What do YOU need to feel loved?

Apocalipstic · 04-22-2010, 09:40 AM

Trust and respect.

I am not very romantic.

PearlsNLace · 04-22-2010, 10:29 AM

Affirmations really help. Praise/acknowledgement. Attention. I dont think I need bucket loads, but yes, daily attention I do find essential. Im like a plant, I need lots of light and water.

Random · 04-22-2010, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by PearlsNLace

Affirmations really help. Praise/acknowledgement. Attention. I dont think I need bucket loads, but yes, daily attention I do find essential. Im like a plant, I need lots of light and water.

Wow.. this is interesting...

I hadn't thought of people as plants... but we are like them arn't we?

You just have to have the right gardener...

BullDog · 04-22-2010, 10:47 AM

Respect and a true commitment to work through the tough as well as easy times.

SuperFemme · 04-22-2010, 11:30 AM

Love of self. Without that I tend to be numb to any other kind of love.

Ms. Meander · 04-22-2010, 11:34 AM

Hugs are helpful

Softhearted · 04-22-2010, 11:45 AM

To feel loved and secure I simply need someone who believes in me and who can give me moral support in what I'm doing career-wise.... (yup, I once had a girlfriend who basically denigrated almost everything I did or choose to do).

I need someone who can hold me and show me empathy if things doesn't work out the way I planned... (Don't want to hear the proverbial "I told you so" or "What were you thinking?").

Also, in my own opinion, mutual trust and mutual respect are 2 fundamental keys to a good relationship.

Oh, and some flowers once in a while

! ( I love to give them too! )

MrSunshine · 04-22-2010, 11:49 AM

the ability to communicate like an adult.

honesty, integrity, open to other ideas besides their own.

And for shit sakes don't try to run the fuck!

MsDemeanor · 04-22-2010, 02:33 PM

Puppy kisses.

(In my book, all dogs are puppies. Once a puppy, always a puppy.)

Ldyluck88 · 04-22-2010, 02:38 PM

I feel in order to be loved one has to love oneself. The more I love myself, the more I can love someone else. Expectations? Well, I think the more I love being in the company of someone who can be themselves, by sharing laughter, conversation, heartaches, etc., the more I feel I have found my "best friend" and this is a feeling no one can express in mere words. In essence, they show their love, and in return, I show them love back.

MrSunshine · 04-22-2010, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by June

Oh. I was waiting for an opportunity to post another one of June's unpopular (and personal) opinions.

Rule #1 - Femmes Always Run The Fuck. Even when they're taking it from behind.

Judging from comments received I would have to say it's not such an unpopular opinion. But we would like to believe we are in charge of something other than holding your purses while you try on a new pair of shoes.

Queerasfck · 04-22-2010, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by June

Oh. I was waiting for an opportunity to post another one of June's unpopular (and personal) opinions.

Rule #1 - Femmes Always Run The Fuck. Even when they're taking it from behind.

O June, June, June. I'll be first in line to buy your book of rules! I love a good laugh.

Lillie · 04-22-2010, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by June

Oh. I was waiting for an opportunity to post another one of June's unpopular (and personal) opinions.

Rule #1 - Femmes Always Run The Fuck. Even when they're taking it from behind.

I LOL each and every time I see this posted..something so simple as "run the fuck" gets me each time ..ahahaha..

ok anyyyyyyyway lol..

I have no one way to feel love..I think each person loves differently..and each person recieves love differently..I remember the first time my first (ex) told me she loved me..she kept staring at me over dinner..and of course I asked what? and she said I need to show you..so she took my hand and traced the words I love you on it..it was a moment I know I will never forget..because without words she showed me..it was what our relationship was all about..showing!..it was in the "doing' of something not the "saying" of it..

