Dating other femmes exes: what do you think?

[Words]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I was speaking for myself in regards to sexy time and dating my homies EXes. I'm not assuming everyone is out to partake in sexy time.

Thanks, but it wasn't your comments that bothered me.

A couple of other folks have several times now implied that it's a simple case of choosing between a long standing relationship with a femme 'sister' and 'sexy time' with her ex and that obviously, the relationship should take priority. I just don't think it's that simple, and to be honest, it surprises me that others do. It just seems...well, like we're working according to the assumption that femmes are driven in making difficult decisions by what's between their legs (who they want between their legs?)....and that, to me, feels pretty icky.

Words

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Words

Thanks, but it wasn't your comments that bothered me.

A couple of other folks have several times now implied that it's a simple case of choosing between a long standing relationship with a femme 'sister' and 'sexy time' with her ex and that obviously, the relationship should take priority. I just don't think it's that simple, and to be honest, it surprises me that others do. It just seems...well, like we're working according to the assumption that femmes are driven in making difficult decisions by what's between their legs (who they want between their legs?)....and that, to me, feels pretty icky.

Words

I'm using this couple as an example cause we're in the Femme Zone discussing Femmes, these rules would also apply to Zack and Aaron.


I get and pretty much agree with some of the women who expect their friends to not go after their ex partners after a break up. It's not my cuppa, it's to much like incest for "me".


Example:


Motley and Charlie break up, I've been kickin it with them going on 10 years, Motley is the primary friendship, I gained Chuckles by proxy. If they break up I'm pretty sure any kind of interest of any kind of intimacy is not something I'm going to pursue and vice versa. It's oogy to me to even imagine intimacy with Chuckles cause they're like an in law/family.

It would put drama into my primar relationship(Motley) and truth be told I love her and I'm not willing to risk that kind of love for flirting/sex/curiosity/etc.

If I'm going to flirt with Charlie it's gonna be in front of Mots, she's going to be there aware because we're transparent with eachother. It wouldn't all of a sudden transpire cause she's out of the relationship.