FTM's Attracted to Femmes

GPS · 12-24-2011, 05:47 AM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I have noticed that many of FTM friends date primarily butch women or FTM and I wanted to know how many FTMs are attracted to femme women? Is there a reason why you are attracted to femmes and are you also attracted to butch women or other FTM as well?

I'm only attracted to Femme women, being it lesbian, bisexual or straight.

hard to find a good woman that even looks at FtM guys.

veryfemme · 12-24-2011, 09:26 AM

GPS - If I could find FTMs I would be in better shape lol - I have looked and most are taken or are not interested

Liam · 12-24-2011, 09:36 AM

I'm attracted to women, and I find women who identify as femmes, to be the kind which I am most compatible with.

theoddz · 12-24-2011, 09:39 AM

Well, since this site is primarily focused, though not exclusively (because it is INclusive!!

), on the Butch/Femme dynamic, I would think that many, if not most, of the transmen here would be attracted to the feminine. I'm sure there's also guys here who probably have other preferences, too, but in the nearly 7 years I've been around in this particular community, it seems that most of the guys I've known here are attracted to Femmes/femininity.

I guess you just have to ask us, individually.

I'm attracted to Femmes, period. I have no romantic or sexual interest in masculine energy, but that's just me.

As a good friend once told me, "the heart wants what the heart wants".

....and that's the way it should be...and should be respected.

~Theo~

~Bo · 12-24-2011, 09:55 AM

I'm trans and I'm only attracted to femmes. The girlier the better.

Hi.....and welcome to the Planet.

Where are you from in Florida? It's beautiful down there.

GPS · 12-24-2011, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

GPS - If I could find FTMs I would be in better shape lol - I have looked and most are taken or are not interested

Eye openers

ruffryder · 12-24-2011, 06:12 PM

Trans here and I Adore all femmes. <3

For those femmes that can't seem to find a ftm, Trans, or Butch interested in them, I think you finally came to the right place !

veryfemme · 12-24-2011, 06:45 PM

hey ~Bo I am on the east coast and it is beautiful in FL but right now in my opinion it is way to hot for it to be Christmas!! I would like some 60 degree weather about now!

Kaison · 01-10-2012, 05:32 PM

I'm not sure it has ever occurred to me to date a butch or ftm I've always been into femmes.

1ladyface · 01-11-2012, 01:43 AM

High femme doesn't necessarily mean high maintenance. I keep myself high-femmified on my own with no assistance from my partner. I would never ask my partner to do my hair and makeup etc because I am self sufficient. And because that would be a disaster.

I really don't like the term high maintenance at all. I think it makes women question themselves and their needs which are usually perfectly reasonable. I love and respect my partners. And I'll only date someone who who loves and respects me. In my world that includes emotional maturity, communication skills and chivalry. I certainly hope that wouldn't earn me the "high maintenance" label. And I'd never expect my partner to pay my way or buy me expensive things. In fact, that would (and does) make me really uncomfortable.

My favorite Valentines day my partner and I were both underemployed and broke. I did the laundry in the morning after he'd gone to work and spelled out I love you in sweatsocks on the bed. He made a chicken and rice dinner that night and cut canned cranberry sauce rounds into hearts. We couldn't be fancy but we could still be good to each other.

rande · 05-05-2012, 02:10 PM

I am an FTM/Stone....if one has to be in a box that's where I'd stand.
Personally I am highly attracted to the Femme energy, but that's just me.

We're all entitled to love who we want to love for crying out loud. The trick is to stop lying to ourselves, get out there on that dance floor and live.

Gender is a fluid thing...there are genders within genders, if you want to split hairs. To say one thing is wrong is to not understand the very nature of what gender identification and expression are all about.

It's highly personal...very individualistic....customized, if you will, to each person.

Just because I am deeply attracted to Femmes doesn't mean that's the only way for others to live. Heck no.

Let's celebrate love, not limits.

Great forum, great Planet. Thanks for being here!

morningstar55 · 05-05-2012, 02:41 PM

im single..... i never dated someone whom is FTM..
have had relationships and some dates whom id as stone..
im not even sure if Im even femme enough for some.. i mean i am a lady/girl/femme even though my job is not very lady like.. but i do see a lot of very femine women out there whom drive them big rigs.
im just a girl next door kinda girl.

some say i just hadnt met the right one yet......... well crap im 57 already.
im not holding my breath. i am lonely .. but i know im not desperate either.
maybe im doing something wrong.
anyways............. this is a interesting thread.
will subscribe........ annnnd guess i need to get to work...
have a awsome day/ weekend , everyone.

pumpndude · 11-21-2016, 08:31 PM

OK, I'm a trans-guy that is only attracted to femme women.
all that I can say is it must be in my DNA....
I'm not attracted at all to butches, too manly for me in whatever way....

pumpndude · 12-04-2016, 09:56 PM

Hi to all, For me I'm only attracted to femme women...I don't know why, I just say it must be in my DNA...

