Seeking advice from the Butches...Please...

betenoire · 09-19-2010, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Mister Bent

I prefer a good slap in the face, but that's a different thread...

Dirty!

I think the OP should try the greyhound station. No exaggeration, but I've met several Butches at greyhound stations. I don't know what that's all about. The cutest one EVER was in Detroit - but I was attached at the time so I just chatted and smoked and left.

Seriously. Greyhound.

Ebon · 09-19-2010, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by KimKawashima

I don't understand your logic and you don't understand mine. Can't it just left at that. And my original point was why start with someone for using a so called stereotype if that is what we choose to do? So me expressing wanting to use them and you telling me it offends you is no different than you telling me I can not tell your offense to my stereotyping is offensive. It is a vicious cycle. So needless to say if you want to have at it. Call me old fashioned, but I have better things to do like fight for our rights as I have since high school and not waste any more of my energy on this

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

We call out stereotypes because some of us do not fit them and it makes it difficult and frankly it's offensive to be cast into something we are not.

I am still ok with calling them out even though you think it is not ok.

Snow~A Masculine Femme Top Leather Daddy who hates the kitchen and leads her household.

Kumbaya!!!!!!!!

CP welcome to the planet. I hope you enjoy....

I do love it here and I enjoy it here with all of my brothers and sisters.

waxnrope · 09-19-2010, 12:02 PM

And awayyyyy we go ...

Seriously, you wouldn't find me or SOME other butches at the mall. Just saying. Then again, unlike the other posts, I haven't any other real useful suggestions

Perhaps a concert or other musical event. A dance? Then again, library? Lol. I have a few butch friends who are librarians, if you like that stereotype. Lol. Why limit yourself to one location? If you persist, as was suggested on the first page, you'll do fine.

sweetbutch26 · 09-19-2010, 12:07 PM

what wax said. you can't limit yourself to one specific place. you kind of have to put yourself out a little more. if you live in a large lgbt community check for local events coming your way.

Gemme · 09-19-2010, 12:10 PM

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Originally Posted by betenoire

In my purse I carry whatever I happen to be reading at the moment, my new Nintendo DSi (woo!), a black magic marker, and my cigarettes.

I do not carry a lighter. Instead I just stand around holding my cigarette to my lips and looking helpless until some drooling masculine type rushes up to light it for me.

It should be a red marker. I saw an American Dad episode where Stan took his son, Steve, to a war re-enactment. They used red markers instead of weapons. I think it could catch on.

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Originally Posted by EzeeTiger

Black magic marker??? What are you a tagger?

That's classified.

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Originally Posted by betenoire

No. It's just sometimes I come across things that need to be edited.

So, YOU'RE the one......

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Originally Posted by betenoire

Thanks.

Now I feel insensitive for talking about smoking.

You should be.

My lungs are offended at the very mention of it.

to BFP, CausticPrincess!

Just be yourself and those who you are meant to meet, you will.

Guy · 09-19-2010, 12:41 PM

You would find ME at the mall, jus sayin'

Sam · 09-19-2010, 01:06 PM

uses a barber..

CausticPrincess · 09-19-2010, 04:35 PM

Hmmmmm.....lots of great advice....a few slams......a comment about my name.....and some heated discussion......wow......and I just had a simple question.....no fear friends...I FEAR no one and dont run away from opinions or opinionated people.....its all good.....we are all here for the same thing.....friendship...comraderie....support.....a nswers......and if one is really lucky....LOVE......

Kisses and hugz to all....

K

Tcountry · 09-19-2010, 04:44 PM

*Tip Hat*
All princess and non-princess types are looked at...sometimes stared at...

I don't remember who said it because I am not good at quoting, but it is true the more you put yourself out there, the better chances you will have...the worst anyone can do is say no (that goes for all of us, butch and femme).
It is interesting tho that a lot of us are very flirty in here and not so much in person...so establishing a connection in here is one way to go about possibly more, and if it doesn't work out I bet you get some pretty great friends from it. You'll be surprised how much you learn about a person when you actually "have to" talk to them...lol *teasing, sarcasm*

Have a gret Sunday, what's left of it...& good Luck!

KimKawashima · 09-19-2010, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by CausticPrincess

Hmmmmm.....lots of great advice....a few slams......a comment about my name.....and some heated discussion......wow......and I just had a simple question.....no fear friends...I FEAR no one and dont run away from opinions or opinionated people.....its all good.....we are all here for the same thing.....friendship...comraderie....support.....a nswers......and if one is really lucky....LOVE......

Kisses and hugz to all....

K

I certainly hope you find what you are looking for. There are plenty of good butches out there that are looking for someone. My last relationship was 9 years and I met her at her job. I met my Baby Girl I am with now online and she is wonderful. You never know when love is going to blind side you.

Julie · 09-20-2010, 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by CausticPrincess

Hmmmmm.....lots of great advice....a few slams......a comment about my name.....and some heated discussion......wow......and I just had a simple question.....no fear friends...I FEAR no one and dont run away from opinions or opinionated people.....its all good.....we are all here for the same thing.....friendship...comraderie....support.....a nswers......and if one is really lucky....LOVE......

Kisses and hugz to all....

K

I have to say... I am really humbled by your response to all of the various posts you have received. I being one of the "more heated," people here who responded.

You are here, and you did not run away, but have remained to even honor those of us, who might not have honored you in such a way.

We are all here for the same reason, Princess (not feeling you are so Caustic).

Welcome to the Planet and I look forward to reading some more of your words, and I wish for you - that in this massive world of ours, you are so blessed with finding that one special love in your life.

Julie (Caustic Yesterday - Still a bit today).

09-19-2010, 04:44 PM	#9
Tcountry Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Country Boi Preferred Pronoun?: call it as u see it Relationship Status: Completely...complete ;) Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Either at the beach or in the pool Posts: 1,665 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,929 Thanked 4,287 Times in 1,181 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Tip Hat All princess and non-princess types are looked at...sometimes stared at... I don't remember who said it because I am not good at quoting, but it is true the more you put yourself out there, the better chances you will have...the worst anyone can do is say no (that goes for all of us, butch and femme). It is interesting tho that a lot of us are very flirty in here and not so much in person...so establishing a connection in here is one way to go about possibly more, and if it doesn't work out I bet you get some pretty great friends from it. You'll be surprised how much you learn about a person when you actually "have to" talk to them...lol teasing, sarcasm Have a gret Sunday, what's left of it...& good Luck! __________________ "You don't Find life worth living; You MAKE IT that way"

09-19-2010, 12:02 PM	#3
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09-19-2010, 12:07 PM	#4
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CausticPrincess Junior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: . Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 23 Thanked 29 Times in 4 Posts Rep Power: 3671	Hmmmmm.....lots of great advice....a few slams......a comment about my name.....and some heated discussion......wow......and I just had a simple question.....no fear friends...I FEAR no one and dont run away from opinions or opinionated people.....its all good.....we are all here for the same thing.....friendship...comraderie....support.....a nswers......and if one is really lucky....LOVE...... Kisses and hugz to all.... K