Now fast forward 20+ years and its in all ways..I love to be romanced..I love to have notes left in places like my lunch box or car door..just saying..hello beautiful..it takes my breath for that moment..that is very powerful for me..I love to hear it as well..but..to me loving a partner must encompass what the word Partner truely means to you..it means everything to me..we share everything..im your rock you are mine..I do not feel the need to be reassured 24/7 of your love for me..but when we are together It will be known, felt..in a touch a certain look..the tone of voice in the conversation we are having. Im a queen and treat hym like a king..and I reap the rewards from that..it is unspoken yet it is the loudest I have ever heard it!..

Lillie

Mister Bent · 04-22-2010, 07:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by June

Oh. I was waiting for an opportunity to post another one of June's unpopular (and personal) opinions.

Rule #1 - Femmes Always Run The Fuck. Even when they're taking it from behind.

It scares me when I agree with you.

This may or may not be one of those times.

redrose · 04-25-2010, 01:43 AM

what do i need to feel loved?

a lot ...

~ respect me all the time whatever the situation (whether i am wrong or right, whether i've been bad or good)
~ you're focus should be on me
~ you must give me your 100% attention
~ you must have patience
~ you must have perseverance
~ you must win me over and over and over
~ you must be over protective of me
~ you must be intelligent so i can learn from you
~ you must do anything in your power to keep me
~ you must be my kind of butch,,, intense and using her imagination,,,
(i don't go for cocks in any form whether the real ones or the plastic ones, i don't go for dildo, or any other toys)
~ i just want my BUTCH

it is really hard to love someone like me, i am the freakin' jealous type, i am lazy, i don't know how to cook, i say whatever i want and i don't care if you would be hurt or not,,,
and because my family and friends know that it is really hard to love someone like me, i am very sure that they will love you back for loving me...

my butch really loved me and i love the way she loved me,,,
and i know she feel that i love her more because i can still hear her last words,,
"THANK YOU FOR LOVING ME"

Duchess · 10-27-2010, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by June

Oh. I was waiting for an opportunity to post another one of June's unpopular (and personal) opinions.

Rule #1 - Femmes Always Run The Fuck. Even when they're taking it from behind.

High five to you my beautiful Femme sis!!!

Jesse · 10-27-2010, 03:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by June

Oh. I was waiting for an opportunity to post another one of June's unpopular (and personal) opinions.

Rule #1 - Femmes Always Run The Fuck. Even when they're taking it from behind.

RockOn · 10-27-2010, 05:53 PM

I need to be treated with kindness, respect, open-ness and honesty on a continuum. And if she laughs at my corny jokes a lot of the time, then that is great too.

Amber2010 · 06-21-2011, 05:11 PM

We are not together in the way most are... For me to feel love is in the voice... It makes my heart race and I can't help but smile and sometimes even giggle...
It is in the texts.. When I hear my phone go off at work or anywhere I look down and again my heart is racing and I am excited before I even read what hy says ....
It is in the actions... I can have bad days and still feel loved... the support the caring ... the quick words of " I love you so so much" it melts me right there... I wake up and am thinking of hym I go to sleep and the same...
To me that is real love... More then I have ever had... I am respected... cared about... supported.. and most of all I have it all unconditionally .. I love you Dallas so much!

Nattih · 08-18-2016, 02:25 PM

To feel sexy (even when I'm not), to feel attended to, and to feel valuable.

04-22-2010, 10:47 AM	#4
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04-22-2010, 11:34 AM	#6
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04-22-2010, 02:33 PM	#9
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04-25-2010, 01:43 AM	#15
redrose Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: at peace Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Philippines Posts: 291 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 62 Thanked 252 Times in 123 Posts Rep Power: 276024	what do i need to feel loved? a lot ... ~ respect me all the time whatever the situation (whether i am wrong or right, whether i've been bad or good) ~ you're focus should be on me ~ you must give me your 100% attention ~ you must have patience ~ you must have perseverance ~ you must win me over and over and over ~ you must be over protective of me ~ you must be intelligent so i can learn from you ~ you must do anything in your power to keep me ~ you must be my kind of butch,,, intense and using her imagination,,, (i don't go for cocks in any form whether the real ones or the plastic ones, i don't go for dildo, or any other toys) ~ i just want my BUTCH it is really hard to love someone like me, i am the freakin' jealous type, i am lazy, i don't know how to cook, i say whatever i want and i don't care if you would be hurt or not,,, and because my family and friends know that it is really hard to love someone like me, i am very sure that they will love you back for loving me... my butch really loved me and i love the way she loved me,,, and i know she feel that i love her more because i can still hear her last words,, "THANK YOU FOR LOVING ME" __________________ ... death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal ... http://youtu.be/N0SgLJEtaok

