Dykes And Lesbians To Watch Out For

dykeumentary · 11-02-2012, 10:43 AM

I am glad I was a baby dyke long before the internet.
It felt like I'd joined a secret adventure club! Decoding the bar names, learning which softball leagues to play in, rugby tournaments, the earring placement and language games and nicknames....It seemed more exciting than "googling in isolation" will ever be. I'm glad it's less difficult now.

Odd how being an "out" lesbian-identified-lesbian has become subversive again. I loved Off (and On) Our Backs.

Martina · 11-02-2012, 10:52 AM

Yeah, and Sinister Wisdom. Remember that? Taught me a lot.

Parker · 11-02-2012, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by dykeumentary

It felt like I'd joined a secret adventure club! Decoding the bar names, learning which softball leagues to play in, rugby tournaments, the earring placement and language games and nicknames....It seemed more exciting than "googling in isolation" will ever be. I'm glad it's less difficult now.

Yeah - having those conversations when you thought you just might be talking to family but you werent sure so you would say things that only family would understand or catch and then watch their reactions .... lol, good times.

I remember my first gf was in the Navy too and we met while a bunch of us were washing a helicopter - we were both trying to be all nonchalant by saying certain things, mentioning certain bars, etc, both trying to figure out if we were right and the other one was gay while also trying not to tip off anyone who might be listening.

lol, I forgot all about that.

starryeyes · 11-02-2012, 02:46 PM

<----- Dyke and proud. Yeah, I am not the typical "Dyke" in the mainstream perspective, but it makes it that much more empowering. I am dyke, hear me roar! :-D

Martina · 11-02-2012, 03:34 PM

I loved those conversations.

I had one with a trans guy not too long ago. A gay male trans guy, even. lol. He had had a long history as a lesbian, and we talked about the awful women's music we had been subjected to over the years. It was fun.

I miss lesbian culture, but I sure don't miss the music.

macele · 11-02-2012, 04:03 PM

the first time i said to someone else, out loud, hearing my voice say, "i am a lesbian." a burden of sorts had been lifted. felt good. the first time saying, "my girlfriend." the first time i held her hand in public, ... walked, kissed her kiss. whether it happens at 15 or 55, makes you feel like shouting from the rooftops, ... even though you might not need that. these are things that stir emotions, ... thinking back/about. makes me cry even now. big time moments in a lesbians life. least for me they were.

OS Butch · 11-02-2012, 05:31 PM

Oh the memories of what I did so many years ago. Did any of you master the art of speaking without using male or female pronouns? That way it was for the other person to assume the other part of "we" was a guy, boyfriend or husband.

Years after I came out, my company made us all take a diversity training class. One of the exercises was to talk without using male /female pronouns.
When It was my turn I told the group that I had done this very thing for way too many years so I would rather not endure it again. You could see the light bulbs turn on! LOL!

Parker · 11-02-2012, 05:39 PM

My first year or so in the Navy, I straight up lied and said "he" - but I tripped over it every single time, so I dont know how I was fooling anyone. lol

I was so paranoid about being found out and dishonorably discharged, that when the lesbian bar I worked at (Partners in SD - I think it lasted all of a year - I was a barback) was up for a few awards at some city-wide gay awards thing (stuff like best bartender, best restaurant, etc) that the mayor was supposed to show up at to do a presentation, I literally hid in the back of the room because I was worried that I would end up on some news clip or part of a sound bite and then everyone would know.

While I was hiding, I saw some gay women and men not just there, but in uniform and right out in the open. It was that night that I felt so pissed off about hiding that I said fuck it, if they find out and kick me out, sobeit and I stopped using gender neutral or male pronouns to hide the fact that my significant other was a woman.

A dude tried to get me kicked out a few years later for supposedly violating DADT, but that's a whole other story. lol

Licious · 07-31-2013, 11:37 PM

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LeftWriteFemme · 08-16-2013, 04:55 PM

Big Boo Wasn't Originally Supposed To Be A Part Of 'Orange Is The New Black' (VIDEO)

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/0...r=Gay%20Voices

dykeumentary · 05-20-2015, 02:15 AM

In case you're wondering if any dykes are having fun making silly videos, yes indeed I certainly am. I resist being "market" and prefer to be considered a threat to the status quo.
Here are some links to projects I'm currently working on (all still rough drafts).

Trailer for a video about moving to Provincetown in 1987 as a baby butch.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmMX...ature=youtu.be

A Retelling of the genesis story, but with a butch and femme as first humans.
http://youtu.be/EX4rafGWn74

Please support non-mainstream artists!

dykeumentary · 05-20-2015, 07:52 PM

Also- please attend a LGBTQ+ film festival or two this summer.
Hollywood doesn't have good roles for women and queers generally becuase they say there "isn't a market." Let's show them there is!

dykeumentary · 06-07-2015, 08:01 PM

I'm cheering for "Fun Home" tonight to win some Tony awards!

