Learning To Live Half-Alive?

proximitywithoutintimacy · 02-05-2011, 06:48 PM

I have... t-mobile. With my old phone, I was able to at least block numbers - but with this one, I can't even do that much.

girl_dee · 02-05-2011, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by proximitywithoutintimacy

I have... t-mobile. With my old phone, I was able to at least block numbers - but with this one, I can't even do that much.

if you see her number pop up, press end call.

If you truly don't want contact, make it happen.

proximitywithoutintimacy · 02-05-2011, 07:06 PM

I will. I just wish I could block her texts, too.

Gah, thanks to everyone for being patient with me... I'm pretty much taking some space away from everyone, including my so-called "best friend" who has been lying to my face about not talking to my ex - she even bought pills from my ex's friend - and told her I made up something which... I didn't... and I just wonder. I wonder what kind of "best friend" would deliberately hurt me like that, when she claims to not even like my ex at all.

I slipped up and told a guy she was talking to that she was seeing someone - and she was - and now she has gotten her revenge. The difference is, I made a mistake and wasn't trying to hurt her. She did this out of spite.

Anyway, I got a nice pep talk from an amazing friend of mine, and I'm so lucky to have her. And all of you... I've never seen people respond so fast like y'all did to me..

The_Lady_Snow · 02-05-2011, 07:09 PM

Girlllllllllll, you need to get chu some new friends, stop hanging with pill poppers and alcoholics, not good..

proximitywithoutintimacy · 02-05-2011, 07:11 PM

Haha, I know! My friend Shelly is pretty damn wonderful, I think I'll keep her. In the two years I've known her, there's never been drama. It's kind of great.

proximitywithoutintimacy · 02-05-2011, 07:12 PM

Random, thank you...

It's what I need.

All or nothing, right?

BoDy*ShOt · 02-11-2011, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by proximitywithoutintimacy

I have... t-mobile. With my old phone, I was able to at least block numbers - but with this one, I can't even do that much.

if you really want her to not be able to contact you there are always ways, call your provider and explain that you're getting harassing phone calls and would like to change your number.

DomnNC · 02-12-2011, 12:50 AM

If you don't want to change your number ask your provider if they can block hers. I can't imagine a phone company in this day and time of advanced technology that can't block a phone number in some manner.

Miss Scarlett · 02-12-2011, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by DomnNC

If you don't want to change your number ask your provider if they can block hers. I can't imagine a phone company in this day and time of advanced technology that can't block a phone number in some manner.

Excellent advice! Really you should check on this. If they won't allow you to do that here's another suggestion: if you are able to set ringtones on your phone set hers to silent and then in all caps prior to her name enter DO NOT ANSWER. That's what I used to do until blocking the numbers was suggested to me.

proximitywithoutintimacy · 02-13-2011, 04:20 PM

Chazz, thank you.

I think it's easier for me to deal because the last several days, I've been contemplating just how crazy and out of her mind this woman is... and I don't need that in my life anymore. I mean the fact is, when she was with me, she was finally building a good relationship with her mom for the first time since she came out, she was going to counseling and getting medication for her disease, going to school... and now, all of that has fallen apart. She's burned all of her bridges, and sunk down into a spiral of self-destruction. I'm not saying, "oh, her life was so much better with me" but rather that I was a good thing in her life, a good person - and people who genuinely care about her are very rare in her life. It's just sad, I guess.

"It's not me, it's you."

^^^ My new phrase... it actually helps a lot, because I know I'm worth so much more, and she's drowning in her sickness... I can't be her saviour anymore, and someday, she'll realise just how much damage she has done and hopefully learn to love herself enough to fix it.

Done rambling, haha... as far as blocking her number goes, she hasn't tried to call lately... though I'm contemplating changing my number. I only wonder about all the phone calls I'd have to make if I do that (dentist, doctors, counselors, school, work, etc. etc.).

