Butch/Butch Theory

[The_Lady_Snow]

Internal homophobia is an ugly stain in our queer tapestry...

Originally Posted by Mormegil

I have been attracted to femme and butch in the past. But anymore im almost always attracted to butches. I recently spoke to a woman that flat out told me i was weird because im more attracted to other butch women. She then informed me it is unnatural . I was kinda shocked and told her that some folks think gay in general is unnatural. And that i think you should just like what you like and thats it. She then told me its to weird and two butches together make her think of two men. I asked about femme /femme and that was unnatural to. I just quit talking to her lol .

Ive also had my brother tell me it would be hard for me to find a butch that would date me because im butch. And i say thats bs. Ive seen plenty butch/butch couples. And i attended the wedding of a soft butch and butch that had been together 20 years. So i say its natural and more common than some believe.

[JDeere]

Who cares who loves who and what label, they use, love is love!

Just my little take on the subject

[Angeltoes]

I don't think it's always a case of internalized homophobia. Some femmes may pout about the butch/butch dynamic for the simple reason that they're jealous. It means fewer butches available to them, especially if they find the butches involved to be attractive. It's hard to find a partner and it's easier to pass the blame for that by saying 'no wonder I can't find a partner when all the butches are being taken by other butches!" I have had brief moments where I felt that way. I know it's dumb and selfish, but I'm human. I always come to my senses, because we all need to find love and happiness. Life's too short to worry about other people's expectations.

[kittygrrl]

I think it's hot...everybody deserves to be happy

[Angeltoes]

I said we all need love, because whether we deserve it depends on the individual. Clearly not everyone deserves love, because some people don't behave in lovable ways. If they do behave well but never find love, then whose fault is it that they didn't get what they deserved? God's fault? Society's fault? There's no point in walking around thinking we didn't get what we deserved.

It's one thing to say that love is a need. It makes little sense to say that love is something we 'deserve.' We don't always get our needs met in life and sometimes we have make up for that in other ways.

[kittygrrl]

Originally Posted by Angeltoes

I said we all need love, because whether we deserve it depends on the individual. Clearly not everyone deserves love, because some people don't behave in lovable ways. If they do behave well but never find love, then whose fault is it that they didn't get what they deserved? God's fault? Society's fault? There's no point in walking around thinking we didn't get what we deserved.

It's one thing to say that love is a need. It makes little sense to say that love is something we 'deserve.' We don't always get our needs met in life and sometimes we have make up for that in other ways.

"little sense to say that love is something we deserve" hmm well that is an interesting point of view, however, there are all kinds of love in this world, romantic love is only one kind..

[Angeltoes]

Originally Posted by kittygrrl

"little sense to say that love is something we deserve" hmm well that is an interesting point of view, however, there are all kinds of love in this world, romantic love is only one kind..

True. I was just thinking the same thing. Some people are aromantic and don't even want romantic love.