Fierce Femmes, Allies and Gender Expectations...

BugsAndKisses · 10-22-2011, 03:09 PM

I have decided this is my favorite thread, lol.... HERE are all my sisters, lol!

I am under 5ft tall
I wear skirts
my nails are always painted
I don't leave the house without eyeliner on
and yes...i giggle (and I will punch you if you poke fun)

BUT

I am the gross out QUEEN
I can make anyone jump given enough time to find a weakness
Dirt is my friend and bruises are my jewelry.
I don't care how much you work out, your not gonna out pace me cause my stamina/adrenaline is through the roof
I am not delicate and if you treat me as such your just gonna get a raw deal.

Apocalipstic · 10-22-2011, 03:42 PM

Some great new posts!

I went to the B-F reunion last weekend and being in the presence of so many strong women really got me thinking about how important it is that we see and empower and help one another.

I do want to say that I was not trying to imply that submissiveness is not fierce in my earlier posts. It so totally is. It is so totally brave in ways I mostly can't even face thinking about.

little_ms_sunshyne · 10-22-2011, 04:47 PM

You know, I am just coming into my own I think. A friend pointed me in this direction. I hate to say it but my own confusion of understanding who I am was hindered by stereotypes. If I am x, y, z then I should be x, y, z.

While I do not believe in such stereotypes I just continued to limit myself. CRAZYNESS!!!

I love being surrounded by such diversity. I love that each one of us has our own definition of what femme means to us. YET we all can agree on this ...FEMME=POWER=BADASS=BEAUTIFUL=CONFIDENCE...I could go on and on *sigh* That is all for now. More to come. Have had a million thoughts running through my mind today.

Apocalipstic · 10-22-2011, 05:25 PM

You come off so poised and elegant. You look like you invented Femme.

Breaking stereotypes is living the dream!

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Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne

You know, I am just coming into my own I think. A friend pointed me in this direction. I hate to say it but my own confusion of understanding who I am was hindered by stereotypes. If I am x, y, z then I should be x, y, z.

While I do not believe in such stereotypes I just continued to limit myself. CRAZYNESS!!!

I love being surrounded by such diversity. I love that each one of us has our own definition of what femme means to us. YET we all can agree on this ...FEMME=POWER=BADASS=BEAUTIFUL=CONFIDENCE...I could go on and on *sigh* That is all for now. More to come. Have had a million thoughts running through my mind today.

little_ms_sunshyne · 10-22-2011, 05:31 PM

lol Thank you! We needed to sit down and chat a bit more!
I am one of those terribly clumsy, trip on my own feet, no idea how to flirt, curse like a sailor femmes. YUP! Are there anymore that exist out there? lol

Poised and Elegant! Shoooot! I will take that!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Apocalipstic

You come off so poised and elegant. You look like you invented Femme.

Breaking stereotypes is living the dream!

Apocalipstic · 10-22-2011, 06:23 PM

Right there with ya on the cursing! Hell yeah!

Man I wish we lived closer!

Quote:

Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne

lol Thank you! We needed to sit down and chat a bit more!
I am one of those terribly clumsy, trip on my own feet, no idea how to flirt, curse like a sailor femmes. YUP! Are there anymore that exist out there? lol

Poised and Elegant! Shoooot! I will take that!

Kenna · 08-21-2013, 11:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne

You know, I am just coming into my own I think. A friend pointed me in this direction. I hate to say it but my own confusion of understanding who I am was hindered by stereotypes. If I am x, y, z then I should be x, y, z.

While I do not believe in such stereotypes I just continued to limit myself. CRAZYNESS!!!

I love being surrounded by such diversity. I love that each one of us has our own definition of what femme means to us. YET we all can agree on this ...FEMME=POWER=BADASS=BEAUTIFUL=CONFIDENCE...I could go on and on *sigh* That is all for now. More to come. Have had a million thoughts running through my mind today.

OMG THIS ROCKS!
YOU'RE AWESOME

ProfPacker · 10-09-2013, 06:31 PM

I keep on finding threads on this site that make me want to say Yes, a place for me. I am femme but also like to pack, strap on and use butch and femme cock. I can take it and give it. I am soft and I can be edgy. I a cougar with a mnd and sex of a 30 year old.

