Big Butch Love

Leigh · 08-25-2010, 09:01 AM

One of My favorite threads has been revived and I'm so happy about that ~ it still shows Me that us big guys are appreciated and loved by beautiful women

skeeter_01 · 08-25-2010, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Braedon

One of My favorite threads has been revived and I'm so happy about that ~ it still shows Me that us big guys are appreciated and loved by beautiful women

Amen brudda!!

femmebotdyke · 08-26-2010, 06:44 PM

Interesting thread. I tend not to use the terms "obese" or "overweight" because I think that they are negative, pathologizing and unhelpfully position some bodies as normative and others as "deviant". I prefer "fat".

With regards to health, I prefer the HAES (Health at Every Size) approach as an alternative to weight-loss dieting, which I believe is unhealthy. I know a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders and she made the point in a recent interview that the very behaviours prescribed as solutions to those labelled ''overweight'' or ''obese'' are often the same practices she as a practitioner diagnoses in those with clinical eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia. I think part of the reason conversations like these are often very highly-charged is that it's difficult to separate out fat stigma from questions around body size and health. Anyway, there are growing number of resources available to fat people- many of them targeted to queer, lesbian, butch/femme and transgender audiences. If anyone's interested in fat-positive materials for butches of size, just message me.

As far as sexual attraction is concerned, I'm not attracted to fat or bigger butches in spite of their size but because of it. A big butch really turns my head and gets the juices flowing! Of course I'm not only attracted to fat butches and instant physical attraction isn't the only or even the primary characteristic I look for in a prospective partner but in a room of otherwise equally attractive butches, it's ze fat butch who attracts and holds my attention first.

nycfem · 08-26-2010, 07:18 PM

I love your post and so agree with you! I wish more people had this level of awareness.

Is the interview you mentioned online by chance? I am psyched to hear a psychologist make that point. Very cool

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Originally Posted by femmebotdyke

Interesting thread. I tend not to use the terms "obese" or "overweight" because I think that they are negative, pathologizing and unhelpfully position some bodies as normative and others as "deviant". I prefer "fat".

With regards to health, I prefer the HAES (Health at Every Size) approach as an alternative to weight-loss dieting, which I believe is unhealthy. I know a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders and she made the point in a recent interview that the very behaviours prescribed as solutions to those labelled ''overweight'' or ''obese'' are often the same practices she as a practitioner diagnoses in those with clinical eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia. I think part of the reason conversations like these are often very highly-charged is that it's difficult to separate out fat stigma from questions around body size and health. Anyway, there are growing number of resources available to fat people- many of them targeted to queer, lesbian, butch/femme and transgender audiences. If anyone's interested in fat-positive materials for butches of size, just message me.

As far as sexual attraction is concerned, I'm not attracted to fat or bigger butches in spite of their size but because of it. A big butch really turns my head and gets the juices flowing! Of course I'm not only attracted to fat butches and instant physical attraction isn't the only or even the primary characteristic I look for in a prospective partner but in a room of otherwise equally attractive butches, it's ze fat butch who attracts and holds my attention first.

Leigh · 08-26-2010, 07:31 PM

I love this thread

nycfem · 08-26-2010, 08:00 PM

And don't y'all forget to give some big love to the companion thread:

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=1118

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Originally Posted by Braedon

I love this thread

Leigh · 08-27-2010, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by nycfembbw

And don't y'all forget to give some big love to the companion thread:

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=1118

Of course not, can't forget our companion thread

Nightshade · 01-10-2011, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by nycfembbw

And don't y'all forget to give some big love to the companion thread:

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=1118

Just subscribed to both threads! Give me a butch or TG with presence who knows and appreciates a curvy woman any day!

bigbutchmistie · 11-11-2010, 05:46 AM

Im just the "boi next door" I wear cargo shorts alot with t shirts and a cap, or polo shirt and jeans. To work its cargo pants/ polo shirt. Im a big boi but I feel sexy as hell...

I just love it when a femme thinks big butches are sexy....

kookybroad · 11-11-2010, 01:10 PM

I must say there is nothing more exciting then being with a butch that is confident and comfortable with the person they are. I do love the bigger, confident butch, and I love falling asleep and waking up in those strong arms.

Sending out a big HELLO to all those that make my heart flutter!

08-25-2010, 09:01 AM	#1
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	One of My favorite threads has been revived and I'm so happy about that ~ it still shows Me that us big guys are appreciated and loved by beautiful women

08-26-2010, 06:44 PM	#3
femmebotdyke Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Usually she/her but ze/hir or other gender neutral pronouns are also perfectly acceptable Relationship Status: Single (and trying to look nonchalant about it) Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 17 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47 Thanked 45 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 283	Interesting thread. I tend not to use the terms "obese" or "overweight" because I think that they are negative, pathologizing and unhelpfully position some bodies as normative and others as "deviant". I prefer "fat". With regards to health, I prefer the HAES (Health at Every Size) approach as an alternative to weight-loss dieting, which I believe is unhealthy. I know a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders and she made the point in a recent interview that the very behaviours prescribed as solutions to those labelled ''overweight'' or ''obese'' are often the same practices she as a practitioner diagnoses in those with clinical eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia. I think part of the reason conversations like these are often very highly-charged is that it's difficult to separate out fat stigma from questions around body size and health. Anyway, there are growing number of resources available to fat people- many of them targeted to queer, lesbian, butch/femme and transgender audiences. If anyone's interested in fat-positive materials for butches of size, just message me. As far as sexual attraction is concerned, I'm not attracted to fat or bigger butches in spite of their size but because of it. A big butch really turns my head and gets the juices flowing! Of course I'm not *only* attracted to fat butches and instant physical attraction isn't the only or even the primary characteristic I look for in a prospective partner but in a room of otherwise equally attractive butches, it's ze fat butch who attracts and holds my attention first.

08-26-2010, 07:31 PM	#5
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	I love this thread

11-11-2010, 05:46 AM	#9
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Im just the "boi next door" I wear cargo shorts alot with t shirts and a cap, or polo shirt and jeans. To work its cargo pants/ polo shirt. Im a big boi but I feel sexy as hell... I just love it when a femme thinks big butches are sexy....

11-11-2010, 01:10 PM	#10
kookybroad Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her/sub/ beautiful blonde goddess, lol Relationship Status: Single, and actively looking! Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: winnipeg, manitoba Posts: 14 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 19 Thanked 59 Times in 14 Posts Rep Power: 328	I must say there is nothing more exciting then being with a butch that is confident and comfortable with the person they are. I do love the bigger, confident butch, and I love falling asleep and waking up in those strong arms. Sending out a big HELLO to all those that make my heart flutter!