The Femmes That Love You...

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Originally Posted by Beloved

So I have a question for you. If you are with someone who is trans than he must be out to everyone as trans so other people don't think you could be a straight couple?

If the person I am with accepts that I am queer, that is enough for me. My ID isn't dependent on anyone else. I'm really unaffected how others may perceive me based on what kind of relationship they think I'm in.

Oh god, I go through this all the time! I HATE outing my husband, but whenever I don't out myself to lesbians (I have a rule that I don't ever out him to str8 people or gay men) they immediately assume I've 'gone straight'. It doesn't matter if they know I was a lesbian for 15 years, or that I'm part of an LGBT organisation, or even that I was once married to a woman. The fact that I'm with a man now makes me 'straight'. Knowing he is trans however changes that, they are still confused but at least I can be queer.