Is Marriage for you?

genghisfawn · 02-09-2012, 12:15 PM

I find that a lot of people say, "I don't care if they pass same-sex marriage or not. I don't need a piece of paper."

The thing is, whether you want to be married or not, it's a good thing for those who value marriage to be able to have what they want and need for their relationship. I like to encourage people to think of those they love and see equal rights as a necessity, not a privilege.

I am also the marrying kind.

SweetJane · 02-09-2012, 01:13 PM

Having been in a 36 year marriage and then a divorce, I can say that marriage does have its protections. And that's why I see same-sex marriage as a must for the whole country. It protects children, deals with medical and end-of-life issues, and property ownership and division. Not all of that is protected by the federal government, though some is protected by state civil union laws and some state same sex marriage laws.

I will also say that any marriage should not be a quick decision because it's hard to get out of legally and can get messy.

Marriage, like any long-term commitment, should be based on knowing someone really well and not just what they like to do in bed. It's about all of the little things that can bless or curse your life together if you decided to share a home. It's everything. So a strong friendship (that may be hot) is essential.

Would I marry again? I don't think so. Would I commit to a long-term relationship? Someday perhaps with the right person. But my standards are high and I really don't know if that's in my future.

View Poll Results: What is your ststus?
I am unmarried in my State or Country	103	58.52%
I am married in my State or Country	27	15.34%
I have had an alternate joining which is not legally marriage	18	10.23%
I wouldn't get married if they paid me!	28	15.91%
Voters: 176. You may not vote on this poll

02-09-2012, 12:15 PM	#1
genghisfawn Member How Do You Identify?: Femme/Gentlewoman Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: Happily married 05/17/14 Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Saskatchewan, Canada Posts: 561 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,056 Thanked 2,158 Times in 403 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I find that a lot of people say, "I don't care if they pass same-sex marriage or not. I don't need a piece of paper." The thing is, whether you want to be married or not, it's a good thing for those who value marriage to be able to have what they want and need for their relationship. I like to encourage people to think of those they love and see equal rights as a necessity, not a privilege. I am also the marrying kind.

02-09-2012, 01:13 PM	#2
SweetJane Member How Do You Identify?: stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: always solo Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: New Mexico Posts: 368 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 380 Thanked 815 Times in 198 Posts Rep Power: 4309958	Having been in a 36 year marriage and then a divorce, I can say that marriage does have its protections. And that's why I see same-sex marriage as a must for the whole country. It protects children, deals with medical and end-of-life issues, and property ownership and division. Not all of that is protected by the federal government, though some is protected by state civil union laws and some state same sex marriage laws. I will also say that any marriage should not be a quick decision because it's hard to get out of legally and can get messy. Marriage, like any long-term commitment, should be based on knowing someone really well and not just what they like to do in bed. It's about all of the little things that can bless or curse your life together if you decided to share a home. It's everything. So a strong friendship (that may be hot) is essential. Would I marry again? I don't think so. Would I commit to a long-term relationship? Someday perhaps with the right person. But my standards are high and I really don't know if that's in my future.