Parenting

Thinker · 08-10-2011, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by christie0918

you can still walk into his room and find both of his laptops on the floor, the iPad tossed on the bed amongst just trash, his nasty fingerprints on the flat screen tv

What about taking all of these things away from him? I realize the internet stuff isn't as important as it used to be, but maybe having simple TV is enough of a perk for him......or gaming on the computers.

I'm sorry for the frustration.

I do hope it gets better soon. Just so you know... I really do "get" the apathy thing. We've had our own trials over here.

MsTinkerbelly · 08-10-2011, 12:54 PM

christie...Thinker has a good idea, and one we have had to use with our daughter the slob.

As he is under 18 and unable to support himself, take EVERYTHING away. Make him earn things back. One week of showering daily, he gets his laptop (for example) two weeks of making his bed, he gets an air gun.....

Just a thought...my daughter also has "too much" and she only appreciates the things she buys herself, or that she has had to earn. And the stink? Girls can have funky odors too!

She does not have issues like Aspergers to deal with, but if you keep it basic and consistant it shouldn't take too long. I worked for 16 years with people having all types of issues and basic and simple really work the best. Yelling as you know only works when they think you might kick them hard!

I hope things improve for you soon.

Jess · 08-10-2011, 10:17 PM

Thanks everyone for responding to Christie's post. I sure appreciate the input and the feeling that we aren't the only parents driven nuts ( temporarily/ forevah) by dread teenagers... LOL!

He is a good kid/ young man. I love him and want to strangle him on a daily basis. LOL! When we are able to stay in good cheer about it, we see the progress he HAS made in the last year. It is actually pretty phenomenal. I think often, that is where so much of the frustration comes from. He is capable of far more than he is willing to do.

I know I was no picnic in my teen years, so I try to keep that in mind. We will just keep plugging away until we find that magic button that helps him "get it". I think he'll stumble across it around age 30. It is well hidden just behind the crap under his bed.

Thanks again folks. I know Christie brought this up, however, it is very important to me.

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MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,906 Times in 5,017 Posts Rep Power: 0	christie...Thinker has a good idea, and one we have had to use with our daughter the slob. As he is under 18 and unable to support himself, take EVERYTHING away. Make him earn things back. One week of showering daily, he gets his laptop (for example) two weeks of making his bed, he gets an air gun..... Just a thought...my daughter also has "too much" and she only appreciates the things she buys herself, or that she has had to earn. And the stink? Girls can have funky odors too! She does not have issues like Aspergers to deal with, but if you keep it basic and consistant it shouldn't take too long. I worked for 16 years with people having all types of issues and basic and simple really work the best. Yelling as you know only works when they think you might kick them hard! I hope things improve for you soon.

08-10-2011, 10:17 PM	#3
Jess Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: decidedly indifferent Preferred Pronoun?: other Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Patrick Springs, VA Posts: 2,812 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,247 Thanked 5,700 Times in 1,682 Posts Rep Power: 0	Thanks everyone for responding to Christie's post. I sure appreciate the input and the feeling that we aren't the only parents driven nuts ( temporarily/ forevah) by dread teenagers... LOL! He is a good kid/ young man. I love him and want to strangle him on a daily basis. LOL! When we are able to stay in good cheer about it, we see the progress he HAS made in the last year. It is actually pretty phenomenal. I think often, that is where so much of the frustration comes from. He is capable of far more than he is willing to do. I know I was no picnic in my teen years, so I try to keep that in mind. We will just keep plugging away until we find that magic button that helps him "get it". I think he'll stumble across it around age 30. It is well hidden just behind the crap under his bed. Thanks again folks. I know Christie brought this up, however, it is very important to me.