Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

Sweepea · 08-19-2010, 06:37 PM

I am soft like a cactus--- I am femme. I am Mother, sister daughter but not lover---to someone.
Once I love you ... I love you forever.I dont love quickly. I am a strong and powerful woman when I need to be.
I am not a good housewife-- I hate to cook and clean the house. I am passionate and loving and will bring you caugh drops at midnight.
I am a BBW and I love myself.
I have long nails and short hair yet do not wear makeup.
I love being a woman who loves woman---and hyms and hys...
I have a "thing" for shoes... high heels... I love them. Can't wear them...I like to people watch and the beach is a perfect place to watch.
I am a Cancer---ruled by the moon. I am bitchy and demanding and loving and giving in 0-5 seconds. I forget. But when I do rememeber--- beware!!!

I am content with myself.

Laerkin · 08-19-2010, 07:09 PM

I'm so inspired by so many of you. It's like reading bits and pieces of myself in each post.

Hmmmm. How to put this into words...

I am in love with my femininity and my girlie parts. I love my curves and I like to show them off. But I do it for me and no one else.

I am smart. Education is important to me. I use my brains to navigate a largely male-dominated profession and I excel at it.

I'm not hell-bent on titles or labels. I am Femme, but I am so much more and so much less. It is one tiny facet of my multi-dimensional person. The moment I begin to take myself too seriously, I question why and move in another direction.

The Femme I am is bossy, independent, strong, opinionated, passionate, caring, loving, affectionate and sometimes I need more than I am willing to let on because I don't like appearing weak.

Being a woman is a gift the likes of which I cannot describe (and yes, I think women are better than men because of the magic they can create and nurture within their bodies...LOL).

I am not a mother and I'm not sure I want to be.

Strength is vital to me, but I weep at the thought of an animal suffering for any reason and I cry at the drop of a hat at the movies (but don't point it out or I'll get embarrassed).

I love being touched, I think laughter is not only the best medicine but the sexiest trait about a person, and I try to live as close to compassion as possible...but I fail often.

My confidence rarely wavers and when it does I won't admit it because I'm stubborn. It's rare that my feelings get hurt because I don't take much personally, but when they are hurt it cuts deep.

I forgive easily, I trust readily, I love frequently, and I try to appreciate the people around me every single day.

I am loyal to a fault, I protect everyone around me.

I put everyone before myself which makes the people in my life feel nurtured and cared for, but often leaves me exhausted and without any energy to care for myself.

I am a work in progress and I love the lessons I learn every day, even the ones that hurt a lot.

My sexuality and identity are fluid. I change and grow every single day and I try not to ever get stagnant or content.

I smile. A LOT. A LOT. LOL.

I squeal when something startles me, I'm super ticklish, I love cute shoes and low-cut tops but I don't mind getting dirty and getting my hands into something messy. I want to learn as much as I possibly can about the world and other cultures.

Though I would never admit it out loud (EVER), I sometimes need protection from the world and I'm too proud to ever ask for it.

I am me and I love being complicated and messy and fun and crazy-passionate.

I love being pretty and sassy even though it's totally impractical.

I've been wounded deeply more than once in ways that are unforgivable, but I am never a victim. I don't believe in feeling sorry for myself or in using something from past as an excuse for my behavior now.

Strong women and kind men inspire me. Spirituality is super important to me but I am not religious in any way.

I am Laerkin.

waxnrope · 08-19-2010, 07:18 PM

Damn. This is a beautiful thread. Thank you all for just being. For expressing both grace and power.

LieslKate · 08-19-2010, 08:23 PM

Prime Lesbian Femme Feminist Submissive Amazon Dyke Riot Grrl... kind of says it all !

girl_dee · 08-19-2010, 08:39 PM

I'm many different femmes!

Sometimes I am feisty and have quiet an edge

Sometimes I am a tomboy gutting a fish in cutoffs and tank tops

Sometimes I am a girl, in a pretty frock, waiting for Daddy to get home

Sometimes I am submissive, and restrained to Sir's bed

Sometimes I am a hard worker and get the job done

Sometimes I am a writer, a photographer, an artist and a deep thinker.

Mostly I am just me.

