A Community Request

[sharkchomp]

I'm personally against shooting kittens from any region. I don't hold glitter grudges.... just saying

sly grin

~~~shark~~~~~~~~

[Gemme]

Breachies = breach birth...er, extraction. Claws could....hurt.

Thought I'd clear that up.

[SassyLeo]

I love the "personal bubble"

A couple of years ago, June and I were talking about friendships and she said "friend bubble". It made SO much sense to me!

What got me thinking is how we all come from our own life experiences and then from all kinds of different communities...some of us know each other from more than one and each has their own dynamic. I think it is easy for those environments to bleed into each other... and although it can be great when they collide, I think it is also important to remember the different energies... "bubbles"

June - please explain better

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by SassyLeo

I love the "personal bubble"

A couple of years ago, June and I were talking about friendships and she said "friend bubble". It made SO much sense to me!

What got me thinking is how we all come from our own life experiences and then from all kinds of different communities...some of us know each other from more than one and each has their own dynamic. I think it is easy for those environments to bleed into each other... and although it can be great when they collide, I think it is also important to remember the different energies... "bubbles"

June - please explain better

I think I see where you are going with this. In my mind's eye, I see those hideous circles they made us do in geometry that are separate but some overlap.

For example, one circle would be blue and over there. One circle would be red and over here. There would be a section of the circles that overlapped (those with common elements, such as mutual friends or interests) and that section would be purple. Each circle has its own environment and parameters but the purple is unique in that it is a blend of the two separate circles (with their energies already in place), therefore coming up with its own energy that is derived from the energies of the red and blue circles.

Okay, it may not make sense to anyone else, but I get it.

[waxnrope]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I think I see where you are going with this...

Okay, it may not make sense to anyone else, but I get it.

I am so glad that you get it ...

[SassyLeo]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I think I see where you are going with this. In my mind's eye, I see those hideous circles they made us do in geometry that are separate but some overlap.

For example, one circle would be blue and over there. One circle would be red and over here. There would be a section of the circles that overlapped (those with common elements, such as mutual friends or interests) and that section would be purple. Each circle has its own environment and parameters but the purple is unique in that it is a blend of the two separate circles (with their energies already in place), therefore coming up with its own energy that is derived from the energies of the red and blue circles.

Okay, it may not make sense to anyone else, but I get it.

Yes!

I remember when I first became involved in the community. I joined the dash site and I purposely spent a fair amount of time reading...trying to guage the tone of language and conversation dynamics.

At first I spent alot of time in the "fluff" threads because I didn't feel I was as knowledgeable about gender and b-f stuff. I didn't want to appear or sound lame... I don't recall it being specifically about others being made fun of or called out, mostly my own fear of sounding like a total idiot.

Gradually as I learned and read more, I participated in the more intense threads and I am sure I still said some completely ridiculous stuff (and still do), but I was much more willing to take the risk - I think partially because I felt more "comfy" with the site energy and also I think by that time I had met some folks in person (bay area b-f group events), so it made it easier for me to connect.

I try to give the benefit of the doubt... I think (someone can call me on this if I'm oblivious )

[Strappie]

Medusa....

What a great reminder and thank you for posting this. I think it is important that we ask to clarify before we JUMP all over someone. I have seen a few times when someone refers to someone as one ID and they are not that ID and that person gets ridiculed. If they are new they will NOT have a clue as to what YOU ID AS....

I for one am all for being patient and giving them the opportunity to get to know who I am and how ID as.

I agree with everything else that was said too!!

Thank you once again Medusa!~

[WolfyOne]

This thread is turning out to be just what I expected.......shared effort and community spirit.

I remember how hard it was for me to find my place and fit in, way back. When on another site as a newbie, many old timers would jump on anything you wrote that didn't conform to their way of thinking. I used to back away from many threads because of it. Over the last couple of years, I've learned to hold my own. I promised myself when this site opened and I became a member that I would not put anyone through what I had to go through to fit in somewhere. I've tried really hard to help newbies I see here if I'm not familiar with them from another place. I want us to keep new members not chase them away. Community is about standing up for each other and helping those that don't understand to be aware. We have to remember, we were them once. Debates are great, but not at the cost of embarrassing another in public view.

