Insecurities; I worry that women won't/don't like me - Page 2

Just_G · 03-29-2012, 09:16 PM

For me, all it takes is some good eye contact and a smile! If I see that, I will come up and talk to you in a heartbeat, ask you to dance if we are in a club, or just continue flirting across the room....all because you sent me a good signal.

I get that people are shy...I know I sure can be, depending on where I am. (shocking, I know!)

You don't need to change the way you dress, or even tote around a rainbow flag...if you see a butch that interests you, flirt. Smile. Say hi. The simplest of gestures to a butch makes all the difference in the world...at least to this butch!

(not all of us like to be hit with lumber...we can take subtle hints and flirt back from there...lol)

Quintease · 03-30-2012, 12:37 PM

I pulled all of my partners in seedy bars. Even my current partner was someone I kissed while mashed into an all dyke group in a dark and smoky venue.

The easiest way to pull someone is indeed, 'Hi'. It is also incredibly scary and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! I used to run on the premise that once she(or he) noticed that I'd opened my mouth to speak to him/her, then I had to continue or risk looking the fool.

Most people were polite. One person rolled her eyes and turned her back on me. Quite a few people were charmed

If nothing else it teaches you humility. When someone starts flirting with me now I always give them a moment, even if I'm not interested in them. Partly because I like the attention and partly because I know how much it stings to be instantly rejected.

CA_BabyCakes · 03-30-2012, 02:11 PM

I always have the same problem, or the only time i get approached is when someone has drinken enough to give them guts, and then they are usually alittle too drunk and it weirds me out

it sucks.

Christy51274 · 03-30-2012, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by LaneyDoll

I have had a drink tampered with and I lost a weekend because of it.

But, back to the topic...

If you are hanging out at a bar, make friends with the staff. It never hurts for the bartender to know that you are "family" AND single AND possibly looking. Additionally, they might steer away from someone that you really do not want/need to get too close to.

That makes total sense. Wonder why I never thought of that before? LOL

LaneyDoll · 03-30-2012, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Christy51274

That makes total sense. Wonder why I never thought of that before? LOL

I have friends that work at alt bars. They are even on my FB page-lol. It is a good way to keep up with them AND what is going on where they work.

03-29-2012, 09:16 PM	#21
Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	For me, all it takes is some good eye contact and a smile! If I see that, I will come up and talk to you in a heartbeat, ask you to dance if we are in a club, or just continue flirting across the room....all because you sent me a good signal. I get that people are shy...I know I sure can be, depending on where I am. (shocking, I know!) You don't need to change the way you dress, or even tote around a rainbow flag...if you see a butch that interests you, flirt. Smile. Say hi. The simplest of gestures to a butch makes all the difference in the world...at least to this butch! (not all of us like to be hit with lumber...we can take subtle hints and flirt back from there...lol) __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true!

03-30-2012, 12:37 PM	#22
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	I pulled all of my partners in seedy bars. Even my current partner was someone I kissed while mashed into an all dyke group in a dark and smoky venue. The easiest way to pull someone is indeed, 'Hi'. It is also incredibly scary and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! I used to run on the premise that once she(or he) noticed that I'd opened my mouth to speak to him/her, then I had to continue or risk looking the fool. Most people were polite. One person rolled her eyes and turned her back on me. Quite a few people were charmed If nothing else it teaches you humility. When someone starts flirting with me now I always give them a moment, even if I'm not interested in them. Partly because I like the attention and partly because I know how much it stings to be instantly rejected. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

03-30-2012, 02:11 PM	#23
CA_BabyCakes Member How Do You Identify?: All Femme Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: \ Posts: 364 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 231 Thanked 1,174 Times in 282 Posts Rep Power: 7129097	I always have the same problem, or the only time i get approached is when someone has drinken enough to give them guts, and then they are usually alittle too drunk and it weirds me out it sucks.