GeeGina · 10-10-2013, 10:04 AM

I consider myself "femme, but flexible", which reserves me the right to express myself in the manner that feels authentic to me. I make no rules for others and will have no such rules placed on me.

So, I will:
Make the first move if I want to.
Smoke fat cigars while wearing lipstick.
Shave my head in the summer, then wear a sundress to a bbq.
Wax. Or not.
Appreciate the feel of the packed crotch of my partner's jeans against my capri pants.
Never change my own oil.
Bake like a grandmother.
Buy shoes.
Mani and Pedi.
Burp (though not in public).
Drink big beers at the bar.
Wear your oversized shirt around the house.
Ask you what you need.
Make soup.
Wear boots.
Get muddy, then take a bubble bath.
Actually catch a football.
Rock a cocktail dress and hit a buffet like I'm going to the chair the next morning.

Etc, etc, etc. My point - be who you are and who you want to be, not what society or culture or mores thinks you should be...

imperfect_cupcake · 10-10-2013, 10:57 AM

that seems totally femme in my books and not any different to the ones I've hung out with in the past 10 years.

Crow · 10-10-2013, 07:44 PM

My gosh...but you're the perfect girl.

10-22-2011, 03:09 PM	#1
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10-22-2011, 03:42 PM	#2
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Some great new posts! I went to the B-F reunion last weekend and being in the presence of so many strong women really got me thinking about how important it is that we see and empower and help one another. I do want to say that I was not trying to imply that submissiveness is not fierce in my earlier posts. It so totally is. It is so totally brave in ways I mostly can't even face thinking about. __________________

10-10-2013, 10:04 AM	#9
GeeGina Member How Do You Identify?: Femme, but flexible. Preferred Pronoun?: Miss Relationship Status: Single. Looking. Available. Open. Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 111 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10 Thanked 410 Times in 76 Posts Rep Power: 4115107	Swirl... I consider myself "femme, but flexible", which reserves me the right to express myself in the manner that feels authentic to me. I make no rules for others and will have no such rules placed on me. So, I will: Make the first move if I want to. Smoke fat cigars while wearing lipstick. Shave my head in the summer, then wear a sundress to a bbq. Wax. Or not. Appreciate the feel of the packed crotch of my partner's jeans against my capri pants. Never change my own oil. Bake like a grandmother. Buy shoes. Mani and Pedi. Burp (though not in public). Drink big beers at the bar. Wear your oversized shirt around the house. Ask you what you need. Make soup. Wear boots. Get muddy, then take a bubble bath. Actually catch a football. Rock a cocktail dress and hit a buffet like I'm going to the chair the next morning. Etc, etc, etc. My point - be who you are and who you want to be, not what society or culture or mores thinks you should be...

10-22-2011, 04:47 PM	#3
little_ms_sunshyne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: . Posts: 3,312 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,339 Thanked 12,241 Times in 2,541 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	You know, I am just coming into my own I think. A friend pointed me in this direction. I hate to say it but my own confusion of understanding who I am was hindered by stereotypes. If I am x, y, z then I should be x, y, z. While I do not believe in such stereotypes I just continued to limit myself. CRAZYNESS!!! I love being surrounded by such diversity. I love that each one of us has our own definition of what femme means to us. YET we all can agree on this ...FEMME=POWER=BADASS=BEAUTIFUL=CONFIDENCE...I could go on and on sigh That is all for now. More to come. Have had a million thoughts running through my mind today.

10-09-2013, 06:31 PM	#8
ProfPacker Member How Do You Identify?: butch/MOC Preferred Pronoun?: Hy/hym/hys but in circumstances like work and some other places she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: nj Posts: 1,365 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,023 Thanked 4,816 Times in 1,187 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I keep on finding threads on this site that make me want to say Yes, a place for me. I am femme but also like to pack, strap on and use butch and femme cock. I can take it and give it. I am soft and I can be edgy. I a cougar with a mnd and sex of a 30 year old.

10-10-2013, 10:57 AM	#10
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	that seems totally femme in my books and not any different to the ones I've hung out with in the past 10 years.

10-10-2013, 07:44 PM	#11
Crow Junior Member How Do You Identify?: lgbTq...the T...that's me Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. From my head down to my toes. Relationship Status: Sane Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: Toto we're not in Seattle anymore! Posts: 49 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 71 Thanked 196 Times in 43 Posts Rep Power: 2383964	My gosh...but you're the perfect girl.