11-02-2012, 10:43 AM	#1
dykeumentary Member How Do You Identify?: butch dyke Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 449 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 341 Thanked 1,548 Times in 359 Posts Rep Power: 19160663	I am glad I was a baby dyke long before the internet. It felt like I'd joined a secret adventure club! Decoding the bar names, learning which softball leagues to play in, rugby tournaments, the earring placement and language games and nicknames....It seemed more exciting than "googling in isolation" will ever be. I'm glad it's less difficult now. Odd how being an "out" lesbian-identified-lesbian has become subversive again. I loved Off (and On) Our Backs. __________________ The Origins of Butch & Femme (a retelling): https://youtu.be/U7VkXpZl4Mk Watch more of my funny butch/femme movies here: https://www.youtube.com/dykeumentary1

11-02-2012, 02:46 PM	#4
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,049 Times in 2,075 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	<----- Dyke and proud. Yeah, I am not the typical "Dyke" in the mainstream perspective, but it makes it that much more empowering. I am dyke, hear me roar! :-D __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

11-02-2012, 05:31 PM	#7
OS Butch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch-BLW Preferred Pronoun?: Default-She Relationship Status: Closed Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 636 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 488 Thanked 1,378 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 12988704	Oh the memories of what I did so many years ago. Did any of you master the art of speaking without using male or female pronouns? That way it was for the other person to assume the other part of "we" was a guy, boyfriend or husband. Years after I came out, my company made us all take a diversity training class. One of the exercises was to talk without using male /female pronouns. When It was my turn I told the group that I had done this very thing for way too many years so I would rather not endure it again. You could see the light bulbs turn on! LOL! __________________ You know that place between sleep and awake, the place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I'll always love you. ~Tinkerbell~

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Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,280 Times in 4,165 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I loved those conversations. I had one with a trans guy not too long ago. A gay male trans guy, even. lol. He had had a long history as a lesbian, and we talked about the awful women's music we had been subjected to over the years. It was fun. I miss lesbian culture, but I sure don't miss the music.

11-02-2012, 04:03 PM	#6
macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,230 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	the first time i said to someone else, out loud, hearing my voice say, "i am a lesbian." a burden of sorts had been lifted. felt good. the first time saying, "my girlfriend." the first time i held her hand in public, ... walked, kissed her kiss. whether it happens at 15 or 55, makes you feel like shouting from the rooftops, ... even though you might not need that. these are things that stir emotions, ... thinking back/about. makes me cry even now. big time moments in a lesbians life. least for me they were.

11-02-2012, 05:39 PM	#8
Parker Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Butch. Lesbian. Dyke. Woman. Female. Preferred Pronoun?: She, of course! Relationship Status: Content Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Small Town Life Posts: 2,880 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,858 Thanked 11,727 Times in 2,429 Posts Rep Power: 0	My first year or so in the Navy, I straight up lied and said "he" - but I tripped over it every single time, so I dont know how I was fooling anyone. lol I was so paranoid about being found out and dishonorably discharged, that when the lesbian bar I worked at (Partners in SD - I think it lasted all of a year - I was a barback) was up for a few awards at some city-wide gay awards thing (stuff like best bartender, best restaurant, etc) that the mayor was supposed to show up at to do a presentation, I literally hid in the back of the room because I was worried that I would end up on some news clip or part of a sound bite and then everyone would know. While I was hiding, I saw some gay women and men not just there, but in uniform and right out in the open. It was that night that I felt so pissed off about hiding that I said fuck it, if they find out and kick me out, sobeit and I stopped using gender neutral or male pronouns to hide the fact that my significant other was a woman. A dude tried to get me kicked out a few years later for supposedly violating DADT, but that's a whole other story. lol

05-20-2015, 02:15 AM	#11
dykeumentary Member How Do You Identify?: butch dyke Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 449 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 341 Thanked 1,548 Times in 359 Posts Rep Power: 19160663	In case you're wondering if any dykes are having fun making silly videos, yes indeed I certainly am. I resist being "market" and prefer to be considered a threat to the status quo. Here are some links to projects I'm currently working on (all still rough drafts). Trailer for a video about moving to Provincetown in 1987 as a baby butch. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmMX...ature=youtu.be A Retelling of the genesis story, but with a butch and femme as first humans. http://youtu.be/EX4rafGWn74 Please support non-mainstream artists! __________________ The Origins of Butch & Femme (a retelling): https://youtu.be/U7VkXpZl4Mk Watch more of my funny butch/femme movies here: https://www.youtube.com/dykeumentary1

05-20-2015, 07:52 PM	#12
dykeumentary Member How Do You Identify?: butch dyke Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 449 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 341 Thanked 1,548 Times in 359 Posts Rep Power: 19160663	Also- please attend a LGBTQ+ film festival or two this summer. Hollywood doesn't have good roles for women and queers generally becuase they say there "isn't a market." Let's show them there is! __________________ The Origins of Butch & Femme (a retelling): https://youtu.be/U7VkXpZl4Mk Watch more of my funny butch/femme movies here: https://www.youtube.com/dykeumentary1

06-07-2015, 08:01 PM	#13
dykeumentary Member How Do You Identify?: butch dyke Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 449 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 341 Thanked 1,548 Times in 359 Posts Rep Power: 19160663	I'm cheering for "Fun Home" tonight to win some Tony awards! __________________ The Origins of Butch & Femme (a retelling): https://youtu.be/U7VkXpZl4Mk Watch more of my funny butch/femme movies here: https://www.youtube.com/dykeumentary1