Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

Quintease · 07-19-2011, 05:41 PM

When I first started dating the bf, we did inexpensive things involving him messing up the kitchen and us messing up his bed sheets.

Later when it got more romantic, he paid for everything but you know, he didn't need to. I would have been happy to have paid my own way. What I really appreciated was that he cared. He smiled when I smiled, laughed when I laughed, listened when I spoke, held my hand during dinner, always said yes to dessert, seemed so pleased to be there every time we met, and every time we parted could never wait to see me again.

I barely remember our dates, all I remember was him and how lovely he was.

Apocalipstic · 07-19-2011, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Quintease

When I first started dating the bf, we did inexpensive things involving him messing up the kitchen and us messing up his bed sheets.

Later when it got more romantic, he paid for everything but you know, he didn't need to. I would have been happy to have paid my own way. What I really appreciated was that he cared. He smiled when I smiled, laughed when I laughed, listened when I spoke, held my hand during dinner, always said yes to dessert, seemed so pleased to be there every time we met, and every time we parted could never wait to see me again.

I barely remember our dates, all I remember was him and how lovely he was.

What a perfect answer.

apretty · 07-19-2011, 10:39 PM

like you found me on grindr (within 15 feet).

Tangle · 07-21-2011, 09:19 PM

I want to be made to feel very comfortable and appreciated... I love seeing my date's eyes sparkle with amusement or intrigue when I'm goofy or witty or audacious or sexy.

I really want to know that my date is interested in me, and also that s/he is confident in what s/he brings to the table. Delicious conversation is a must. When I ask you what you're thinking, tell me - even if it is silly. Ask me what I'm thinking, or my thoughts about a certain subject, or my response to an experience we've shared. I want you to want to get to know *me,* because I wouldn't have accepted your offer if I weren't interested in the real you.

I want to have my femininity cherished but not treated as fragile. I love chivalry, but only when it is a natural expression of your desire to take care of me and treat me respectfully. Oh, and I want the chivalry to come from an assured, masculine adult - not a sweaty-palmed teenager. Nervous can be cute for a while, but a lack of confidence is not.

I want a simple activity with talking - picnics, cooking together, the aquarium, a movie at home, dancing after a meal (or a dance lesson!), listening to favorite CD's in the car with the seats leaning back... they all allow us both to be comfortable and really talk, touch each other and be affectionate, flirt and be playful, and there's an attached activity to prevent awkwardness if the conversation is occasionally a little slow or i need to blush. lol.

There's so much that goes into an amazing date, but the funny part of it is that it requires simply opening yourself up, paying attention, offering something in return, being appreciative, and allowing yourself to have a lot of fun. ...and good, good kissing. *giggle*

msW8ing · 07-24-2011, 07:47 AM

It really was never specified if it was a first date, or with someone familiar. So assuming it is a first date and were meeting for a first encounter, then...for me personally..I prefer to meet for coffee nothing to fancy to see if there is indeed chemistry without any expectations, no pressure, no promises. If there is no romantic chemistry then at the least I've made a new friend. My bestest friend of my life was a "first date" with no romantic connection. One never knows just where the forks in the road will lead us.

imperfect_cupcake · 07-24-2011, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by MsW8ing

So assuming it is a first date and were meeting for a first encounter, then...for me personally..I prefer to meet for coffee nothing to fancy to see if there is indeed chemistry without any expectations, no pressure, no promises.

yes. If I haven't met them before at an event or a party or a night out, and it's been off a forum, for the last few year before I met the wife I had "pre-dates" where I'd just ask someone out for a beer/coffee as a friend to see what kind of chemistry there was and how the conversation flowed and how natural we were with each other (I give an hour at the beginning to get over nerves - if they are so nervous it takes three dates to get over nerves, then were really aren't for each other).

I made a great friend though one of them! She still flirted with me a bit through out the friendship but in a very charming way which felt nice.

07-19-2011, 05:41 PM	#1
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	When I first started dating the bf, we did inexpensive things involving him messing up the kitchen and us messing up his bed sheets. Later when it got more romantic, he paid for everything but you know, he didn't need to. I would have been happy to have paid my own way. What I really appreciated was that he cared. He smiled when I smiled, laughed when I laughed, listened when I spoke, held my hand during dinner, always said yes to dessert, seemed so pleased to be there every time we met, and every time we parted could never wait to see me again. I barely remember our dates, all I remember was him and how lovely he was. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

07-19-2011, 10:39 PM	#3
apretty Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: sea shell Relationship Status: married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: san diego Posts: 1,687 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,927 Thanked 4,373 Times in 1,012 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	rough trade like you found me on grindr (within 15 feet).

07-21-2011, 09:19 PM	#4
Tangle Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme w/o the high maintenance Preferred Pronoun?: Two guesses ;-) Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: mountain west Posts: 142 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 929 Thanked 319 Times in 101 Posts Rep Power: 7287899	Simple and fun- I want to be made to feel very comfortable and appreciated... I love seeing my date's eyes sparkle with amusement or intrigue when I'm goofy or witty or audacious or sexy. I really want to know that my date is interested in me, and also that s/he is confident in what s/he brings to the table. Delicious conversation is a must. When I ask you what you're thinking, tell me - even if it is silly. Ask me what I'm thinking, or my thoughts about a certain subject, or my response to an experience we've shared. I want you to want to get to know me, because I wouldn't have accepted your offer if I weren't interested in the real you. I want to have my femininity cherished but not treated as fragile. I love chivalry, but only when it is a natural expression of your desire to take care of me and treat me respectfully. Oh, and I want the chivalry to come from an assured, masculine adult - not a sweaty-palmed teenager. Nervous can be cute for a while, but a lack of confidence is not. I want a simple activity with talking - picnics, cooking together, the aquarium, a movie at home, dancing after a meal (or a dance lesson!), listening to favorite CD's in the car with the seats leaning back... they all allow us both to be comfortable and really talk, touch each other and be affectionate, flirt and be playful, and there's an attached activity to prevent awkwardness if the conversation is occasionally a little slow or i need to blush. lol. There's so much that goes into an amazing date, but the funny part of it is that it requires simply opening yourself up, paying attention, offering something in return, being appreciative, and allowing yourself to have a lot of fun. ...and good, good kissing. giggle

07-24-2011, 07:47 AM	#5
msW8ing Member How Do You Identify?: multi-faceted gem, femme, submissive babygirl if the chemistry is there. Preferred Pronoun?: lady Relationship Status: working on myself Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Lewiston, Idaho Posts: 920 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,700 Thanked 2,497 Times in 654 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	It really was never specified if it was a first date, or with someone familiar. So assuming it is a first date and were meeting for a first encounter, then...for me personally..I prefer to meet for coffee nothing to fancy to see if there is indeed chemistry without any expectations, no pressure, no promises. If there is no romantic chemistry then at the least I've made a new friend. My bestest friend of my life was a "first date" with no romantic connection. One never knows just where the forks in the road will lead us. __________________ *Don't judge me by my past..I don't live there anymore* A lady who knows the ropes..will never be bound. ~Mae West Last edited by msW8ing; 07-24-2011 at 07:48 AM. Reason: Forgot a vowel and Vanna wasn't here to remind me.