The Fat Positive Lounge

[Soft*Silver]

How is everyone? Surely we cant be THAT quiet?

I posted new photos of my store in my gallery. Just in case you want to see it in the fall season.

So, its a HUGE holiday season coming up. Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Eve. Time to be buying outfits. What are you going to be for Halloween?

Does holiday outfit buying unsettle you? What can I do to make it more comfortable for the gals who come to my shop?

[SingularNYCFemme]

Originally Posted by Miss_Tia

How is everyone? Surely we cant be THAT quiet?

I posted new photos of my store in my gallery. Just in case you want to see it in the fall season.

So, its a HUGE holiday season coming up. Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Eve. Time to be buying outfits. What are you going to be for Halloween?

Does holiday outfit buying unsettle you? What can I do to make it more comfortable for the gals who come to my shop?

Oh what fun it must be to come to your shop! I can't imagine you need to do much more than be your warm and welcoming self. I might tone down the various seasonal decorations ... have them, but perhaps in a subtle way? Either that or go over the top! Hot chocolate might help too. Well, it would help me anyway! I know you'll make all your customers comfortable and happy, and I envy them totally.

[Soft*Silver]

Oh I love the idea of hot chocolate!! Thank you!!!!

[LeftWriteFemme]

I saw this and couldn't resist.....

[Angeltoes]

Although I've been socialized to have weird standards for myself, i'm totally attracted to sexy butches of all sizes.It does not factor in.... i have one gorgeous butch in mind and size is not an issue!

[ruby_woo]

I'm not sure if this belongs this in this thread, but I'm not sure where else to put it.

Do any of you have tips for when you're feeling not-so-positive?

This article pretty well sums up what it's like to be fat in a skinny, crunchy, yoga and snowboard loving town like Vancouver, and it gets really hard to remain positive at times. What do you do to be nice to yourself when you're feeling down?

[NorCalStud]

I love big femmes....so deeply beautiful. So gorgeous. Be happy and be healthy and know you are HOT HEAVEN.

[princesskathie]

I loooove being a big girl coz my fabulousness just won't fit into a small body, lolol!

[princesskathie]

So what are your favorite places to shop online for big girl clothes??

[nycfem]

I wanted to bump this question, ruby woo, because it is such an important one!

Let's see. When I'm feeling not-so-positive, here's some of what I do that helps me:

-exercise (gets me in touch with my body feeling strong and capable and the adrenalin rush feels good too)

-talk to or hang out with someone body positive (or go on body positive web sites)

-a few weeks ago i cried and told my partner my feelings on a bad day, and hy listened and reassured me genuinely that i had not done anything that was so bad

-let myself feel bad and realize it'll pass...

Originally Posted by ruby_woo

I'm not sure if this belongs this in this thread, but I'm not sure where else to put it.

Do any of you have tips for when you're feeling not-so-positive?

This article pretty well sums up what it's like to be fat in a skinny, crunchy, yoga and snowboard loving town like Vancouver, and it gets really hard to remain positive at times. What do you do to be nice to yourself when you're feeling down?

[falloutmk]

As weird as it sounds I get made up pretty with makeup and get nude, I then look at myself and ask if I am really hideous on the outside... It's hard to say when you are wearing your favorite makeup combo for me at least no matter if I'm 180 pounds at that time in my life or 250lbs.

Originally Posted by ruby_woo

I'm not sure if this belongs this in this thread, but I'm not sure where else to put it.

Do any of you have tips for when you're feeling not-so-positive?

This article pretty well sums up what it's like to be fat in a skinny, crunchy, yoga and snowboard loving town like Vancouver, and it gets really hard to remain positive at times. What do you do to be nice to yourself when you're feeling down?

[Soft*Silver]

actually thats a really good question! When i am not feeling good about my body, I do a meditation, where I focus on my breathing and in my focused breathing, I slide my thoughts over every part of my body until I feel myself "attach". I know when I am not feeling good about myself, I am so far removed from my body that I forget how important it is to me. So in meditation, I recommit to it. Breath in positive, breath out negative...each and every segment of my whole.

I also like someone else's idea of movement. I dont care if I am walking the dog, riding a horse, gardening, exercise, etc...if I move, I feel ME. The real me that exists in my flesh and blood and not in anyone's judgement, including my own.

I also love to do for me, when I need tenderness. I will lotion myself with my special oils or spray on that perfume i reserve for special occasions.

I also love to read, so I will read an inspirational biography. Someone I can relate to and who has relevance to whatever is getting in my way spiritually.

Speaking of, when we feel bad about ourselves, we sometimes are paying heed to lack of care. And spiritually, you cant do that for extended periods of time without spiritual repercussions. If you are feeling bad, you might need to figure out what you arent tending to for yourself and fix that.

Rarely does spending money fix my feelings. So shopping doesnt do it for me. It use to, but I fixed that gaping hole a long time ago...

[Soft*Silver]

where do i shop? Why at my store! One of the best things about my shop is that I carry all the lines for plus sizes...from Lane Bryant to Torrid to Catherines to....name it...

I have discovered I am a mix between Talbots and cowboy wear. With a bit of Torrid mixed in...