Cancer Support and Caregivers Who Are Trail Blazers!

[easygoingfemme]

Originally Posted by Wrang1er

My mother isn't doing well. She started having abdominal pain shortly before Covid-19 struck. After that, I was unable to go in with her for chemo, oncologist appointments and tests. Although I continued speaking to them on the phone it made everything more difficult and continues to do do. In May they said she had a partial bowel blockage and she was in the hospital for 9 days. Her tumors are growing and pressing against her small intestine and colon. They did a biopsy and found that her cancer has a breast cancer mutation. Which means there is one chemo that is used for breast cancer that may possibly work. IF it gets approved. It could be denied because my mother has ovarian cancer. The oncologist said if it doesn't get approved or doesn't work she would have approximately 3-6 months. She had a drainage gtube put in Thursday morning. She seemed to be doing better on Friday but terrible yesterday and today.

I'm trying to make sure I'm doing everything possible to help her feel comfortable and feel better. I worry I may not do something correctly and she may suffer due to that. I'm more than a little stressed. My mother and I have not always had the best relationship but it breaks my heart to see her suffering and in pain. I'm trying to stay positive. I'm hoping things fall into place and she gets better.

I'm just confused and having trouble pinpointing what went wrong so quickly. She's been fighting this since July 2015 and for the most part kicking cancer's ass.

I'd appreciate if you read this if you would send prays, good juju... whatever you believe in for my momma.

Wrang, how is your mother doing? How are you?

[Wrang1er]

Originally Posted by Teddybear

Wrangler

We have been holding your mom up in prayer since I read this. I know how difficult it can be to care for someone who we havent had the best of relationships with.

I am sure you are doing everything you can to help her and to be there for her.

Continued prayers

Originally Posted by easygoingfemme

Wrang, how is your mother doing? How are you?

Not good, easy. The last three days have been rough due to pain. I haven't been able to get her to eat very much because of the nausea.

The chemo was approved. It's Herceptin. She's scheduled for an echocardiogram on the 24th. The problem is I don't know that'll she be strong enough to even attempt it.

Last night she told me she doesn't want to suffer. This morning she told me to have my older sister to come after work to plan the funeral.

As for me... I read the post earlier and since then have been trying to figure that out. The only thing I can come up with is that I don't know. There's just so much. So many feelings at once.

I don't want her to suffer. I'm still hoping something changes and she gets the chemo and it works but things aren't looking that way. I have taken to sleeping in the living room on the floor near the couch. I think it comforts her and that in turn helps me. I don't want her to be alone.

Anyway, I'm rambling, still trying to figure out how I am doing. I'm going to think about it some more. Maybe I'll pin something down.

I appreciate you asking, easy. I hope you and yours are happy, healthy and safe.

~W