Long Distance Relationships

LoyalWolfsBlade · 12-21-2012, 04:05 AM

As one that is in a LDR and has both successful and disastrous LDRs I think and still find that the holidays and birthdays are the hardest time to get through. At least for me they are, with birthdays being the hardest.

When I say successful I am referring to ones that lasted 15+ years and even included moving to fast (in others opinions) and when I say disastrous I am referring to those that lasted more then a couple of years and included moving to slow. I think that with LDRs especially it really does depend on the couple and what they are and are not willing to do to make/keep it working. Also in my experience many LDRs that fail have done so because of others and not the couple. It is a lot easier to fall prey to peer pressure, rumors, and others well meaning interfering then it is when you live done the road from someone. Yet, still even with all my experience can fall prey to the holidays and LDRs that do not make it through them.

diamondrose · 12-21-2012, 04:14 AM

My partner and I are in what some would call a LDR. For us its doable distance. As I put it, there is not so much distance that we never see each other, but enough distance to not drive each other crazy . Really, our mere 2 hours works well for us. We get to see each other once every two weeks(sometimes more) and take frequent vacations with our vacation time. We are both career driven highly independent people. She supports my goals and stands by me while I finish things here in my area. I always knew I would move when I finished my career goals; now I know where. Though I have finished my Accounting degree I have put the move off, because I am going to start EMT training soon. My partner is over joyed by my choice even though it means waiting a little longer. We decided it would be better for me to do the training in my area and will only open up more career possibilities when the move arrives.

12-21-2012, 04:05 AM	#1
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	As one that is in a LDR and has both successful and disastrous LDRs I think and still find that the holidays and birthdays are the hardest time to get through. At least for me they are, with birthdays being the hardest. When I say successful I am referring to ones that lasted 15+ years and even included moving to fast (in others opinions) and when I say disastrous I am referring to those that lasted more then a couple of years and included moving to slow. I think that with LDRs especially it really does depend on the couple and what they are and are not willing to do to make/keep it working. Also in my experience many LDRs that fail have done so because of others and not the couple. It is a lot easier to fall prey to peer pressure, rumors, and others well meaning interfering then it is when you live done the road from someone. Yet, still even with all my experience can fall prey to the holidays and LDRs that do not make it through them. __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

12-21-2012, 04:14 AM	#2
diamondrose Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: . Posts: 1,384 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2 Thanked 2,895 Times in 923 Posts Rep Power: 13536274	My partner and I are in what some would call a LDR. For us its doable distance. As I put it, there is not so much distance that we never see each other, but enough distance to not drive each other crazy . Really, our mere 2 hours works well for us. We get to see each other once every two weeks(sometimes more) and take frequent vacations with our vacation time. We are both career driven highly independent people. She supports my goals and stands by me while I finish things here in my area. I always knew I would move when I finished my career goals; now I know where. Though I have finished my Accounting degree I have put the move off, because I am going to start EMT training soon. My partner is over joyed by my choice even though it means waiting a little longer. We decided it would be better for me to do the training in my area and will only open up more career possibilities when the move arrives.