Thanks to everyone for being so nice and supportive

The_Lady_Snow · 02-13-2011, 04:22 PM

Glad to year you're in a better head space Próx.!

proximitywithoutintimacy · 02-13-2011, 04:55 PM

Mhm. I'm still struggling with the heartbreak... but I just try to focus on other things

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02-13-2011, 04:22 PM	#11
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02-05-2011, 06:48 PM	#1
proximitywithoutintimacy Member How Do You Identify?: Rocker Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: That One Girl ;) Relationship Status: Putting My Heart Back Together Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: USA Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 141 Thanked 290 Times in 106 Posts Rep Power: 670282	I have... t-mobile. With my old phone, I was able to at least block numbers - but with this one, I can't even do that much.

02-05-2011, 07:06 PM	#3
proximitywithoutintimacy Member How Do You Identify?: Rocker Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: That One Girl ;) Relationship Status: Putting My Heart Back Together Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: USA Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 141 Thanked 290 Times in 106 Posts Rep Power: 670282	I will. I just wish I could block her texts, too. Gah, thanks to everyone for being patient with me... I'm pretty much taking some space away from everyone, including my so-called "best friend" who has been lying to my face about not talking to my ex - she even bought pills from my ex's friend - and told her I made up something which... I didn't... and I just wonder. I wonder what kind of "best friend" would deliberately hurt me like that, when she claims to not even like my ex at all. I slipped up and told a guy she was talking to that she was seeing someone - and she was - and now she has gotten her revenge. The difference is, I made a mistake and wasn't trying to hurt her. She did this out of spite. Anyway, I got a nice pep talk from an amazing friend of mine, and I'm so lucky to have her. And all of you... I've never seen people respond so fast like y'all did to me..

02-05-2011, 07:11 PM	#5
proximitywithoutintimacy Member How Do You Identify?: Rocker Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: That One Girl ;) Relationship Status: Putting My Heart Back Together Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: USA Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 141 Thanked 290 Times in 106 Posts Rep Power: 670282	Haha, I know! My friend Shelly is pretty damn wonderful, I think I'll keep her. In the two years I've known her, there's never been drama. It's kind of great.

02-05-2011, 07:12 PM	#6
proximitywithoutintimacy Member How Do You Identify?: Rocker Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: That One Girl ;) Relationship Status: Putting My Heart Back Together Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: USA Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 141 Thanked 290 Times in 106 Posts Rep Power: 670282	Random, thank you... It's what I need. All or nothing, right?

02-13-2011, 04:20 PM	#10
proximitywithoutintimacy Member How Do You Identify?: Rocker Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: That One Girl ;) Relationship Status: Putting My Heart Back Together Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: USA Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 141 Thanked 290 Times in 106 Posts Rep Power: 670282	Chazz, thank you. I think it's easier for me to deal because the last several days, I've been contemplating just how crazy and out of her mind this woman is... and I don't need that in my life anymore. I mean the fact is, when she was with me, she was finally building a good relationship with her mom for the first time since she came out, she was going to counseling and getting medication for her disease, going to school... and now, all of that has fallen apart. She's burned all of her bridges, and sunk down into a spiral of self-destruction. I'm not saying, "oh, her life was so much better with me" but rather that I was a good thing in her life, a good person - and people who genuinely care about her are very rare in her life. It's just sad, I guess. "It's not me, it's you." ^^^ My new phrase... it actually helps a lot, because I know I'm worth so much more, and she's drowning in her sickness... I can't be her saviour anymore, and someday, she'll realise just how much damage she has done and hopefully learn to love herself enough to fix it. Done rambling, haha... as far as blocking her number goes, she hasn't tried to call lately... though I'm contemplating changing my number. I only wonder about all the phone calls I'd have to make if I do that (dentist, doctors, counselors, school, work, etc. etc.). Thanks to everyone for being so nice and supportive

02-13-2011, 04:55 PM	#12
proximitywithoutintimacy Member How Do You Identify?: Rocker Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: That One Girl ;) Relationship Status: Putting My Heart Back Together Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: USA Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 141 Thanked 290 Times in 106 Posts Rep Power: 670282	Mhm. I'm still struggling with the heartbreak... but I just try to focus on other things