Big Butch Love

Spoon · 08-24-2010, 04:15 PM

I ha to get this post going again, so I could add my voice to those praising big, beautiful, butches. There is nothing like being on the arm of a big, strong butch & knowing I'll be in her arms that night!

nycfem · 08-24-2010, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Spoon

I ha to get this post going again, so I could add my voice to those praising big, beautiful, butches. There is nothing like being on the arm of a big, strong butch & knowing I'll be in her arms that night!

How very true!

iamkeri1 · 08-24-2010, 10:30 PM

I have been plus size most of my life. I've had times when I was cool with it, and times that it caused me lots of pain. But regarding big butches - THEY are FINE! I agree with posters above who love to be escorted, held and loved by a wonderful big butch. The fire has tested you and made you stronger - I love that strength.
Many Smooches,
Keri

Leigh · 08-25-2010, 09:01 AM

One of My favorite threads has been revived and I'm so happy about that ~ it still shows Me that us big guys are appreciated and loved by beautiful women

skeeter_01 · 08-25-2010, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Braedon

One of My favorite threads has been revived and I'm so happy about that ~ it still shows Me that us big guys are appreciated and loved by beautiful women

Amen brudda!!

femmebotdyke · 08-26-2010, 06:44 PM

Interesting thread. I tend not to use the terms "obese" or "overweight" because I think that they are negative, pathologizing and unhelpfully position some bodies as normative and others as "deviant". I prefer "fat".

With regards to health, I prefer the HAES (Health at Every Size) approach as an alternative to weight-loss dieting, which I believe is unhealthy. I know a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders and she made the point in a recent interview that the very behaviours prescribed as solutions to those labelled ''overweight'' or ''obese'' are often the same practices she as a practitioner diagnoses in those with clinical eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia. I think part of the reason conversations like these are often very highly-charged is that it's difficult to separate out fat stigma from questions around body size and health. Anyway, there are growing number of resources available to fat people- many of them targeted to queer, lesbian, butch/femme and transgender audiences. If anyone's interested in fat-positive materials for butches of size, just message me.

As far as sexual attraction is concerned, I'm not attracted to fat or bigger butches in spite of their size but because of it. A big butch really turns my head and gets the juices flowing! Of course I'm not only attracted to fat butches and instant physical attraction isn't the only or even the primary characteristic I look for in a prospective partner but in a room of otherwise equally attractive butches, it's ze fat butch who attracts and holds my attention first.

nycfem · 08-26-2010, 07:18 PM

I love your post and so agree with you! I wish more people had this level of awareness.

Is the interview you mentioned online by chance? I am psyched to hear a psychologist make that point. Very cool

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Originally Posted by femmebotdyke

Interesting thread. I tend not to use the terms "obese" or "overweight" because I think that they are negative, pathologizing and unhelpfully position some bodies as normative and others as "deviant". I prefer "fat".

With regards to health, I prefer the HAES (Health at Every Size) approach as an alternative to weight-loss dieting, which I believe is unhealthy. I know a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders and she made the point in a recent interview that the very behaviours prescribed as solutions to those labelled ''overweight'' or ''obese'' are often the same practices she as a practitioner diagnoses in those with clinical eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia. I think part of the reason conversations like these are often very highly-charged is that it's difficult to separate out fat stigma from questions around body size and health. Anyway, there are growing number of resources available to fat people- many of them targeted to queer, lesbian, butch/femme and transgender audiences. If anyone's interested in fat-positive materials for butches of size, just message me.

As far as sexual attraction is concerned, I'm not attracted to fat or bigger butches in spite of their size but because of it. A big butch really turns my head and gets the juices flowing! Of course I'm not only attracted to fat butches and instant physical attraction isn't the only or even the primary characteristic I look for in a prospective partner but in a room of otherwise equally attractive butches, it's ze fat butch who attracts and holds my attention first.

08-24-2010, 04:15 PM	#1
Spoon Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Girlie Geek. Sofa King Queer. Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Searching. Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Michigan. Posts: 23 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6 Thanked 53 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 1904	I ha to get this post going again, so I could add my voice to those praising big, beautiful, butches. There is nothing like being on the arm of a big, strong butch & knowing I'll be in her arms that night! __________________ "Where there is no hope, one must invent hope."---Albert Camus

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iamkeri1 Member How Do You Identify?: femme woman Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Florida Posts: 905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 302 Thanked 2,153 Times in 659 Posts Rep Power: 16642920	I have been plus size most of my life. I've had times when I was cool with it, and times that it caused me lots of pain. But regarding big butches - THEY are FINE! I agree with posters above who love to be escorted, held and loved by a wonderful big butch. The fire has tested you and made you stronger - I love that strength. Many Smooches, Keri

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femmebotdyke Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Usually she/her but ze/hir or other gender neutral pronouns are also perfectly acceptable Relationship Status: Single (and trying to look nonchalant about it) Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 17 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47 Thanked 45 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 282	Interesting thread. I tend not to use the terms "obese" or "overweight" because I think that they are negative, pathologizing and unhelpfully position some bodies as normative and others as "deviant". I prefer "fat". With regards to health, I prefer the HAES (Health at Every Size) approach as an alternative to weight-loss dieting, which I believe is unhealthy. I know a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders and she made the point in a recent interview that the very behaviours prescribed as solutions to those labelled ''overweight'' or ''obese'' are often the same practices she as a practitioner diagnoses in those with clinical eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia. I think part of the reason conversations like these are often very highly-charged is that it's difficult to separate out fat stigma from questions around body size and health. Anyway, there are growing number of resources available to fat people- many of them targeted to queer, lesbian, butch/femme and transgender audiences. If anyone's interested in fat-positive materials for butches of size, just message me. As far as sexual attraction is concerned, I'm not attracted to fat or bigger butches in spite of their size but because of it. A big butch really turns my head and gets the juices flowing! Of course I'm not *only* attracted to fat butches and instant physical attraction isn't the only or even the primary characteristic I look for in a prospective partner but in a room of otherwise equally attractive butches, it's ze fat butch who attracts and holds my attention first.