JinxdGirl · 08-20-2010, 04:01 AM

I am the femme that was told I wasn't.
I am tomboy and girlieboi.
I rarely wear make up or perfume.
I shower before chatting with my crush, to make sure I am feeling pretty.
I have an amazingly sexy voice.
I don't believe I'm beautiful, but I'd like to.
I'm not a "what you see is what you get" girl.
I'm a grown ass woman.
I'm a little girl.
I am tougher than most.
I am strong physically, emotionally and spiritually.
I am a survivor of life.
I am a middle school drop out with a Good Enough Diploma.
I struggle, daily, to love myself.
I am loved, cherished, respected, praised.
I am the devil's advocate.
I am a provider.
I am a co-parent.
I am protective, intimidating, fierce.
I am painfully shy in person.
I am flirtatious without trying to be.
I have been broken, dropped, forgotten.
I am putting myself back together, remembering my truth.
I am my own worst enemy.
I am partially deaf.
I am a home chef, a nurturer, a baker, a babysitter, a friend.
I am disowned.
I am fighting the good fight.
I am healing, changing, evolving.
I am and always will be fat.
I enjoy being a fat chick, even though I am working to be a less fat chick.
I am healthy.
I am bipolar.
I am every woman you've never known.
I am becoming my own friend.
I am FEMME by my own damned standards!

Lynn · 08-20-2010, 08:16 AM

I am a lesbian femme, in awe of the strength, beauty, and depth of all women. I am a feminist femme, claiming the power of who I am, and supporting the rights of women and men. I am an older femme, finally coming into my own. I am a bedroom femme, loving the dynamics of the butch-femme mystery.

FeminineAllure · 08-21-2010, 08:51 PM

By describing the woman that I am emerges the femme that I am.
Breaking it down-
I am full of dichotomies.
I am so comfortable being a woman. I am soft with some rough edges. Feminine yet love to wear sweatpants, slippers and *her* shirt over my choices of many dresses, skirts and heels that fill my closets. I will wear just her shirt while wearing lipstick of crimson red and my best perfume. My nails will be done and my feet will be soft with my toes polished. Then again I may wear a beautiful flowing skirt with no make up on in my bare feet to an afternoon picnic. What I wear does not define who I am. I define who I am.
I have an open mind and I am trisexual. I will try almost anything at least once. I like pain at times. I like letting my inner little girl out at times. I like being submissive. Don't judge me and I will not judge you.
I raised myself well. I came from a dysfunctional family yet I turned out pretty functional. I am compassionate, kind, thoughtful, creative, empathetic. I value not someones degree, but what they have learned from life itself. How many hours someone has spent in a classroom has never impressed me but I admire their ambition. I must have consistancy in my life.
I will show you my friends and you will see me. I have many aquaintences but very few close friends. They are my friends for life.
I love animals but especially cats. They are the children I could never have. Not having children has never defined me as a woman. My cats have taught me responsibility, gentleness, patience...Patience is one of my weaknesses. I don't like to wait for things. I am spontaneous!
I mean what I say and put great value on other peoples words as well.
I am spiritual but not religious.
I am a larger woman. But I love pretty clothes. I asked at a VS store employee why their PINK collection does not go past a size L? I told them to e mail me when it did. It was Christmas time in a long line and you could just feel the smiles from the customers and the sales womans face was priceless. I do speak up for myself and others quite often.
I am learning to love the body I am in. I take many medications that put weight on. So I will never be a petite woman again. Acceptance of myself as living, loving, being who I am without any appologies...That is one of my biggest lessons I am learning as a woman. I am the best femme that I can be. And I only look forward to getting better as I age.
I almost forgot to add...Butches make me weak in the knees and they compliment the femme that I am so well.

CherylNYC · 08-21-2010, 09:08 PM

OK. I'll take my turn.

I'm a kick-ass, self sufficient and resourceful, strong in every way, fierce and fiercely loyal, hippie lesbian feminist, pagan biker-dyke femme.

I'm a sexually submissive, masochist leatherdyke, stonefemme bottom femme.

I'm a work clothes that stand up by themselves because they are covered in dimensional gak that would disgust a homeless person femme.

I'm a play clothes that monopolize ALL your attention, and heels so high that only drag queens and I can wear them femme. I can run in them, too.

I'm a please buy me power tools for my birthday femme. My sculpture studio is packed to the rafters with tools and projects, so perhaps I don't really need more power tools, but I'll think you're super cool if you bring me a useful tool that I don't yet own.

