Healthy Weight Loss

[gaea]

I have a friend who is trying to lose weight she seems reluctant to do it the healthy way not sure why..in any case im trying to encourage her daily..she thinks she should be "bathing suit" ready by june...wtf? I have no idea what bathing suit ready is...i wear my bathing suit and i go out and tan and even though i have 25 more lbs to go to be where i want to be i dont care what people think im going to enjoy myself because i can..my advice to her has been to take this one pound at a time and stop worrying about this "bathing suit ready" bullshit and get a suit and come lay out with me. I fear she is setting herself up for failure. Me im gonna done my suit anyway... . I like the sun and im not going to let a few extra pounds scare me off from doing what i love to do regardless of what it is.

I cant help someone who chooses not to listen to good healthy advice.

[JoSchmooze]

Originally Posted by gaea

I have a friend who is trying to lose weight she seems reluctant to do it the healthy way not sure why..in any case im trying to encourage her daily..she thinks she should be "bathing suit" ready by june...wtf? I have no idea what bathing suit ready is...i wear my bathing suit and i go out and tan and even though i have 25 more lbs to go to be where i want to be i dont care what people think im going to enjoy myself because i can..my advice to her has been to take this one pound at a time and stop worrying about this "bathing suit ready" bullshit and get a suit and come lay out with me. I fear she is setting herself up for failure. Me im gonna done my suit anyway... . I like the sun and im not going to let a few extra pounds scare me off from doing what i love to do regardless of what it is.

I cant help someone who chooses not to listen to good healthy advice.

This is where I find the term "addiction" to
be appropriate. And I have to remember that
I have no control over other people, places and things....
I can advise, give my opinion and my friend then needs to
make her own choices.....
Jest saying.....

[gaea]

Originally Posted by JoSchmooze

This is where I find the term "addiction" to
be appropriate. And I have to remember that
I have no control over other people, places and things....
I can advise, give my opinion and my friend then needs to
make her own choices.....
Jest saying.....

I agree she makes her own choices, she has been given a lot of information however the rest is up to her..i understand that.

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by gaea

I have a friend who is trying to lose weight she seems reluctant to do it the healthy way not sure why..in any case im trying to encourage her daily..she thinks she should be "bathing suit" ready by june...wtf? I have no idea what bathing suit ready is...i wear my bathing suit and i go out and tan and even though i have 25 more lbs to go to be where i want to be i dont care what people think im going to enjoy myself because i can..my advice to her has been to take this one pound at a time and stop worrying about this "bathing suit ready" bullshit and get a suit and come lay out with me. I fear she is setting herself up for failure. Me im gonna done my suit anyway... . I like the sun and im not going to let a few extra pounds scare me off from doing what i love to do regardless of what it is.

I cant help someone who chooses not to listen to good healthy advice.

Believe me, people with any type of food disorder struggle with this and for me it's SO hard to get that eating more food, or ANY food to lose weight is healthy advice. i STILL 20 years later struggle with not feeling like food is the enemy.

[Hollylane]

Interestingly, I'm not that in to food. This has been an ongoing problem for me with gastroparesis. I am nauseous to some degree every day, some days worse than others. So it is hard for me to consume the appropriate amounts of food. My gastro doc says that my diet should resemble that of someone who has had gastric bypass(I have not had this), but some days, I can hardly consume even that much food.

You have to eat to live. Eating enough food is what makes it possible for me to get out and do the things I need to for my health and well being. It is a vicious cycle. I am constantly challenged to find foods packed with enough calories, a small amount of carbohydrates, and enough nutrients to get me through my daily fitness activities, and small enough servings to help me digest in a timely manner. Fun!

As I am entering the path, again, of quitting smoking, I'm wondering what will happen this time, with these existing circumstances.

[starryeyes]

I did elliptical for 20 min yesterday and going back again today! Looking forward to staying on track! One day at a time

Hugs to all

[Novelafemme]

Originally Posted by Hollylane

Interestingly, I'm not that in to food. This has been an ongoing problem for me with gastroparesis. I am nauseous to some degree every day, some days worse than others. So it is hard for me to consume the appropriate amounts of food. My gastro doc says that my diet should resemble that of someone who has had gastric bypass(I have not had this), but some days, I can hardly consume even that much food.

You have to eat to live. Eating enough food is what makes it possible for me to get out and do the things I need to for my health and well being. It is a vicious cycle. I am constantly challenged to find foods packed with enough calories, a small amount of carbohydrates, and enough nutrients to get me through my daily fitness activities, and small enough servings to help me digest in a timely manner. Fun!