10-27-2010, 05:53 PM	#18
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04-22-2010, 09:40 AM	#1
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Trust and respect. I am not very romantic. __________________

04-22-2010, 10:29 AM	#2
PearlsNLace Member How Do You Identify?: queer Preferred Pronoun?: They/Them & her/she Relationship Status: Lucky, very lucky Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portlandia, Oregon Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 875 Thanked 1,284 Times in 315 Posts Rep Power: 6505517	Affirmations really help. Praise/acknowledgement. Attention. I dont think I need bucket loads, but yes, daily attention I do find essential. Im like a plant, I need lots of light and water.

04-22-2010, 11:30 AM	#5
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,108 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	Love of self. Without that I tend to be numb to any other kind of love.

04-22-2010, 11:45 AM	#7
Softhearted Member How Do You Identify?: --- Preferred Pronoun?: ---- Relationship Status: --- Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: --- Posts: 298 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 454 Thanked 285 Times in 109 Posts Rep Power: 1556234	To feel loved and secure I simply need someone who believes in me and who can give me moral support in what I'm doing career-wise.... (yup, I once had a girlfriend who basically denigrated almost everything I did or choose to do). I need someone who can hold me and show me empathy if things doesn't work out the way I planned... (Don't want to hear the proverbial "I told you so" or "What were you thinking?"). Also, in my own opinion, mutual trust and mutual respect are 2 fundamental keys to a good relationship. Oh, and some flowers once in a while ! ( I love to give them too! )

04-22-2010, 11:49 AM	#8
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,891 Times in 1,155 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	the ability to communicate like an adult. honesty, integrity, open to other ideas besides their own. And for shit sakes don't try to run the fuck!

04-22-2010, 02:38 PM	#10
Ldyluck88 Member How Do You Identify?: Me Relationship Status: not here Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: somewhere Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 161 Thanked 117 Times in 67 Posts Rep Power: 23	I feel in order to be loved one has to love oneself. The more I love myself, the more I can love someone else. Expectations? Well, I think the more I love being in the company of someone who can be themselves, by sharing laughter, conversation, heartaches, etc., the more I feel I have found my "best friend" and this is a feeling no one can express in mere words. In essence, they show their love, and in return, I show them love back.

06-21-2011, 05:11 PM	#19
Amber2010 Member How Do You Identify?: Happy, Crazy, Bubbly, Funny, Strong, Outgoing, Friendly Preferred Pronoun?: Femme Relationship Status: Complicated Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 920 Thanked 594 Times in 154 Posts Rep Power: 3787185	To feel loved We are not together in the way most are... For me to feel love is in the voice... It makes my heart race and I can't help but smile and sometimes even giggle... It is in the texts.. When I hear my phone go off at work or anywhere I look down and again my heart is racing and I am excited before I even read what hy says .... It is in the actions... I can have bad days and still feel loved... the support the caring ... the quick words of " I love you so so much" it melts me right there... I wake up and am thinking of hym I go to sleep and the same... To me that is real love... More then I have ever had... I am respected... cared about... supported.. and most of all I have it all unconditionally .. I love you Dallas so much!

08-18-2016, 02:25 PM	#20
Nattih Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2010 Location: always on a plane Posts: 174 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 285 Thanked 633 Times in 164 Posts Rep Power: 13046651	To feel sexy (even when I'm not), to feel attended to, and to feel valuable.