SOOO great that you may have a new job moving concert stuff...that sounds like it would be great better than trucking Car parts. I hope that it works out for YOU and Best of luck.

11-20-2009, 10:50 PM	#2
Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,174 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'll be 57 my next birthday (Feb).....that sounds so surreal to me! lol I don't FEEL 57......I don't feel as though I LOOK 57.....I certainly don't ACT 57!! That being said, I DO find that I am increasingly more impatient with people who act the fool. If You're cranky, mean to people, shit~stirrers or passive~aggressive, I really don't have time for that. There's a part of me that is really looking forward to being a grandmother, but I'm not telling my daughter that! lol And I'm not having the "Grandma/Granny/MeeMaw/Nana" stuff.....I'm going to teach them something unusual....like "Diva". Yes....it has served me well for many years.....it might as well continue on.....

07-28-2010, 11:25 AM	#4
AtlantaButch824 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: does it really matter Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Atlanta Posts: 30 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 25 Thanked 35 Times in 15 Posts Rep Power: 121158	I am just out of a 10.5 yr relationship. I left all my friends and family in southwest ga to move to Atlanta. We had no social life and it sucks trying to make new friends. I cancelled 4 dating site memberships because I was paying. So many head games and that was the ones that would respond to an instant message. I just want to go out and meet new friends.

07-28-2010, 11:27 AM	#5
AtlantaButch824 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: does it really matter Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Atlanta Posts: 30 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 25 Thanked 35 Times in 15 Posts Rep Power: 121158	this is the 3rd time I tried to reply to a post and it posted somewhere else this is getting aggravating.

08-01-2010, 07:33 AM	#6
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496123	Atlanta Butch, I know what you mean about leaving all your friends and family to be with that special person who turns out to be not that special...been there...done that. I find that dating sites are full of people who just want to play head games not to mention charge ridiculous prices just for those head games

08-01-2010, 09:01 AM	#8
Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,174 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	Yes.....just once for me. But once was enough...... I actually moved to Atlanta! Home again now in Austin, Texas.....and thank God for that!

11-22-2009, 10:41 AM	#17
Lynn Member How Do You Identify?: Unabashed Feminine Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: Her, She Relationship Status: Married! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 689 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,499 Thanked 2,414 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9668975	I'm 49, going on 50 in August. I always felt good about getting older and, hopefully, wiser. But, 50 is kind of daunting. I'm told I look younger, like in my 30's. But, does that eventually catch up with someone, and become odd rather than attractive? We'll see! I'm a lot *happier* in my 40's than I ever was before. Coming out and being myself, and all that, is a great stress reliever and source of energy and inspiration! I'm always looking for the right hangout, so thanks for setting this up.

11-22-2009, 10:47 AM	#18
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Welcome to the Loft, Lynn.

11-22-2009, 12:10 PM	#20
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Now that is a good one... I didn't think about that tune... but the tune I was thinking about was the old hair coloring commercial ~~I'm gon'a wash that grey right outa my hair!~~ LOL It's all along the same lines though.[/QUOTE] that's where Clairol or whomever got their Idea..lol