Flirting by text

[HoustonHuny]

Originally Posted by UofMfan

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

[betenoire]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man

UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

[Hack]

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

[SweetJane]

Originally Posted by Hack

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

Jake, I'm a professional writer, too. I never really learned to flirt well, but I have done a bit of written flirting. And it can be a very clever game of words. It shows the intelligence of the two flirting and can become a beautiful collection of sentiments. So I'm not surprised you saved those text messages......But there is a caveat. Sometimes you can get caught up in the word oneupmanship that you lose sight of the friendship or relationship that could be built.
Janie

[Hack]

Originally Posted by SweetJane

Jake, I'm a professional writer, too. I never really learned to flirt well, but I have done a bit of written flirting. And it can be a very clever game of words. It shows the intelligence of the two flirting and can become a beautiful collection of sentiments. So I'm not surprised you saved those text messages......But there is a caveat. Sometimes you can get caught up in the word oneupmanship that you lose sight of the friendship or relationship that could be built.
Janie

It was never really a game of one upping. It was more like a script for an Irene Dunne-Cary Grant or Hepburn-Tracy film. Frankly, I am tempted to turn the whole premise into a screenplay, but I don't think it would translate well.

[SugarFemme]

I PROMISE I am not trying to derail.....I was sending flirty text messages to the woman I was dating at the time and they got a little racy. Well, I accidently forwarded one of the more racier ones to my ex-hubby . Good thing he has a great sense of humor. I got a text back asking me, " Can I watch"?? LMAO

[nicetgurl_30]

O my gosh I know what u mean! I'm soo corny and nerdy I always get a huh? Or one these 0_o faces! So I always go with the worst lines ever and that way they know I'm at least showing interest and hey if they keep textin back they must enjoy whatever it is ur doing or saying!!

If that doesn't work text from Bennett always makes
Me laugh! Good luck!!

Fav line ever: okay first text and be like omg! Are u okay and then she say yeah y? Then BAM "“You must be tired because you’ve been running through my head all night."

Pretty bad right! There are hundreds of bad lines and some good ones!

[chai~]

Originally Posted by Hack

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

I've spent several months flirting with someone online and in text, and wanted to keep the saucy little nuggets for late night reading at a later date!

So, I started a blog, totally dedicated to to such encounters. They are retyped, spelling and punctuation somewhat corrected. {I wanted to keep the rawness and organic~ness of the chats as close to the original as I could}

I occassionally re read these exchanges, smile, blush, and sometimes think, "oh my, I said that?"

Perhaps someday I will compile them into a debaucherous tome of erotica!

[Passionaria]

Yep, in my mind too the best flirty anything comes when you are relaxed and just having fun, it just comes out. And then evolves

I have never misfired a text, but I did have someone I was dating send a naughty email~~~> to my MOM. AYE! I could feel them squirm from miles away.*giggling* I had forgotten about that, thanks for the memory. LOL.

[GinaSofia]

Texting is a safer place to flirt how you want to/say what you feel without the secondhand ticking in your face for an immediate response.

I did go through a brief break up and found out that people do
use texting like they do the Internet..by that I mean scandalously,
without integrity, and to literally steal, literally. So, be smart & be aware.If people reach out to warn you,BELIEVE THEM.


My spouse & I have lived and worked together for over 23 years, texting
each other ( once she figured it out) became a whole new flirting tool &
just another way to let each other know that even if we're on
opposite ends of the building, we're still thinking of each other...in every way.

I absolutely LOVE text flirting.. With my spouse.

[girl_dee]

my beau and i are both natural flirts so we sure make texting fun....

[HoustonHuny]

Originally Posted by betenoire

UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

Perhaps "U" should not have created a name where it was so easy to transpose.

disclaimer: I have very naughty typing fingers

[princessbelle]

Speaking of flirting...

I personally see it like this..

It is individualized. Everyone does it his or her own way. No one is right or wrong when it comes to everyone's personal style. To each his/her own. Just go with the flow. Not only do people flirt differently but they may flirt differently with different people.

The question was about texting and IMO it's easy to read too much or not enough in what may seem to be a flirty text. Whether you text something out of the blue or plan it for just the right time, just like most things in life, if your interested, give it a shot.

Last i looked, there are no rules for such things.

It's pretty easy to figure out if it's working or not.....eventually.

[apretty]

I hope this isn't your flirting.

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

[UofMfan]

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.

[kittygrrl]

Originally Posted by UofMfan

Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.

I agree, let it happen..if someone digs your chemistry..they feel it..you don't have to be super clever or out there to get someone to notice

[Queerasfck]

I like the direct approach. I just texted my gf "I need to get my freeeek on."

Sweeping her off her feet again!

[Kent]

I have never rehearsed or even thought of rehearsing to flirt with a beautiful woman. It just happens. We either feel each other's energy or we don't. I'm just not one to rehearse flirting. It flows or it doesn't.

So, go ahead and be yourself and take a chance. The world is at your fingertips and you might just get the girl or guy of your dreams.

I realize some may want to rehearse and go over all their moves before hand and that is perfectly okay. Do what you like. Do what feels good and right. Believe me the person on the other end of the text will either reciprocate or not. It's not the end of the world if they don't respond the way you want. The point is to at least try. Lighten up and flirt a little. It may just be the best thing you've ever done.

Let the flirting continue.. rehearsed or off the cuff...

[Random]

I think my best flirt went like this...


*I know you took my keys, I don't know what kind of game you are playing, but I need my keys back... I can't afford to replace the keys to my apt and the building... I'm NOT even kidding!!!!*

followed up with...


*I found my keys... I'm the psycho not you... you want to go out again?*

Worked like a charm..

*Cheesey Grin*

[Random]

Originally Posted by Random

I think my best flirt went like this...


*I know you took my keys, I don't know what kind of game you are playing, but I need my keys back... I can't afford to replace the keys to my apt and the building... I'm NOT even kidding!!!!*

followed up with...


*I found my keys... I'm the psycho not you... you want to go out again?*

Worked like a charm..

*Cheesey Grin*

Nine years later and it still working...