I'm a too shy to make the first move femme. I want to be courted. Some day my prince will come, but I will not be happy if said prince assumes that she will be paying for dinner.

I'm a femme with a backyard full of motorcycles which I ride and repair. I wear make-up sometimes, but no nail polish unless my nails are irretrievably filthy. Deep red hides best, but metallic blue matches my best bike.

I'm a DO NOT cross me femme, and a DO NOT EVEN THINK about hurting my friends if you want to live femme.

I'm an urban and urbane NYC femme. I listen to obscure and difficult music, go out to exquisite NYC performances and have erudite conversations with overeducated friends.

I garden naked and swear at the raccoons that dug up my blueberry bush and continue to threaten my cats that I will turn them into hats just as soon as I get my hands on them. Deer and Canada geese look like dinner to me. Hell, if I'm hungry enough even a well fed squirrel looks like dinner to this urban barbarian femme.

I'm a feline femme who purrs, plays and cuddles like a kitten, and fights the good fight like a pride of lions, after which I want nothing more than to fall to my knees in front of a big, strong, butch top.

There are many facets to my femme-ness, indeed. Even I can't command enough words to adequately describe them all.

Mtn · 09-14-2010, 12:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sassy_girl

I'm many different femmes!

Sometimes I am feisty and have quiet an edge

Sometimes I am a tomboy gutting a fish in cutoffs and tank tops

Sometimes I am a girl, in a pretty frock, waiting for Daddy to get home

Sometimes I am submissive, and restrained to Sir's bed

Sometimes I am a hard worker and get the job done

Sometimes I am a writer, a photographer, an artist and a deep thinker.

Mostly I am just me.

and you are PERFECT

08-19-2010, 06:37 PM	#1
Sweepea Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Highland CA Posts: 19 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14 Thanked 31 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 81	Cactus I am soft like a cactus--- I am femme. I am Mother, sister daughter but not lover---to someone. Once I love you ... I love you forever.I dont love quickly. I am a strong and powerful woman when I need to be. I am not a good housewife-- I hate to cook and clean the house. I am passionate and loving and will bring you caugh drops at midnight. I am a BBW and I love myself. I have long nails and short hair yet do not wear makeup. I love being a woman who loves woman---and hyms and hys... I have a "thing" for shoes... high heels... I love them. Can't wear them...I like to people watch and the beach is a perfect place to watch. I am a Cancer---ruled by the moon. I am bitchy and demanding and loving and giving in 0-5 seconds. I forget. But when I do rememeber--- beware!!! I am content with myself.

08-19-2010, 08:23 PM	#4
LieslKate Member How Do You Identify?: Prime Lesbian Femme Feminist Submissive Amazon Dyke Riot Grrl... :) Preferred Pronoun?: the Feminine... Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Saint John, New Brunswick Canada Posts: 105 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 255 Thanked 106 Times in 47 Posts Rep Power: 31	I am... Prime Lesbian Femme Feminist Submissive Amazon Dyke Riot Grrl... kind of says it all ! __________________ *The Life well lived, the Journey blessed.*

08-20-2010, 08:16 AM	#7
Lynn Member How Do You Identify?: Unabashed Feminine Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: Her, She Relationship Status: Married! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 689 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,499 Thanked 2,414 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9668975	I am a lesbian femme, in awe of the strength, beauty, and depth of all women. I am a feminist femme, claiming the power of who I am, and supporting the rights of women and men. I am an older femme, finally coming into my own. I am a bedroom femme, loving the dynamics of the butch-femme mystery. __________________ In the flush of love's light we dare be brave And suddenly we see that love costs all we are and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free. Maya Angelou Wedding Photos: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?...1&l=22b092b98c