As I am entering the path, again, of quitting smoking, I'm wondering what will happen this time, with these existing circumstances.

Holly, could you share with me a bit more about your struggle with gastroparesis? I've never heard of it but I also experience multiple periods of nausia throughout my day and have wondered what it means.

[Hollylane]

I would be happy to share my experience as a person living with gastroparesis. Probably something that would derail the thread though, unless others are interested in learning about it in the Healthy Weight Loss thread. Could I pm you about it after work today?

[Novelafemme]

Originally Posted by Hollylane

I would be happy to share my experience as a person living with gastroparesis. Probably something that would derail the thread though, unless others are interested in learning about it in the Healthy Weight Loss thread. Could I pm you about it after work today?

Of course!! Thanks so much!

[girl_dee]

Down a pound and a half at WW Weigh In. Doesn't seem like much but it sure beats a gain. 15 more pounds to go!

[Novelafemme]

On another note...I caught a glimpse of my booty in the mirror this morning and was a bit flabergasted! But, the good news is that it provided me with some motivation to get back to the gym. Between school, work, family and other obligations I have not been making time to run or work out. It's time to get back on track!!

[Lady_Di]

Originally Posted by Hollylane

Interestingly, I'm not that in to food. This has been an ongoing problem for me with gastroparesis. I am nauseous to some degree every day, some days worse than others. So it is hard for me to consume the appropriate amounts of food. My gastro doc says that my diet should resemble that of someone who has had gastric bypass(I have not had this), but some days, I can hardly consume even that much food.

You have to eat to live. Eating enough food is what makes it possible for me to get out and do the things I need to for my health and well being. It is a vicious cycle. I am constantly challenged to find foods packed with enough calories, a small amount of carbohydrates, and enough nutrients to get me through my daily fitness activities, and small enough servings to help me digest in a timely manner. Fun!

As I am entering the path, again, of quitting smoking, I'm wondering what will happen this time, with these existing circumstances.

why or why did this post twice, or is it 3 times... benadryl makes me loopy.

d' who hates taking meds

[Lady_Di]

Originally Posted by Hollylane

Interestingly, I'm not that in to food. This has been an ongoing problem for me with gastroparesis. I am nauseous to some degree every day, some days worse than others. So it is hard for me to consume the appropriate amounts of food. My gastro doc says that my diet should resemble that of someone who has had gastric bypass(I have not had this), but some days, I can hardly consume even that much food.

You have to eat to live. Eating enough food is what makes it possible for me to get out and do the things I need to for my health and well being. It is a vicious cycle. I am constantly challenged to find foods packed with enough calories, a small amount of carbohydrates, and enough nutrients to get me through my daily fitness activities, and small enough servings to help me digest in a timely manner. Fun!

As I am entering the path, again, of quitting smoking, I'm wondering what will happen this time, with these existing circumstances.

Yes, they call that nutrient density and it is particularly important for gastro problems. And I do not think this subject is off topic, btw. It is about whatever it takes to be healthy and reflect that in a healthy weight loss. It is not easy carrying around extra weight, I have been all sorts of different sizes, I know how hard it is to navigate in this world with extra weight on. It made me a prisoner of my own making, closed down opportunities due to my larger than life size. We make no judgements here. We know that all people are beautiful, no matter their size. But the reality is it can make us differently abled and hinder our lives. Having been fit at one time, I know the difference it makes. Please keep sharing, you never know if someone may be lurking here and can really relate to what you have to share, but for whatever reason they might not be posting. There are a lot of deep seated shame issues around these subjects, no? You might really be helping someone, being of service to others by sharing your experience, strength and hope. Your honesty and opening up about these issues is a very good thing, imnsho.

Extra weight is a multifaceted situation with a myriad of things that affect our health and wellness.

I did have gastric bypass back in 2007, but for several reasons I did not exactly utilize my 'little buddy' as I like to call him. First of all, I lived with someone who was only happy with refined white flour and sugar, processed foods. Did not enjoy trying new things and was stuck food wise, basically ate like a child. I did often had to cook things that were entirely different than what I needed to eat for my own health and wellness. But making two entirely different dinners, or lunch, not exactly easy to do. It got old fast. I admit I simply took the easier softer way, and often ate the crap that hy enjoyed.

Still was and is my own responsibility, I take complete blame for that silliness. Ultimately we are all responsible for what and when we put anything into our mouths. Like dr phil says, somedays we just like to have a party in our mouths. Somedays we just want, crave some immediate gratification. But we pay a high price for such things, as not caring what we eat. And I do care.

