Cancer Support and Caregivers Who Are Trail Blazers!

clay · 06-16-2020, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Wrang1er

My mother isn't doing well. She started having abdominal pain shortly before Covid-19 struck. After that, I was unable to go in with her for chemo, oncologist appointments and tests. Although I continued speaking to them on the phone it made everything more difficult and continues to do do. In May they said she had a partial bowel blockage and she was in the hospital for 9 days. Her tumors are growing and pressing against her small intestine and colon. They did a biopsy and found that her cancer has a breast cancer mutation. Which means there is one chemo that is used for breast cancer that may possibly work. IF it gets approved. It could be denied because my mother has ovarian cancer. The oncologist said if it doesn't get approved or doesn't work she would have approximately 3-6 months. She had a drainage gtube put in Thursday morning. She seemed to be doing better on Friday but terrible yesterday and today.

I'm trying to make sure I'm doing everything possible to help her feel comfortable and feel better. I worry I may not do something correctly and she may suffer due to that. I'm more than a little stressed. My mother and I have not always had the best relationship but it breaks my heart to see her suffering and in pain. I'm trying to stay positive. I'm hoping things fall into place and she gets better.

I'm just confused and having trouble pinpointing what went wrong so quickly. She's been fighting this since July 2015 and for the most part kicking cancer's ass.

I'd appreciate if you read this if you would send prays, good juju... whatever you believe in for my momma.

Wrang & Mom).....have had you & mom on my mind a lot. Just came by to send you light & love. Hang in there my friend!

Wrang1er · 06-16-2020, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by clay

Wrang & Mom).....have had you & mom on my mind a lot. Just came by to send you light & love. Hang in there my friend!

Clay,

I feel like you've been here since the beginning. I can't express how much your support has meant.

Your love and light is accepted and returned to you, my friend. Thank you!

Starfish · 06-17-2020, 12:40 AM

Prayers for all in this thread. May you have peace, comfort and relief from pain both physical and emotional.

easygoingfemme · 06-17-2020, 04:51 AM

Wrang, that all sounds really difficult. I'm glad you're able to be there with your mom now and even sleeping on the floor next to her. That's absolutely comforting to you both. I did the same a few times when my mom had cancer and she stayed with me a few times when I was in chemo and really having a hard time of it. It's a very helpless feeling when you can't take the pain away but you can be a loving presence and that's what you are doing.

Herceptin isn't as rough as some other chemos but still, if she's not strong enough for it, I don't know how much it could benefit or hurt and that's a horrible decision to make.

Take care of yourself as you can. Drink water. Take deep breaths. I'll be thinking of you.

06-17-2020, 12:40 AM	#3
Starfish Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Married to my Forever Join Date: Apr 2020 Location: Texas Posts: 152 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 372 Thanked 294 Times in 90 Posts Rep Power: 3221236	Prayers for all in this thread. May you have peace, comfort and relief from pain both physical and emotional. __________________ Articulate your why.

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easygoingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Lil' Miss Sassy Pants Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: My place by the river Posts: 3,692 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,023 Thanked 14,972 Times in 3,318 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Wrang, that all sounds really difficult. I'm glad you're able to be there with your mom now and even sleeping on the floor next to her. That's absolutely comforting to you both. I did the same a few times when my mom had cancer and she stayed with me a few times when I was in chemo and really having a hard time of it. It's a very helpless feeling when you can't take the pain away but you can be a loving presence and that's what you are doing. Herceptin isn't as rough as some other chemos but still, if she's not strong enough for it, I don't know how much it could benefit or hurt and that's a horrible decision to make. Take care of yourself as you can. Drink water. Take deep breaths. I'll be thinking of you.