What TO DO in a relationship.....

Originally Posted by kittygrrl

Interesting..care to explain?

I'm more interested to know your interpretation of it; everyone's is so different.

[Miss Scarlett]

Laugh and just have some crazy/silly fun together and often!!!

[girl_dee]

Imagine being in the other person's shoes.

[Gráinne]

Originally Posted by Daktari

I'm more interested to know your interpretation of it; everyone's is so different.

Here's mine:

*If you have areas where you are irresponsible, change this. I believe your irresponsibility affects your partner, too, even if you don't merge lives.

*Get real with, and deal with, addiction.

*If you have issues from the past, work on resolving these before you get too involved with someone new.

*Essentially, get yourself as emotionally, spiritually, and physically healthy as you can be, then stay that way. Don't look for a partner to "fix" you.

Was I even close?

[midwest chick]

play and romp like puppies and kittens

growling and romping without biting hard or taking it too seriously

[deathbypoem]

Cherish all of the memories, reminisce about them (with each other) often.

[LadyApples]

Typical answers, but for the love of cake, communicate and respect one another's space.

Amante, I love that StoryCorps animation! The rest of the series is also wonderful, but Danny and Annie's story was so touching. <3

[Nic]

My wife and I used to hold hands when we were mad at each other. There was a time or two that I thought she was only holding my hand to keep herself from slapping me, so maybe it was worth the effort in the end. Holding hands when you argue makes it hard to disconnect from each another and it makes it hard to escalate too. We took space when we needed it but I swear holding hands when you're mad is the secret to successful marriage.

[deathbypoem]

Originally Posted by Nic

My wife and I used to hold hands when we were mad at each other. There was a time or two that I thought she was only holding my hand to keep herself from slapping me, so maybe it was worth the effort in the end. Holding hands when you argue makes it hard to disconnect from each another and it makes it hard to escalate too. We took space when we needed it but I swear holding hands when you're mad is the secret to successful marriage.

So very true. Actually, I read something about this in a magazine recently. Love this idea. It works.

[peachy]

Originally Posted by deathbypoem

So very true. Actually, I read something about this in a magazine recently. Love this idea. It works.

Originally Posted by Nic

My wife and I used to hold hands when we were mad at each other. There was a time or two that I thought she was only holding my hand to keep herself from slapping me, so maybe it was worth the effort in the end. Holding hands when you argue makes it hard to disconnect from each another and it makes it hard to escalate too. We took space when we needed it but I swear holding hands when you're mad is the secret to successful marriage.

That's sweet. I love that. I used to argue a lot with my ex husband. One day when we were both really mad with each other I just slapped him on the backside and he slapped me back on mine. It's impossible to stay angry with someone when you have smacked each other on the bum. It's too ridiculous. Plus it releases the pent up frustration. Don't think that would be for everyone but it worked for us.

We're both quite hot headed and often when we argue now and it gets heated and shouting we just stop and hug and say sorry. Years ago it might be 2 days before it would get to making up hug but now it's usually within about a minute. That's something that has come with knowing each other a long time and knowing we're as bad as each other and that we care about each other regardless of emotional outbursts.