I care for myself these days on elemental levels. I know I am ultimately responsible for what and how I consume anything and it is I who will pay the piper in the end from what I eat today. There is a price to pay and some of us pay for it dearly. Today it does feel good to care for myself, my precious body and mind. They are all connected, we are all connected.

There is no one to blame for what has happened to me and my poor old body. Bottomline it is abusive to not listen to what it really needs to do the work of living and loving on this good earth. In my previous relationship, food was a real issue for us. We did not compromise or work well together when it came to these food issues. Hy said hy was willing to support me in whatever I needed to do, but in reality. Grape jelly on nasty ole white bread toast were what he considered good eats. Total crap for me, no nutrient density. No nutrients basically.

I need to focus firstly on protein. And the dietician was very specific, I require at the minimum 70 grams of protein per day. And on days when I did not feel like eating at all, I had to think of it as medicine almost. Fuel for my body to be able to function at optimal levels.

As for the protein - the higher the quality the better. The less processed, the better. Free range, grass fed, no antibiotics or hormones of any type, all conducive to better quality proteins. My ex preferred hot dogs or worst. Fried anything. Stuff that my body actually did not like at all. It was a dramatic indication of many things, mostly that I do not do well with processed foods. Even the highest quality of Kosher hot dogs I did not do well with. It is about listening, really tuning into what your body needs. If you listen it will tell you. But you have to get into that quiet space and really care.

As I have mentioned before, there is a definite addictive quality to those over processed, easy foods that dominate the food stores in this country. I realize it does cost more to eat healthy. But the savings in the long run comes from lower medical bills and feeling tons better, inside and out - looking good, fit and healthy. Nothing better than that!

Sorry for babbling on here. I am still in the hospital and keep getting distracted. Just had a benedryl for my itching. I am very sensitive to many things, including the medication they put in the spinal. Also the pre-op scrub soap... another thing I am apparently sensitive too. Hence the babbling on here as I am drifting off to sleep. Time for a nice nap before PT.

A nurse manager just came in and essentially interviewed me. I am well on my way here, on track to getting a job. We even discussed the food issue and the importance of health and wellness, how it effects my abilities as a nurse. That is the reality of the weight issue. I feel very lucky to finally be able to take full advantage of my 'little buddy' which reminds me to eat smaller portions and be conscientious about what and how I consume. Nutrient dense food... A very good thing, as Martha Stewart likes to say. And well, she is G.d isn't she?

[thedivahrrrself]

I am still alive. I need new much more practical shoes! Doing it again tonight.

[JustJo]

I tend to over-think and over-complicate things...

Part of this healthy weight loss journey, for me has been to keep it very, very simple.

Drink more water.

Eat healthier food.

Eat more reasonable portions.

Move more.

Lately, I'm also finding that I have to re-learn a few things....like how to recognize thirst, and fatigue.

As a very young child, and continuing throughout most of my life, I have been trained (and sometimes pressured) to ignore my own feelings and needs in order to keep working, doing, and being for others.

I'm learning that much of the time, when I feel "hungry" and would normally eat....I am actually tired, and need a nap.

Who'd a thunk it?

[JoSchmooze]

Originally Posted by JustJo

I tend to over-think and over-complicate things...

Part of this healthy weight loss journey, for me has been to keep it very, very simple.

Drink more water.

Eat healthier food.

Eat more reasonable portions.

Move more.

Lately, I'm also finding that I have to re-learn a few things....like how to recognize thirst, and fatigue.

As a very young child, and continuing throughout most of my life, I have been trained (and sometimes pressured) to ignore my own feelings and needs in order to keep working, doing, and being for others.

I'm learning that much of the time, when I feel "hungry" and would normally eat....I am actually tired, and need a nap.

Who'd a thunk it?

Two words:
Behaviour modification....

I went to lunch today with a friend who's
mom has recently passed way....
This lil itty bitty thang had the "ultimate bacon
and cheese omelette", hash browns and sour dough toast.
I could have jumped right up and stolen all her
food without a fight - but instead I had the chicken
caesar salad anf brought my own no cal, etc dressing.....

Also early this morning I spoke with the manager of the fitness
center and kinda unloaded on him about Mr. Pimply assed 30 yr old
trainer. I even threatened to pull my membership.
I freakin actually stood up for myself (not for someone else but for me this time)
and made my disappointment known.
We'll see what can be changed when I go back on Friday morning.....