Is Marriage for you?

Fatale · 10-01-2012, 02:25 PM

I recently received an invitation to a lesbian wedding in the mail and found myself hosting dichotomous emotions. On the one hand, of course I was happy for my friends. They've found someone with whom they want to share their lives, come what may. On the other, I myself thinking, "Ugh, really? Do we have to be so fucking assimilationistic? (I doubt that's an actual word, but it works for me contextually) Of course I'm all for everyone having equal rights, blah, blah, but do we always have to resort to heteronormative paradigms? I think that's my biggest issue with the whole marriage "thing". I want the benefits, should I choose to embrace them, but I so strongly wish it didn't mirror nonqueer society in order to grant me said rights. Is that just having cake and wanting to eat it, too?

View Poll Results: What is your ststus?
I am unmarried in my State or Country	103	58.52%
I am married in my State or Country	27	15.34%
I have had an alternate joining which is not legally marriage	18	10.23%
I wouldn't get married if they paid me!	28	15.91%
Voters: 176. You may not vote on this poll

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10-01-2012, 02:25 PM	#11
Fatale Member How Do You Identify?: Not your average babe in the woods. Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Singular Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: The edge Posts: 210 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22 Thanked 896 Times in 166 Posts Rep Power: 12150548	I recently received an invitation to a lesbian wedding in the mail and found myself hosting dichotomous emotions. On the one hand, of course I was happy for my friends. They've found someone with whom they want to share their lives, come what may. On the other, I myself thinking, "Ugh, really? Do we have to be so fucking assimilationistic? (I doubt that's an actual word, but it works for me contextually) Of course I'm all for everyone having equal rights, blah, blah, but do we always have to resort to heteronormative paradigms? I think that's my biggest issue with the whole marriage "thing". I want the benefits, should I choose to embrace them, but I so strongly wish it didn't mirror nonqueer society in order to grant me said rights. Is that just having cake and wanting to eat it, too?