Relationships - What things do you want & need?

RockOn · 09-29-2014, 08:37 PM

Hey SleepyButch, I'll watch scary movies with you ... but we both already know to skip the hand-holding and cuddling with each other parts. LOL!

fever · 09-29-2014, 11:45 PM

Say fellas, I will go to scary movies with you both, sit between you, but I can't guarantee that one or both won't have nail marks on your legs. lol I love scary movies, but hide, scream, and grab.

Rockinonahigh · 09-30-2014, 01:09 AM

Looks like we have a group of scary movies buffs hear,I have well over 100 scary movies,some are on tape and some on disk.I love the old grade B ones from when I was a kid,cheesy as all heck but fun to watch....we should have a movie night.

SleepyButch · 09-30-2014, 05:51 AM

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Originally Posted by fever

Say fellas, I will go to scary movies with you both, sit between you, but I can't guarantee that one or both won't have nail marks on your legs. lol I love scary movies, but hide, scream, and grab.

I've been grabbed, pinched, punched, and slapped a few times at scary movies. It kind of comes with the territory. lol

Sweet Bliss · 09-30-2014, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by SleepyButch

I've been grabbed, pinched, punched, and slapped a few times at scary movies. It kind of comes with the territory. lol

Dang SB... I'm too busy screaming and covering my eyes to hit or grab... for classic B movies I'm changing the dialogue and laughing ... I vote we all go over to Rockin's place... he's a chef!!!! I have a collection of 200 horror and sci fi. I'll bring it too.

I make a mean nacho platter.

MysticOceansFL · 09-30-2014, 04:30 PM

Things in a relationship I would want.
1. Loyalty
2. Honest
3. Love as equal to mine
4. Openness
5. Communication always even when your angry
6. Common goals
7. Some interests that match
8. Compassion to yourself and others
That's about it cause all these things when you do them online is great but if you can't do them off line what makes you think I would want you? So make sure you can be this way on and off line also! * Tips my hat *

JDeere · 09-30-2014, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by MysticOceansFL

Things in a relationship I would want.
1. Loyalty
2. Honest
3. Love as equal to mine
4. Openness
5. Communication always even when your angry
6. Common goals
7. Some interests that match
8. Compassion to yourself and others
That's about it cause all these things when you do them online is great but if you can't do them off line what makes you think I would want you? So make sure you can be this way on and off line also! * Tips my hat *

Excellent list!

Femmadian · 09-30-2014, 07:25 PM

For me personally, some of the things I need would be:

Someone who is intellectually curious, especially a full-on nerd. So sexy.
Lots of physical affection (both sexualized and non-sexualized). Let's touch base throughout the day, acknowledge each other's presence, engage in little pats and rubs and taps and shoulder kisses "just because." It makes me feel loved and all warm and mushy inside.
To feel like a priority in their life (as appropriate). Obviously all relationships have different levels and different standards of what's appropriate given its stage, but I think you should always feel like the person you're with is with you because they're interested in you specifically and see that they make a point to make room for you in their life. My presence in your life should not feel incidental or casual and I should not feel like I'm just filling a slot.
An animal lover. Few things cuter than watching a butch fawn over a furry four-legger. I'm outnumbered by the furballs in my home and I like it that way.
Someone who's open minded, willing to really listen to other people's opinions, and open to having their own changed.
Someone who respects my time as much as I respect theirs. This can include making plans ahead of time and sticking to them, not expecting the other person to automatically drop everything to be with you, making sure the phone's off and away, ensuring that the time spent together is quality time, making a point to be together one-on-one in a non-sexual context (ie - the only time you're not accompanied by their friends or family is when you're in bed together), etc.
Strong libido. I have one. So should you*. I've dated a string of otherwise very nice people who had average to low libidos recently and I'm done with that. I want to make up for lost time!
No scary movies. Sorry, Sleepy et al. Can't do it. You'll only regret it later at 3 am when I'm elbowing you in the ribs or maniacally clawing at you in my sleep with my horror movie-induced nightmares.
Chocolate.

* - With the obvious caveat that this only applies to people I'd be in a committed relationship with
and is in no way a slight against people with differing levels of sexual desire, activity, or asexuals. Obviously. :-)

09-30-2014, 04:30 PM	#6
MysticOceansFL Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Preferred Pronoun?: People call me by my nic name. Relationship Status: Not Single, Not Desperate. Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 3,833 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,645 Thanked 4,033 Times in 1,720 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Things in a relationship I would want. 1. Loyalty 2. Honest 3. Love as equal to mine 4. Openness 5. Communication always even when your angry 6. Common goals 7. Some interests that match 8. Compassion to yourself and others That's about it cause all these things when you do them online is great but if you can't do them off line what makes you think I would want you? So make sure you can be this way on and off line also! * Tips my hat * __________________ Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. It is said, " Some lives are linked across time..... Connected by an ancient calling that echoes through the ages "......

09-30-2014, 07:25 PM	#8
Femmadian Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Apr 2014 Location: Isla Nublar Posts: 385 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,296 Thanked 2,400 Times in 362 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	For me personally, some of the things I need would be: Someone who is intellectually curious, especially a full-on nerd. So sexy. Lots of physical affection (both sexualized and non-sexualized). Let's touch base throughout the day, acknowledge each other's presence, engage in little pats and rubs and taps and shoulder kisses "just because." It makes me feel loved and all warm and mushy inside. To feel like a priority in their life (as appropriate). Obviously all relationships have different levels and different standards of what's appropriate given its stage, but I think you should always feel like the person you're with is with you because they're interested in you specifically and see that they make a point to make room for you in their life. My presence in your life should not feel incidental or casual and I should not feel like I'm just filling a slot. An animal lover. Few things cuter than watching a butch fawn over a furry four-legger. I'm outnumbered by the furballs in my home and I like it that way. Someone who's open minded, willing to really listen to other people's opinions, and open to having their own changed. Someone who respects my time as much as I respect theirs. This can include making plans ahead of time and sticking to them, not expecting the other person to automatically drop everything to be with you, making sure the phone's off and away, ensuring that the time spent together is quality time, making a point to be together one-on-one in a non-sexual context (ie - the only time you're not accompanied by their friends or family is when you're in bed together), etc. Strong libido. I have one. So should you. I've dated a string of otherwise very nice people who had average to low libidos recently and I'm done with that. I want to make up for lost time! No scary movies. Sorry, Sleepy et al. Can't do it. You'll only regret it later at 3 am when I'm elbowing you in the ribs or maniacally clawing at you in my sleep with my horror movie-induced nightmares. Chocolate. - With the obvious caveat that this only applies to people I'd be in a committed relationship with and is in no way a slight against people with differing levels of sexual desire, activity, or asexuals. Obviously. :-) __________________

09-29-2014, 08:37 PM	#1
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,304 Times in 2,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Hey SleepyButch, I'll watch scary movies with you ... but we both already know to skip the hand-holding and cuddling with each other parts. LOL!

09-29-2014, 11:45 PM	#2
fever Member How Do You Identify?: stonefemme Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near Vancouver, B.C. Canada Posts: 592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 1,279 Times in 357 Posts Rep Power: 17783436	Say fellas, I will go to scary movies with you both, sit between you, but I can't guarantee that one or both won't have nail marks on your legs. lol I love scary movies, but hide, scream, and grab.

09-30-2014, 01:09 AM	#3
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Looks like we have a group of scary movies buffs hear,I have well over 100 scary movies,some are on tape and some on disk.I love the old grade B ones from when I was a kid,cheesy as all heck but fun to watch....we should have a movie night.