Femmes: what makes you feel sexy?

~ocean · 01-04-2014, 09:56 PM

my booty jeans ~

LaneyDoll · 01-04-2014, 10:02 PM

Two words...

My guy.

candy_coated_bitch · 01-04-2014, 10:12 PM

Taking the time for the extra details. Even if I'm doing it just for myself, and sometimes it matters even more then. Instead of running out of the house dressed like crap--wearing a nice outfit, taking time to do make up, doing my hair. Make up is one that makes a big difference for me. Sometimes I will play with make up when I am home alone and not going anywhere and it makes me happy.

Nice underwear and a nice bra.

A bubble bath.

Putting on nice lotion that smells and feels good.

Just a few.

LaneyDoll · 01-04-2014, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by candy_coated_bitch

Taking the time for the extra details. Even if I'm doing it just for myself, and sometimes it matters even more then. Instead of running out of the house dressed like crap--wearing a nice outfit, taking time to do make up, doing my hair. Make up is one that makes a big difference for me. Sometimes I will play with make up when I am home alone and not going anywhere and it makes me happy.

Damn I wish you lived closer! We could play make up together!!!

Venus007 · 01-05-2014, 12:03 AM

I love to do my make up, to play around with it. It always makes me feel good to paint my face, lol.

I also love dressing up, big black boots and a pencil skirt, fish nets, porn queen lips and going to some swanky bar and smoking a cigar and drinking a really fine bourbon. It reminds me that I am a woman to be reckoned with when I am feeling beat down.

imperfect_cupcake · 01-05-2014, 02:20 AM

Taking care of mysel and knowing I can. The thing that makes me feel better than anything is a sense of independence. That gives me the freedom to feel frumpy without feeling fear, without feeling crushed, without feeling that it will cause horrible things. Then being frumpy for a bit is just frumpy. It isn't loaded with all the other things that go with it.

A run. Some hot Thai soup. A spa bath. My own space, and a lot of it. Usually days or weeks. To gain control over how I feel about myself takes more than just a face pack. It means I need the independence and space to wrestle my own shit and to assert my abilities with only myself.

It was hell getting to that point though. And it felt deathly lonely, not looking after people, not being important to someone, not being so needed in someone's daily life.
Now I would not give my feeling of strength in my independence for anything. Not even falling in love. Jesus, especially not that. What makes me feel beautiful is knowledge and confidence in my own self. On my own. And that I am the one that is control of my own life.

I know that's probably not what you meant, but I read what gives me back my self confidence. And the sense of peace and independence and capability I have in comparison to the fear and anxiety of being afraid of being found unworthy... I still get it sometimes, but when I see what's causing it, I change something. Sometimes it's leaving the environment that makes me feel that way.

Actually to be honest it's mostly that. I no longer have to put up with stressors I don't have to. I leave. I find that makes my life a lot easier and my self confidence a lot higher.

Random · 01-05-2014, 02:28 AM

What makes me feel sexy?

when I'm confident in myself and my own power..

for me.. it starts within and flows without..

Venus007 · 01-05-2014, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by honeybarbara

My own space, and a lot of it. Usually days or weeks.

For me that is not just feeling sexy that is necessary for my sanity. A lot of people get weird when they are alone too long, I am the exact opposite. Keep me around people and not alone, I get real twitchy and cranky.

fatallyblonde · 01-05-2014, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by honeybarbara

I know that's probably not what you meant, but I read what gives me back my self confidence...

Actually that's exactly what I meant... what gives you back your sense of self, your own inner strength that makes you feel in control... and then makes you feel sexy.

I asked partly because this last two years has been very hard for me, I had a nervous breakdown and so I have spent a lot of time being 'frumpy'... not being dressed up, not going out, I stopped performing burlesque, I haven't been dating, I've been a quiet recluse... I learned that taking care of myself the way I need to is something that returns me to myself... that sexy isn't just putting on a tight dress... it's also self-possession and ownership...

I think all means and methods are valid! I've really enjoyed everyone's answers.

01-04-2014, 09:56 PM	#1
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Venus007 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Serene Highness ;} Relationship Status: Dreamily contemplating some outrage against conventional morality Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Houston area Posts: 1,362 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,417 Thanked 4,746 Times in 1,139 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I love to do my make up, to play around with it. It always makes me feel good to paint my face, lol. I also love dressing up, big black boots and a pencil skirt, fish nets, porn queen lips and going to some swanky bar and smoking a cigar and drinking a really fine bourbon. It reminds me that I am a woman to be reckoned with when I am feeling beat down. __________________ . "I need no warrant for being, and no word of sanction upon my being. I am the warrant and the sanction. " Ayn Rand, Anthem "So you'll die happily for your sins. You'd rather die in guilt then live in love?" Timothy Leary Last edited by Venus007; 01-05-2014 at 12:04 AM. Reason: clairity

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01-05-2014, 02:20 AM	#6
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Taking care of mysel and knowing I can. The thing that makes me feel better than anything is a sense of independence. That gives me the freedom to feel frumpy without feeling fear, without feeling crushed, without feeling that it will cause horrible things. Then being frumpy for a bit is just frumpy. It isn't loaded with all the other things that go with it. A run. Some hot Thai soup. A spa bath. My own space, and a lot of it. Usually days or weeks. To gain control over how I feel about myself takes more than just a face pack. It means I need the independence and space to wrestle my own shit and to assert my abilities with only myself. It was hell getting to that point though. And it felt deathly lonely, not looking after people, not being important to someone, not being so needed in someone's daily life. Now I would not give my feeling of strength in my independence for anything. Not even falling in love. Jesus, especially not that. What makes me feel beautiful is knowledge and confidence in my own self. On my own. And that I am the one that is control of my own life. I know that's probably not what you meant, but I read what gives me back my self confidence. And the sense of peace and independence and capability I have in comparison to the fear and anxiety of being afraid of being found unworthy... I still get it sometimes, but when I see what's causing it, I change something. Sometimes it's leaving the environment that makes me feel that way. Actually to be honest it's mostly that. I no longer have to put up with stressors I don't have to. I leave. I find that makes my life a lot easier and my self confidence a lot higher.