08-21-2010, 08:51 PM	#8
FeminineAllure Member How Do You Identify?: Female Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: My rainbow is way overdue Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: PA Posts: 1,145 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,659 Thanked 2,026 Times in 555 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	By describing the woman that I am emerges the femme that I am. Breaking it down- I am full of dichotomies. I am so comfortable being a woman. I am soft with some rough edges. Feminine yet love to wear sweatpants, slippers and her shirt over my choices of many dresses, skirts and heels that fill my closets. I will wear just her shirt while wearing lipstick of crimson red and my best perfume. My nails will be done and my feet will be soft with my toes polished. Then again I may wear a beautiful flowing skirt with no make up on in my bare feet to an afternoon picnic. What I wear does not define who I am. I define who I am. I have an open mind and I am trisexual. I will try almost anything at least once. I like pain at times. I like letting my inner little girl out at times. I like being submissive. Don't judge me and I will not judge you. I raised myself well. I came from a dysfunctional family yet I turned out pretty functional. I am compassionate, kind, thoughtful, creative, empathetic. I value not someones degree, but what they have learned from life itself. How many hours someone has spent in a classroom has never impressed me but I admire their ambition. I must have consistancy in my life. I will show you my friends and you will see me. I have many aquaintences but very few close friends. They are my friends for life. I love animals but especially cats. They are the children I could never have. Not having children has never defined me as a woman. My cats have taught me responsibility, gentleness, patience...Patience is one of my weaknesses. I don't like to wait for things. I am spontaneous! I mean what I say and put great value on other peoples words as well. I am spiritual but not religious. I am a larger woman. But I love pretty clothes. I asked at a VS store employee why their PINK collection does not go past a size L? I told them to e mail me when it did. It was Christmas time in a long line and you could just feel the smiles from the customers and the sales womans face was priceless. I do speak up for myself and others quite often. I am learning to love the body I am in. I take many medications that put weight on. So I will never be a petite woman again. Acceptance of myself as living, loving, being who I am without any appologies...That is one of my biggest lessons I am learning as a woman. I am the best femme that I can be. And I only look forward to getting better as I age. I almost forgot to add...Butches make me weak in the knees and they compliment the femme that I am so well. __________________ Remember anyone can love you when the sun is shining...In the storm is where you learn who truly cares for you

08-21-2010, 09:08 PM	#9
CherylNYC Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: I'm a woman. Behave accordingly. Relationship Status: Single, not looking. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NYC Posts: 1,467 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,474 Thanked 7,111 Times in 1,205 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	OK. I'll take my turn. I'm a kick-ass, self sufficient and resourceful, strong in every way, fierce and fiercely loyal, hippie lesbian feminist, pagan biker-dyke femme. I'm a sexually submissive, masochist leatherdyke, stonefemme bottom femme. I'm a work clothes that stand up by themselves because they are covered in dimensional gak that would disgust a homeless person femme. I'm a play clothes that monopolize ALL your attention, and heels so high that only drag queens and I can wear them femme. I can run in them, too. I'm a please buy me power tools for my birthday femme. My sculpture studio is packed to the rafters with tools and projects, so perhaps I don't really need more power tools, but I'll think you're super cool if you bring me a useful tool that I don't yet own. I'm a too shy to make the first move femme. I want to be courted. Some day my prince will come, but I will not be happy if said prince assumes that she will be paying for dinner. I'm a femme with a backyard full of motorcycles which I ride and repair. I wear make-up sometimes, but no nail polish unless my nails are irretrievably filthy. Deep red hides best, but metallic blue matches my best bike. I'm a DO NOT cross me femme, and a DO NOT EVEN THINK about hurting my friends if you want to live femme. I'm an urban and urbane NYC femme. I listen to obscure and difficult music, go out to exquisite NYC performances and have erudite conversations with overeducated friends. I garden naked and swear at the raccoons that dug up my blueberry bush and continue to threaten my cats that I will turn them into hats just as soon as I get my hands on them. Deer and Canada geese look like dinner to me. Hell, if I'm hungry enough even a well fed squirrel looks like dinner to this urban barbarian femme. I'm a feline femme who purrs, plays and cuddles like a kitten, and fights the good fight like a pride of lions, after which I want nothing more than to fall to my knees in front of a big, strong, butch top. There are many facets to my femme-ness, indeed. Even I can't command enough words to adequately describe them all. __________________ Cheryl

