PTSD and Trauma recovery

[Andrew, Jr.]

I just got some horrible news today...one of my sister's 2 kids called me on the phone to talk. They told me that my sister is a cocaine and drug addict. It explains alot. The kids want to hold an intervention, and want me to be there. I am not sure if it would be a good idea. My sister refuses to talk to me, and even at my nieces wedding she could barely hold a conversation with me. I take her like a grain of salt. I always have. Now, I am blindsided. The kids mean the world to me. I just am caught in this.

[friskyfemme]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

I just got some horrible news today...one of my sister's 2 kids called me on the phone to talk. They told me that my sister is a cocaine and drug addict. It explains alot. The kids want to hold an intervention, and want me to be there. I am not sure if it would be a good idea. My sister refuses to talk to me, and even at my nieces wedding she could barely hold a conversation with me. I take her like a grain of salt. I always have. Now, I am blindsided. The kids mean the world to me. I just am caught in this.

Of course you know best how to handle this situation. But my vote is with your first thought. Tell your niece you support her in doing the intervention. However, an intervention is usually more successfulwhen participants are people the individual has a valued relationship with. This doesn't seem to exist between you and your sister (as unfortunate as that is). If you nieces are minors and living with your sister, you can contact Children Protective Services hotline and make an animous report of your sister drug abuse. Just a thought.

[Apocalipstic]

I feel like crying today and can't concentrate.

I keep telling myself everything is OK.

[Andrew, Jr.]

FF,

Thank you for your advice. Her 2 kids are in their 20's and getting married. Both kids and their soon to be spouses want to do the intervention, and include me in this. I don't see how this will work with me at all. My sister hates me because I was not able to stop the abuse taking place. She blames me 100% for her incest. I was about 4 or 5 yo. I tried to stop it, but my father used abuse against me (physical, verbal, mental, and so on).

I carry that guilt with me to this very day. I already confronted my father on it. He is an ass. That pretty much sums it up.


Apocolipstic,

I am sorry you have these feelings today. Try to get outside and look at some beautiful flowers. I know how negativity affects me as well.
I am praying for you.

Love to all,
Andrew

[Jet]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I feel like crying today and can't concentrate.

I keep telling myself everything is OK.

((((((((((((((apocalipstic)))))))))))))))

It will be okay. And you have support here as well.

[Apocalipstic]

Thank you all! Hugs!

I need

[Princess4u]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I feel like crying today and can't concentrate.

I keep telling myself everything is OK.

Sometimes we tell ourselves what seems logical...but the pain is still there...its believing in ourselves and that it WILL be ok....thats the hard part...do something nice for yourself...get a pedi or mani...sometimes its when we feel the lowest that we need to cuddle ourselves and love ourselves even more...which I know is easier said than done....I love ya...I am here if you need to chat...well via phone..I am home now but thats not too far as you know. Hugs sweetie...

[Princess4u]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

I just got some horrible news today...one of my sister's 2 kids called me on the phone to talk. They told me that my sister is a cocaine and drug addict. It explains alot. The kids want to hold an intervention, and want me to be there. I am not sure if it would be a good idea. My sister refuses to talk to me, and even at my nieces wedding she could barely hold a conversation with me. I take her like a grain of salt. I always have. Now, I am blindsided. The kids mean the world to me. I just am caught in this.

Andrew...that is a difficult place to be in...but you have to do what you feel is right in your heart...look yourself in the mirror and say out loud what your choices are and the possible consequences of them....see if that helps...bc my friend...you will have to face yourself for the rest of your life with what ever choice you decide to go with...she may blame you bc blaming your father is way to painful for her...(just a thought, I dont know) Do what you feel in your heart...do what you know you can live with! I pray for you and your family that she will be ok!

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by Princess4u

I am finding myself confused...scared and overwhelmed...there is someone that I have been speaking to....and I dont know when or how to even tell hym about my PTSD...I sometimes wonder why even bother...but then you know what happens...a loud noise a startle response....you cant hid that forever...does anyone have any thoughts on this. I usually just keep that part of me locked away and hope for the best....but I am wondering if that is part of the problem with my past relationships...I suppose better sooner than later...and if hy runs then hy runs....I dont know...any thoughts?????

I think that anyone who runs at the thought of PTSD does not deserve you!

Everyone has their stuff. I think being open and honest from the begining and able to talk about anything makes for a good relationship.

Mayber suggest exchanging lists of "things you should know"? Some can be funny, some serious?