They look so sexy and are so hot..

Gothy · 02-14-2017, 11:48 PM

I have also experienced the "youre too femme" treatment... and it has left me scratching my head. It also seems that guys are really intimidated by me and my ultra femmeness, either that, or all the glitter.

But seriously... I'm approachable! Talk to me! I'm starting to get a complex.

sanee66 · 12-28-2011, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by ruffryder

Trans here and I Adore all femmes. <3

For those femmes that can't seem to find a ftm, Trans, or Butch interested in them, I think you finally came to the right place !

i certainly hope so!!

Nadeest · 12-28-2011, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by GPS

I'm only attracted to Femme women, being it lesbian, bisexual or straight.

hard to find a good woman that even looks at FtM guys.

I sure as hell will look at FtM guys, however, I don't know if I would be classfied as a 'good woman' or not.

The_Lady_Snow · 12-28-2011, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Nadeest

I sure as hell will look at FtM guys, however, I don't know if I would be classfied as a 'good woman' or not.

Honey, you are a good woman! No one should have an say so on that alone, I'm not the girliest of girls, not hyper pink, or glittery but I am woman and my guy got hooked not on those aspects but on other things that make me who I am. If someone is gonna judge and date you based on some scale of femininity then they are losing out cause damn one can't be all make up and high heels 24/7 a girl has to be grungy once in awhile!

Electrocell · 12-28-2011, 10:23 PM

Ladies maybe it is not because you are a girly girl or to femme for them , it's because they might think you are a high maintenance femme whether you are or not. They just might be saying that you are too femme instead of coming out and saying you would cost me alot of money .Not saying this to be nasty but alot of guys automatically think this way if they think you will need alot of things to keep you happy.

QueenofSmirks · 12-30-2011, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Electrocell

Ladies maybe it is not because you are a girly girl or to femme for them , it's because they might think you are a high maintenance femme whether you are or not. They just might be saying that you are too femme instead of coming out and saying you would cost me alot of money .Not saying this to be nasty but alot of guys automatically think this way if they think you will need alot of things to keep you happy.

Or maybe they really ARE just saying "you're too femme" because they aren't attracted to femmes, or hyper feminine women, or femininity at all. Some people really ARE just attracted to certain looks or personalities. Granted, there is a better way to say it, but not everyone is diplomatic. If someone said to me "I don't like brunettes", I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.

12-24-2011, 09:36 AM	#3
Liam Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 2,269 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14,865 Thanked 6,875 Times in 1,861 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I'm attracted to women, and I find women who identify as femmes, to be the kind which I am most compatible with. __________________ <3 Love is weird.

12-24-2011, 09:39 AM	#4
theoddz Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Cranky Old Poop Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. Beast Relationship Status: Married to a beautiful babe whom I don't deserve. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 3,544 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,162 Thanked 9,939 Times in 2,516 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Well, since this site is primarily focused, though not exclusively (because it is INclusive!! ), on the Butch/Femme dynamic, I would think that many, if not most, of the transmen here would be attracted to the feminine. I'm sure there's also guys here who probably have other preferences, too, but in the nearly 7 years I've been around in this particular community, it seems that most of the guys I've known here are attracted to Femmes/femininity. I guess you just have to ask us, individually. I'm attracted to Femmes, period. I have no romantic or sexual interest in masculine energy, but that's just me. As a good friend once told me, "the heart wants what the heart wants". ....and that's the way it should be...and should be respected. *~Theo~* __________________ *"All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."* -- J. R. R. Tolkien

01-11-2012, 01:43 AM	#10
1ladyface Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: loved and loving Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: SF Posts: 86 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 65 Thanked 279 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 3368880	High femme doesn't necessarily mean high maintenance. I keep myself high-femmified on my own with no assistance from my partner. I would never ask my partner to do my hair and makeup etc because I am self sufficient. And because that would be a disaster. I really don't like the term high maintenance at all. I think it makes women question themselves and their needs which are usually perfectly reasonable. I love and respect my partners. And I'll only date someone who who loves and respects me. In my world that includes emotional maturity, communication skills and chivalry. I certainly hope that wouldn't earn me the "high maintenance" label. And I'd never expect my partner to pay my way or buy me expensive things. In fact, that would (and does) make me really uncomfortable. My favorite Valentines day my partner and I were both underemployed and broke. I did the laundry in the morning after he'd gone to work and spelled out I love you in sweatsocks on the bed. He made a chicken and rice dinner that night and cut canned cranberry sauce rounds into hearts. We couldn't be fancy but we could still be good to each other. __________________ xoxo -ladyface http://www.1ladyface.blogspot.com