08-19-2010, 07:09 PM	#2
Laerkin Member How Do You Identify?: Girlie with a touch of bossy Preferred Pronoun?: She, but not hung up on the details Relationship Status: Parenting our furry family with SmoothButch Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Washington DC Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 772 Thanked 963 Times in 257 Posts Rep Power: 4366972	I'm so inspired by so many of you. It's like reading bits and pieces of myself in each post. Hmmmm. How to put this into words... I am in love with my femininity and my girlie parts. I love my curves and I like to show them off. But I do it for me and no one else. I am smart. Education is important to me. I use my brains to navigate a largely male-dominated profession and I excel at it. I'm not hell-bent on titles or labels. I am Femme, but I am so much more and so much less. It is one tiny facet of my multi-dimensional person. The moment I begin to take myself too seriously, I question why and move in another direction. The Femme I am is bossy, independent, strong, opinionated, passionate, caring, loving, affectionate and sometimes I need more than I am willing to let on because I don't like appearing weak. Being a woman is a gift the likes of which I cannot describe (and yes, I think women are better than men because of the magic they can create and nurture within their bodies...LOL). I am not a mother and I'm not sure I want to be. Strength is vital to me, but I weep at the thought of an animal suffering for any reason and I cry at the drop of a hat at the movies (but don't point it out or I'll get embarrassed). I love being touched, I think laughter is not only the best medicine but the sexiest trait about a person, and I try to live as close to compassion as possible...but I fail often. My confidence rarely wavers and when it does I won't admit it because I'm stubborn. It's rare that my feelings get hurt because I don't take much personally, but when they are hurt it cuts deep. I forgive easily, I trust readily, I love frequently, and I try to appreciate the people around me every single day. I am loyal to a fault, I protect everyone around me. I put everyone before myself which makes the people in my life feel nurtured and cared for, but often leaves me exhausted and without any energy to care for myself. I am a work in progress and I love the lessons I learn every day, even the ones that hurt a lot. My sexuality and identity are fluid. I change and grow every single day and I try not to ever get stagnant or content. I smile. A LOT. A LOT. LOL. I squeal when something startles me, I'm super ticklish, I love cute shoes and low-cut tops but I don't mind getting dirty and getting my hands into something messy. I want to learn as much as I possibly can about the world and other cultures. Though I would never admit it out loud (EVER), I sometimes need protection from the world and I'm too proud to ever ask for it. I am me and I love being complicated and messy and fun and crazy-passionate. I love being pretty and sassy even though it's totally impractical. I've been wounded deeply more than once in ways that are unforgivable, but I am never a victim. I don't believe in feeling sorry for myself or in using something from past as an excuse for my behavior now. Strong women and kind men inspire me. Spirituality is super important to me but I am not religious in any way. I am Laerkin.

08-19-2010, 07:18 PM	#3
waxnrope Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 5/27/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: hy ho, hy ho; he, she, it, whatever Relationship Status: Going slow ... Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: in her orifices ... la frontera Posts: 1,433 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,414 Thanked 2,957 Times in 952 Posts Rep Power: 0	Damn. This is a beautiful thread. Thank you all for just being. For expressing both grace and power.

08-19-2010, 08:39 PM	#5
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,830 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	I'm many different femmes! Sometimes I am feisty and have quiet an edge Sometimes I am a tomboy gutting a fish in cutoffs and tank tops Sometimes I am a girl, in a pretty frock, waiting for Daddy to get home Sometimes I am submissive, and restrained to Sir's bed Sometimes I am a hard worker and get the job done Sometimes I am a writer, a photographer, an artist and a deep thinker. Mostly I am just me.

08-20-2010, 04:01 AM	#6
JinxdGirl Member How Do You Identify?: Tomyboy Femme Preferred Pronoun?: The girl ones, please! Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Greensboro, NC Posts: 123 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 293 Thanked 168 Times in 48 Posts Rep Power: 215554	I am the femme that was told I wasn't. I am tomboy and girlieboi. I rarely wear make up or perfume. I shower before chatting with my crush, to make sure I am feeling pretty. I have an amazingly sexy voice. I don't believe I'm beautiful, but I'd like to. I'm not a "what you see is what you get" girl. I'm a grown ass woman. I'm a little girl. I am tougher than most. I am strong physically, emotionally and spiritually. I am a survivor of life. I am a middle school drop out with a Good Enough Diploma. I struggle, daily, to love myself. I am loved, cherished, respected, praised. I am the devil's advocate. I am a provider. I am a co-parent. I am protective, intimidating, fierce. I am painfully shy in person. I am flirtatious without trying to be. I have been broken, dropped, forgotten. I am putting myself back together, remembering my truth. I am my own worst enemy. I am partially deaf. I am a home chef, a nurturer, a baker, a babysitter, a friend. I am disowned. I am fighting the good fight. I am healing, changing, evolving. I am and always will be fat. I enjoy being a fat chick, even though I am working to be a less fat chick. I am healthy. I am bipolar. I am every woman you've never known. I am becoming my own friend. I am FEMME by my own damned standards!