PTSD and Trauma recovery

Andrew, Jr. · 03-23-2010, 09:32 AM

One of my niece's got married this past weekend. It was wonderful because I had time to see and visit with my other nieces and nephews. They each hang on me like little monkeys. I love it! They are my pride and joy.

The one thing I have to say is that each one came to me and talked in length about their grandfather's abuse of their parent (mother or father who is my sibling). Each one told me stories about growing up with the after-effects. It really does affect each one differently. The two themes that was obvious throughout was our father's control and abuse issues if he didn't get his way. It was horrible. And the kids sensed this.

So for those who think it stops when you are out of the home, or away from the abuser, no. And all of us who have lived thru abuse, no matter what kind it was, are more in tune with reality than those who never did.

Apocalipstic · 03-23-2010, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

One of my niece's got married this past weekend. It was wonderful because I had time to see and visit with my other nieces and nephews. They each hang on me like little monkeys. I love it! They are my pride and joy.

The one thing I have to say is that each one came to me and talked in length about their grandfather's abuse of their parent (mother or father who is my sibling). Each one told me stories about growing up with the after-effects. It really does affect each one differently. The two themes that was obvious throughout was our father's control and abuse issues if he didn't get his way. It was horrible. And the kids sensed this.

So for those who think it stops when you are out of the home, or away from the abuser, no.

So glad you had fun my friend!

I so agree about abusers. When my little nephew was 4, he would not let my father come to his little lemonade stand, he said he did nto like him. That gave me such peace, that if a 4 year old can see he is not a good person, then I am not as crazy as I though.

TU! BTW, my nephews name is Andrew too.

Andrew, Jr. · 03-23-2010, 01:36 PM

I have a question...why do so many people say that we are not dealing with reality? I am lost. I think if anything we are more in tune with reality than most people.

Andrew

Apocalipstic · 03-23-2010, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

I have a question...why do so many people say that we are not dealing with reality? I am lost. I think if anything we are more in tune with reality than most people.

Andrew

Hey there! xoxox

Who says that and in what context?

Not knowing details all I can come up with is that it is often easier for people to discount that which they do not understand.

Leigh · 03-23-2010, 02:26 PM

I just wanted to come in and say hi to everyone, see how your all doing and let you know that I think about each of you every day .......... hope everyone is having a wonderful day

Apocalipstic · 03-23-2010, 02:29 PM

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I just wanted to come in and say hi to everyone, see how your all doing and let you know that I think about each of you every day .......... hope everyone is having a wonderful day

Thank you Braeden!

How are you today?

I hope wonderful!

Leigh · 03-23-2010, 02:45 PM

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Thank you Braeden!

How are you today?

I hope wonderful!

No complaints here, doing as good as can hope

Jet · 03-25-2010, 02:02 PM

There is nothing more horrific beyond the trauma itself than facing it alone. This requires faith from every fiber of my being.

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Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	There is nothing more horrific beyond the trauma itself than facing it alone. This requires faith from every fiber of my being.