What TO DO in a relationship.....

Sweet Bliss · 09-02-2013, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Daktari

Keep yer own metaphorical house clean first and foremost.

Would like to read how you accomplish this order.

Chad · 09-02-2013, 05:56 PM

Hi,

I have not been that successful in relationships but I have a couple ideas that I believe in.

Be respectful toward your partner, be honest, be intimate, communicate, and have fun. There is something about laughing together that makes me feel connected to her.

Chad
My two cents

Blade · 09-23-2013, 05:03 PM

Be respectful, even when having a fuss

ONLY · 09-23-2013, 05:48 PM

WHEN SHE COMES TO VISIT......
Have flowers in the bedroom .......
Have some of her favorite foods and wine in the fridge, in the cupboard......
Have fresh sheets on the bed.......

When you kiss her, kiss her like she is meant to be kissed......
Love her as she is meant to be loved........
Remind her how beautiful she is, especially on those days that she is having a rough day....

I know I want to hold her all the time and not let her go but make sure you hold her first thing in the morning and last thing at night.....

Alright enough for now, *sigh* missing my girl

even more so now.....but hope to see her in a couple of weeks ....... I love you SS

xo

Bèsame* · 09-23-2013, 07:16 PM

RockOn · 09-23-2013, 09:34 PM

honest
honest
honest

And by the way, omitting things/parts is a form of deception. I call it exactly what it is ... which is lying.

Canela · 09-23-2013, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Brock

honest
honest
honest

And by the way, omitting things/parts is a form of deception. I call it exactly what it is ... which is lying.

Totally agree.

Katniss · 09-28-2013, 12:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Brock

honest
honest
honest

And by the way, omitting things/parts is a form of deception. I call it exactly what it is ... which is lying.

How many times can I rep the above post? Seriously. None of this "I lied out of love or to spare your feelings" cr@p either. What that usually means is you are justifying your own misbehavior. At the very least you don't respect me enough to think I can handle my own emotions and make my own decisions based on the truth. Liars are just manipulators who haven't grown up enough to be in adult relationships. Give me hard truth any day because we can build something solid on that.

Katniss~~

JAGG · 09-28-2013, 07:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Katniss

How many times can I rep the above post? Seriously. None of this "I lied out of love or to spare your feelings" cr@p either. What that usually means is you are justifying your own misbehavior. At the very least you don't respect me enough to think I can handle my own emotions and make my own decisions based on the truth. Liars are just manipulators who haven't grown up enough to be in adult relationships. Give me hard truth any day because we can build something solid on that.

Katniss~~

You took the words right out of my mouth !!! AMEN !!!

Sweet Bliss · 09-30-2013, 10:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Brock

honest
honest
honest

And by the way, omitting things/parts is a form of deception. I call it exactly what it is ... which is lying.

CIJS here ... bull crap, bull crap, bull crap.

Sweet Bliss · 11-02-2013, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

CIJS here ... bull crap, bull crap, bull crap.

In 56 years I have yet to meet or know a person who is "honest". So don't even start the "be honest" parade. Instead of focusing on others focus on your own actions attitudes expectations beliefs etc. I have learned that people will only expose themselves when they have reached THEIR OWN level of trust and safety with another person. Not when YOU DECIDE they should open themselves up to your scrutiny.

YOU (the collective you) are not judge and jury of the other parties level of comfort safety integrity nor in charge of how they experience their lives or deal with their personal issues.

The only person you have a right to examine for flaws is yourself.

The battle cry for "honesty" is moot in the face of lies we tell and believe about ourselves.

Our only option is to decide whether to believe what we are told.

Ask yourself - Is that a story that could be true?

TheLoneStranger · 11-02-2013, 06:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Brock

honest
honest
honest

And by the way, omitting things/parts is a form of deception. I call it exactly what it is ... which is lying.

Seems too often I'm disappointed by the lack of honesty.

Ginger · 11-02-2013, 10:23 AM

First be honest with yourself.
Then be honest with the other person.

It's like what they tell you when you fly; put your own oxygen mask on first.

Blade · 09-24-2013, 04:14 PM

Listen ie pay attention

09-02-2013, 05:56 PM	#2
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