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04-22-2010, 08:45 AM
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Ok I will write in detail
 Romance Lots and lots of affection Sweet emails, texts Laughter Being supportive Being loyal Being patient with me Being understanding Be sensitive to my needs and others needs |
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04-22-2010, 09:16 AM
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For me to FEEL loved and secure...
Show me you love me by being mindful of me... By listening when I say something is important to me... by being consistancy in your actions... For me to FEEL loved.. I need to trust that I can count on you... If I don't then I start building walls, taking back my trust, my belief in you... I won't rely on you, won't expect anything... and for me.. that's the beginning of the end... For me... Romance is wonderful, but it's not what makes me KNOW that I am loved...
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04-22-2010, 07:19 PM
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except I enjoy Romance
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04-22-2010, 07:50 PM
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I had a terribly cynical post composed in my head, but I think I will go with this instead....
Acceptance. There are just certain things I need accepted from the get-go and I feel loved and things go smoothly. They are, in no order of importance... - Accept the fact that I am a nice guy. I am not going to treat you poorly. It's just not in me. If you are the kind of girl who is attracted to jerks, do us both a favor and move along. - Accept that between early April and late October my attention is deeply divided between baseball and everything else in the universe. - Accept that I am not that much a "do it yourself" guy anymore. I'm more a "hire someone and give me the bill" kind of guy. This comes with age. - Accept that I have old-fashioned manners and they are automatic. - Accept that I have worked hard to communicate with women in an open, honest and direct fashion. If you can't take the heat, don't step foot in my furnace room, doll. - Accept that I work a lot. I mean, a lot. And if it's an election year, a nice vacation awaits for you the day after the first Tuesday in November. My treat. - Accept that I like to give gifts, buy flowers and don't like any fuss whatsoever on my birthday. - Accept that I sometimes like to wear my green sweatshirt with more holes than a sponge when I am lounging on the couch reading a sports magazine. - Accept that I like time alone and I'm perfectly fine when you go out with the girls. - Accept the fact that stress makes me horny and I have a very stressful job lately. - Accept the fact, too, that if I come home from work and find you in one of my dress shirts and nothing else, it is game on. I'm sure there's more...but I'm finding it to easy to drift to cynical lately. We all deserve love. And if everyone clearly stated their needs from the start, I think there'd be a whole hell of a lot less heartbreak. Jake |
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04-22-2010, 09:24 PM
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I feel loved when
I can be exactly as I am and that's not a problem.
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04-22-2010, 11:44 PM
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04-23-2010, 06:27 AM
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Whew great answers so far! Thanks everyone. Great posts.
I know that for me I really suck at verbalizing what it is that I need. I like people to guess, which of course is a complete set up. One of the things that this thread has proven to me (again) is that we are all very different when it comes to love. To ask or explain what we need makes me feel weak and puts me in a vulnerable position of needing anything. The alternative is to let them fumble along while I build resentment. I know this is nuts, hence the thread. lol. I like to say all kinds of things that I don't need - that when I'm saying it - I believe. Which depends, I've discovered, on my proximity to a relationship . Things that I think in theory, like I don't like romance, start to matter more when it's suddenly not there....and then I'm like "HEY! Where's my romance?" lol. Maybe I'm less romantic and more greedy? Perhaps. When you come from a dysfunctional place where what you needed never mattered - I think that it is very, very hard to (as an adult) believe that anyone could or even want to meet the needs that you have. Also, I've found that some needs are in direct conflict with other needs. To add confusion to an already confused situation. For instance, I need attention but call me all day and I'll get pissed. |
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Also someone who values relationships as I do. Someone who doesn't move from relationship to relationship.
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06-28-2011, 03:53 PM
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