05-05-2012, 02:41 PM	#12
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	im single..... i never dated someone whom is FTM.. have had relationships and some dates whom id as stone.. im not even sure if Im even femme enough for some.. i mean i am a lady/girl/femme even though my job is not very lady like.. but i do see a lot of very femine women out there whom drive them big rigs. im just a girl next door kinda girl. some say i just hadnt met the right one yet......... well crap im 57 already. im not holding my breath. i am lonely .. but i know im not desperate either. maybe im doing something wrong. anyways............. this is a interesting thread. will subscribe........ annnnd guess i need to get to work... have a awsome day/ weekend , everyone. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

11-21-2016, 08:31 PM	#13
pumpndude Member How Do You Identify?: Good Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: Sonora, CA Posts: 108 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 211 Times in 70 Posts Rep Power: 1503251	OK, I'm a trans-guy that is only attracted to femme women. all that I can say is it must be in my DNA.... I'm not attracted at all to butches, too manly for me in whatever way.... __________________ Everything Ending Is Also A Beginning We Just Don't Know It At The Time

12-24-2011, 09:26 AM	#2
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539929	GPS - If I could find FTMs I would be in better shape lol - I have looked and most are taken or are not interested

12-24-2011, 09:55 AM	#5
~Bo Senior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: PA Posts: 1,590 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 1,680 Times in 742 Posts Rep Power: 13485855	I'm trans and I'm only attracted to femmes. The girlier the better. Hi.....and welcome to the Planet. Where are you from in Florida? It's beautiful down there.

12-24-2011, 06:12 PM	#7
ruffryder Senior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: guy ones Relationship Status: ... Join Date: May 2011 Location: chillin' in FL Posts: 3,690 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,951 Thanked 9,679 Times in 2,875 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Trans here and I Adore all femmes. <3 For those femmes that can't seem to find a ftm, Trans, or Butch interested in them, I think you finally came to the right place !

12-24-2011, 06:45 PM	#8
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539929	hey ~Bo I am on the east coast and it is beautiful in FL but right now in my opinion it is way to hot for it to be Christmas!! I would like some 60 degree weather about now!

01-10-2012, 05:32 PM	#9
Kaison Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Transmale Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: UK Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 37 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 15	I'm not sure it has ever occurred to me to date a butch or ftm I've always been into femmes.

05-05-2012, 02:10 PM	#11
rande Junior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: May 2012 Location: san francisco Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 111 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 0	I am an FTM/Stone....if one has to be in a box that's where I'd stand. Personally I am highly attracted to the Femme energy, but that's just me. We're all entitled to love who we want to love for crying out loud. The trick is to stop lying to ourselves, get out there on that dance floor and live. Gender is a fluid thing...there are genders within genders, if you want to split hairs. To say one thing is wrong is to not understand the very nature of what gender identification and expression are all about. It's highly personal...very individualistic....customized, if you will, to each person. Just because I am deeply attracted to Femmes doesn't mean that's the only way for others to live. Heck no. Let's celebrate love, not limits. Great forum, great Planet. Thanks for being here!

12-04-2016, 09:56 PM	#14
pumpndude Member How Do You Identify?: Good Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: Sonora, CA Posts: 108 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 211 Times in 70 Posts Rep Power: 1503251	Hi to all, For me I'm only attracted to femme women...I don't know why, I just say it must be in my DNA... They look so sexy and are so hot.. __________________ Everything Ending Is Also A Beginning We Just Don't Know It At The Time

02-14-2017, 11:48 PM	#15
Gothy Junior Member How Do You Identify?: NB\trans (fluid) Preferred Pronoun?: They Relationship Status: Anarchist Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Humboldt County, CA Posts: 79 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 101 Thanked 278 Times in 49 Posts Rep Power: 2480521	I have also experienced the "youre too femme" treatment... and it has left me scratching my head. It also seems that guys are really intimidated by me and my ultra femmeness, either that, or all the glitter. But seriously... I'm approachable! Talk to me! I'm starting to get a complex.

12-28-2011, 10:23 PM	#19
Electrocell Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: he/hy Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: TN Posts: 1,334 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,535 Thanked 2,768 Times in 981 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Ladies maybe it is not because you are a girly girl or to femme for them , it's because they might think you are a high maintenance femme whether you are or not. They just might be saying that you are too femme instead of coming out and saying you would cost me alot of money .Not saying this to be nasty but alot of guys automatically think this way if they think you will need alot of things to keep you happy. __________________ Love and accept me for me not someone you want me to be.