Admin, thank you for all you do to make this a great place. A place that feels like a home. A place worth coming back, again and again. A place where love or at least like is felt and not hate. A place where as a community we can help others become whomever they want to be.

[Dude]

We might could use some of them there aura fluffers

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Dude

We might could use some of them there aura fluffers

I hesitate to use any kind of fluffer.

[Dude]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I hesitate to use any kind of fluffer.

it's only scarey the first time

[Nat]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I hesitate to use any kind of fluffer.

you crack me up.

I wouldn't even know what a fluffer is if I hadn't seen that documentary about anabelle chong. I wonder how one goes about becoming a professional fluffer. Like, is it a job you just fall into, or is it more of a chosen career path? I would totally like to read a history of fluffers.

[Arwen]

Some threads need bumping. Read the first post first.

[Medusa]

Hey Planeteers!

I'm bumping this thread in anticipation of what might be a small influx of new signups. We have steadily seen anywhere from 5 - 15 new signups a day for a long time, with it being a strong average of 10 a day most of the time.
I just renewed an ad on Facebook with some vey specific targeted marketing toward Butches, Femmes, Genderqueers, and Transfolks who might not yet be members of the site. This might mean that we get several new people who are either new to the dynamic or new to having a "home" on a community forum.
I wanted to ask everyone to read the first post in this thread again as a reminder of how to greet newbies or help folks find their way who are new here. I trust that everyone here will be amazing!

Thanks!
me

[rlin]

Originally Posted by Medusa

Hey Planeteers!

I'm bumping this thread in anticipation of what might be a small influx of new signups. We have steadily seen anywhere from 5 - 15 new signups a day for a long time, with it being a strong average of 10 a day most of the time.
I just renewed an ad on Facebook with some vey specific targeted marketing toward Butches, Femmes, Genderqueers, and Transfolks who might not yet be members of the site. This might mean that we get several new people who are either new to the dynamic or new to having a "home" on a community forum.
I wanted to ask everyone to read the first post in this thread again as a reminder of how to greet newbies or help folks find their way who are new here. I trust that everyone here will be amazing!

Thanks!
me

i was lately reminded of how tenuous our stay around these parts is... with that in mind i wanted to take the opportunity to tell you that things like this post are only a fraction of the reason i think that you and jack are flippn amazing folks!!

[WolfyOne]

I forgot about this thread and started to reread many posts. I think we should all remember how awkward some of us felt in the beginning. Coming out and/or being new to an online community. Learning how to write it the way we think it should be written, so others don't jump on us and make us want to never post again. Keep in mind many newbies are timid or shy when it comes to posting, so it only takes one harsh post to them to make them stop posting. Perhaps PMing them instead of embarrassing them (even if we don't think it's embarrassing, they might). Some newbies have no problem fitting in from the start because friends sent them here. If they don't post a thread in the newbies forum, maybe go welcome them on their message board and they'll start feeling comfy with us. I'd like to know, in time that we'll all mix and mingle never thinking about the newbie that was once awkward in the beginning.

[Medusa]

I just wanted to bump this thread to remind folks to take some extra care with our newbies.

I just accepted about 200 friends requests on Facebook which might mean we get some new faces around here. Please be patient and take extra time to explain things if someone seems confused.

The first post in this thread is a good read. I thank all of you for your continued support of this community!

[Linus]

I still want to know how I can make glittery kittens shoot from my nether regions.

[amiyesiam]

Originally Posted by Linus

I still want to know how I can make glittery kittens shoot from my nether regions.

well first you take a kitten................

well actually you better get the glitter ready first

so fill a large pot, bowl, bag full of glitter (color to be determined by you cause it is your region)

then you take a kitten (make sure it is color coordinated with your glitter for best effect)

take hold of the kitten firmly (you might want gloves on for this part)
spray said kitten with some type of spay on adhesive
(I don't recommend glue as you would have to roll the kitten in it and might lose you grip and the kitten. You won't catch that particular kitten again and would have to get another kitten)
quickly, but gently, (well as gently as you can be with a 10 oz ball of tacky, screeching kitten) dunk the tacky kitten in the glitter. And roll em about thoroughly.
When the kitten has reached a glitter level that meets with your approval, take kitten out of glitter and place in a secure kitten carrier. (you will never find it again if you let it go)

NOW, for the next part, you are gonna need the help of a very close friend.............

[Jet]

I also want to request that you take the time to *ask for and provide clarification* in conversations where someone may have inadvertently used an incorrect identifier for you or someone else or made an unglamorous or clumsy statement. Please stop and ask yourself if it is possible that the person might merely be new or if they might not yet have familiararity with your personal way of being.


we'll do.....